Another Rolex Tale from the Vault of Human Nature

[BristolCavendish]

First and foremost, a Merry Christmas (or in the PC universe, 'Holiday Greetings' to all). A young, newly engaged couple joined our family for Christmas brunch and believe it or not, the subject of Rolexes somehow managed to enter into the discussion/picture. As per the wife-to-be, she would like her future husband to wear a wedding band while he is adamantly against it (as some men prefer not to wear rings of any kind). He argued that a wedding band is nothing more than a 'brand' to ensure that other curious (or interested) women are totally aware of his marital status. She on the other hand, defended the wedding band as a timeless symbol of their enduring love and commitment (how idealistic). While a mutual agreement has yet to be established, he has proposed that she buy him a new Rolex in lieu of a traditional wedding band (nothing overtly fancy, maybe something along the lines of an Airking or SS Datejust with an inscription of her devotion). The wife-to-be countered that Rolexes are oftentimes 'bimbo magnets' and that she would have nothing to do with this suggestion.

Curious. Is she being a bit too insecure and is this male wedding band mandate somewhat unreasonable? Personally, I do not wear a wedding band and as long as I come home at night, no problems have ever arisen. On the other hand, the groom-to-be was a notorious 'player' in his unattached days and I can sort of see her point. Wedding bands can be easily removed but they can also be easily lost or misplaced and in some instances (such as my own), they can pose an injury threat/possibility based upon one's occupation.

Not sure how this one is going to play out. The wedding is scheduled for the upcoming spring and the jeweler where they are buying her wedding ring also happens to be an AD.

Incidentally, the guy who plays 1st base on our rec-league softball team had a similar/related experience. His fiancé bought him a TT Datejust as an engagement gift and when the wedding plans fell apart, he kept the watch while she retained possession of the diamond engagement ring. As to who came out ahead, you be the judge.

[Alexwwjd]

Well, they start looking like a married couple already. Hope he gets the Rolex.


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[AK797]

The insecure leading the suspicious, good luck to them.

[cop414]

Originally Posted by AK797

The insecure leading the suspicious, good luck to them.

Well said Neil.

[Alcan]

Originally Posted by AK797

The insecure leading the suspicious, good luck to them.

Originally Posted by cop414

Well said Neil.

Yep. Sounds like this Groom isn't 100% committed yet. A wristwatch should be at the bottom of their current list of concerns.

[jmiicustomz]

Originally Posted by AK797

The insecure leading the suspicious, good luck to them.

I will 3rd this post.

To know the future is to be trapped by it

[GB-man]

I actually was the guy who refused to wear a ring. I have been wearing an SS one for a few months and it's not as bad as I thought. I would never commit to one watch for eternity

[srtown]

I wear a silicone band at work and while playing sports and a platinum/gold band when going out. I honestly wear the silicone bands more than my actual wedding ring. 3 for $5 on eBay.

[520Matt]

maybe he can agree to wear the ring if he also gets a Rolex I wear my ring golfing and have zero issues

[swils8610]

My dad and mom divorced when I was 5. He was married to my mother for 20 years and wore a wedding band. He's been married my step mother for 37 years now and has never worn a wedding band. Go figure! I do wear one and it doesn't bother me at all. I guess it mostly tradition.


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[Etschell]

Sounds like they are headed for divorce. Potential inventory for me.

[HeartRolex]

In her eyes the ring symbolizes that his "player" days are truly over and that he is proud of his commitment to her, while any reluctance says he is somewhat ashamed or wants to still appear "available". This may sound odd to some here but I'd bet my life she feels that way.

I think she should trade in her diamond for her own Rolex and buy one for him, then if wedding plans go sideways, both keep their Rolexes (and she'll have something easier to flip than a diamond).

[Abdullah71601]

I don't wear any jewelry, including a wedding band. The missus has never attached anything to me wearing a band, other than the jewelry connotation, though hers is a symbol that she's "taken".

They need to sort out the actual reason for not wearing the band. If the prospective groom never wears any jewelry, I would respect that and not try to force a band on him. If it's the "player" not wanting to display a ring, I think the engagement is off.

[Knappo 1307]

Sounds like two immature, and insecure people. Good luck with that....

[keschete]

My husband has a wedding band that he did not wear for the first half of our marriage. He used a brake lathe so it was dangerous. It never bothered me. No he never takes it off. It's a symbol and it depends on their trust in one another.

[aczaja10]

520matt hit the nail on the head. If she wants him to wear a ring, just do it. Make her happy. I hated wearing a ring, but I got used to it. I still take mine off at night, but my wife has been happy that I wear it whenever I leave the house. Marriage is about compromise. Buy and wear the ring, but get him a proper Rolex to go with the ring. Problem solved. Happy wife, happy life. Cheers to all.

[Rock]

Just as a marriage certificate doesn't guarantee a long or happy relationship, nor does a gold ring. It's all about attitude. I think these guys need to have a very long engagement. "Players" are that way by nature and change of habits doesn't come easy.

[andromeda160]

Idk, my watches were for me, and my girlfriends jewelry was for me too. She never really understood the allure of designer handbags or diamonds and gold. She liked tattoos to express personality and taste where as I found a watch, necklace, bracelet, or rings that suited my taste. I bought my ex.plenty of jewelry but she would only wear it on special occasions and even then I'd usually pull it out for her. Even her louis vuitton was only carried on occasion. It really did bother me for a long time. I bought it for her afterall, took me a while to realize that she just didn't care for the stuff. And while she appreciated it, it wasn't the way she expressed herself.


Needless to say the relationship didn't last but 4 1/2yrs before seperating and if something that petty would be a concern at the beginning of the relationship, I can only imagine the other problems that will arise soon after marriage.

[RW16610]

I wish them the best of luck for the future.

[T. Ferguson]

She should get him the watch but put the engraving advertising their marriage on the crystal instead of the case back.

Everyone wins!

[locutus49]

I don't wear a wedding ring. Been married 35 years. I told the wife that wedding rings actually attract some women on the make, who figure they can have a no-strings one night stand with a married man, whereas a single man could result in complications. She agreed.

[BristolCavendish]

Originally Posted by locutus49

I don't wear a wedding ring. Been married 35 years. I told the wife that wedding rings actually attract some women on the make, who figure they can have a no-strings one night stand with a married man, whereas a single man could result in complications. She agreed.

That's a good point. *just thinking* An unreformed 'player' who is married and wearing a Rolex would probably be an easy (or attainable) mark for an enterprising woman with malicious thoughts/intents of blackmail or extortion. So in a way, a man's wedding band can also be a potential invitation to trouble given a certain lack of character or faithfulness on his part. Imagining that some devious women would also view a man wearing one as a 'good catch' from the standpoint that some other woman has already snagged him.

So this concept leads to another absurdity. That is, some single guy sporting a wedding band as a 'lure' to attract these kinds of calculating women for a plausible one-night stand. As the saying goes, like attracts like.

[Abdullah71601]

Originally Posted by locutus49

I don't wear a wedding ring. Been married 35 years. I told the wife that wedding rings actually attract some women on the make, who figure they can have a no-strings one night stand with a married man, whereas a single man could result in complications. She agreed.

Originally Posted by BristolCavendish

That's a good point. *just thinking* An unreformed 'player' who is married and wearing a Rolex would probably be an easy (or attainable) mark for an enterprising woman with malicious thoughts/intents of blackmail or extortion. So in a way, a man's wedding band can also be a potential invitation to trouble given a certain lack of character or faithfulness on his part. Imagining that some devious women would also view a man wearing one as a 'good catch' from the standpoint that some other woman has already snagged him.

So this concept leads to another absurdity. That is, some single guy sporting a wedding band as a 'lure' to attract these kinds of calculating women for a plausible one-night stand. As the saying goes, like attracts like.

I think both y'all are stretching the limits of credulity.

[East Bay Rider]

Originally Posted by BristolCavendish

That's a good point. *just thinking* An unreformed 'player' who is married...

... shouldn't be if he's still 'unreformed'.

Seriously this is weird.

[BristolCavendish]

Originally Posted by East Bay Rider

... shouldn't be if he's still 'unreformed'.
Seriously this is weird.

It isn't all that weird when you take into consideration that some marital unions are based on pre-conceived notions and aspirations (i.e. marriages of convenience which can equate to financial stability, raising one's social status/connections, geo-political alliances etc.). There are even more stories and incidents of long-married individuals seeking out new trysts while their spouses lay dying (or getting older). This can happen in both the commoner and royalty worlds, especially in the case of 'arranged marriages'.

Someone I once worked with opined that in certain/many instances, "a woman will marry (or consider) the best provider she can stomach". While this doesn't say a whole lot about those lofty and idealistic wedding vows, it's all part of the real world.

[Abdullah71601]

Originally Posted by East Bay Rider

... shouldn't be if he's still 'unreformed'.

Seriously this is weird.

Originally Posted by BristolCavendish

It isn't all that weird when you take into consideration that some marital unions are based on pre-conceived notions and aspirations (i.e. marriages of convenience which can equate to financial stability, raising one's social status/connections, geo-political alliances etc.). There are even more stories and incidents of long-married individuals seeking out new trysts while their spouses lay dying (or getting older). This can happen in both the commoner and royalty worlds, especially in the case of 'arranged marriages'.

Someone I once worked with opined that in certain/many instances, "a woman will marry (or consider) the best provider she can stomach". While this doesn't say a whole lot about those lofty and idealistic wedding vows, it's all part of the real world.

I agree with Bill, it's weird. Attempting to rationalize it as normal using dysfunctional contexts doesn't resolve the underlying problems with the original scenario. And, IMO this post pushes the original weird factor a couple more steps into the garbage heap.

[East Bay Rider]

The wedding ring took some getting used to but I say man up and wear it with pride, unless it's dangerous to do so for work. He should be proud to wear it. It's an accomplishment not a saddle.
As far as being a chick magnet, well as long as a man has free will to say "No, I'm married" I don't see it as a problem.

[DeeTee]

So he EXPECTS her to buy him a Rolex?
I take pride being able to give the best to my woman, who means the world to me.
What a loser.

[SearChart]

Hmm that's odd... I think I'd be very proud to wear a wedding ring.

[badass09]

forget the wedding bands or the rolex watch.. this couple ought to sit down and have a long hard heart to heart chat about whether both of them are ready for the commitment..

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