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elgatonegro · 23 March 2009, 08:39 PM

Is there truth about first love never dies?

Is it because he's/she's the 1st person to hurt you?

What can you say about this guys/gals?

Jimbits76 · 23 March 2009, 09:12 PM

I can't answer that effectively due to strange circumstances.

My first love hurt like hell. I was dumb enough to go back to her almost 10 years later, more out of a combination of her emotional circumstances, unfinished business and general comfort of the thought that I knew who her background/family etc.

It was an absolute nightmare. We were together about two years and we tore each other up, always fighting and rowing. We split up, I met my future wife and that was that.

We have never speaken since, very, very rarely even seeing each other by accident in the street etc.

I might sometimes think about her and wonder if she's okay or well but I'm not that bothered.

I'm with somebody now who I care about 100x more than I did for my first (and last) girlfriend.

J

jdc · 23 March 2009, 09:19 PM

Love is a great and wonderful experience, been there many times since first love, all good, although one ended in divorce which was the right thing for both of us. Since meeting Rosemary 22 years ago though have not looked back.
No doubt that a meeting an old flame brings a jump to the heart, but I never like to live in past and and more than happy with my choices in life.

2careless · 23 March 2009, 09:33 PM

Sometimes I do wonder how my first gf would be after all these years... That's a thought for like 5 seconds

Mosco · 23 March 2009, 10:37 PM

I have had many 'first love' situations - or so I thought. After a while, I realized that it was lust, not love. Sometimes it would drag on for couple years, but then inevitably end, either disastrously, or somewhat amicably. Now I am realizing that Erin, my wife, is indeed my first true love, and here we are. Oddly, it started exactly the same as most other ones (with me wanting to 'tap that'

) and then grew, rapidly at that. Hopefully I won't screw it up and we will stay together - if not, I will provide better insight into your question.

Taffi Abernathy · 23 March 2009, 11:30 PM

Not necessarily. I think this is a highly individualized experience. To begin with, people tend to be very young (and often immature) when they encounter their first love. Two people can simply grow apart, mutually and painlessly. Another plausible explanation is that one may have initiated the break-up, and experienced relief as opposed to pain when the relationship terminated. Still another possibility is that people may have felt hurt at that time of the break-up, but were able to move past the pain. Time, meeting another desirable person, processing residual feelings and moving on, all contribute to mitigating the hurt of broken attachments.

Nonetheless, for some their first relationship is particularly salient because it is novel, a first experience with "romantic love." Nothing is unhealthy about feeling positively about a former love. The real questions becomes: Do you feel "stuck?" By this I mean ruminating about a person who has been long gone, and with whom you have had no contact for a significant amount of time? Do you feel that you retain such deep feelings for this person that you are prevented from moving on to a new relationship? If so, professional help may be warranted. If you wish to read some potentially helpful books, I recommend these two - "A New Guide to Rational Living" by Albert Ellis and "How to Fall Out of Love" by Debora Phillips. Best Wishes.

Lion · 23 March 2009, 11:25 PM

I have every so often thought about my first love from high school years but then I remember the break up. My curiosity does make me wonder what she looks like today, how many children she has and whether she has found happiness. If we were both divorced and met up again would I give it another chance, No!!!

Lisa · 23 March 2009, 11:54 PM

Wasn't true for me. I had about 3 serious relationships before marrying, and not one of the guys do I still care or think much about.

vapalux · 24 March 2009, 12:27 AM

Yep. Hurt like heck. Against all odds by Phil Collins was in the charts at the time which didn't help!

Moved on quickly and found another the same!

This was getting to be hard work and then I found my partner of 21 years and counting and she is absolutely wonderful!

I think the world of her!

Si

ratae1950 · 24 March 2009, 03:21 AM

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Originally Posted by elgatonegro

Is there truth about first love never dies?

Is it because he's/she's the 1st person to hurt you?

What can you say about this guys/gals?

I sometimes think of my first real intimate relationship which I ended [in Paris

]. I still feel guilt about hurting that person. I left her for someone else with whom I endured a miserable marriage- my kharma. However, that marriage resulted in us having three great children. [the 3 times we had sex

]-my kharma. I have to admit to every year or so Googling my 'young' love who is a successful classical musician in Italy and not so young any more. I am now very happily remarried to another musical person.........

Carolina · 24 March 2009, 03:28 AM

I personally don't think it is true, just as I don't think there is only one person for each of us.

jdc · 24 March 2009, 03:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Carolina

I personally don't think it is true, just as I don't think there is only one person for each of us.

Colin Firth, Craig Daniel Peter Gabriel?

Carolina · 24 March 2009, 03:46 AM

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Originally Posted by jdc

Colin Firth, Craig Daniel Peter Gabriel?

I meant one person at a time, Martin!

jdc · 24 March 2009, 04:23 AM

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Originally Posted by Carolina

I meant one person at a time, Martin!

I am sure they would form an orderly queue

Bebot · 24 March 2009, 04:30 AM

Don't even remember where or when or who my first love was.

Hmmmm.... Now that you asked, trying to think.

Still don't remember.

Carolina · 24 March 2009, 04:32 AM

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Originally Posted by jdc

I am sure they would form an orderly queue

Yes, but then there might be fighting, which is so very uncivilized.

away36 · 3 April 2009, 11:32 AM

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Originally Posted by Carolina

I personally don't think it is true, just as I don't think there is only one person for each of us.

Amen to that Carolina!!!

Trurolexer · 24 March 2009, 03:41 AM

Not work for me, sorry...

Ashley · 24 March 2009, 04:08 AM

I have been very lucky with my first true love. Almost four years later and we get closer each and every day!

Also, I agree with an earlier post, what I thought might be love earlier in my life was simply excitement for me. None of them worked out or lasted long, and good riddance! To be cheeeeesy, I thought I knew what love was until I actually fell in love!

erwin · 24 March 2009, 04:36 AM

Yes, she is still in my heart after so many others and all these years!

Welshwatchman · 24 March 2009, 06:11 AM

I married mine. We were both very young getting married and doing the house/family bit.

redshirt1957 · 24 March 2009, 07:22 AM

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Originally Posted by Welshwatchman

I married mine. We were both very young getting married and doing the house/family bit.

Now that put a stop to my stupid post.

Carolina · 24 March 2009, 10:46 AM

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Originally Posted by redshirt1957

Now that put a stop to my stupid post.

But your stupid posts always make me smile!

Oscar · 1 April 2009, 05:48 PM

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Originally Posted by redshirt1957

Now that put a stop to my stupid post.

Come on Joe..........at least admit to the whole TRF fraternity that deep down you're a real softie. Bit like a melting snow cone that needs a damn good licking...........

Carolina · 24 March 2009, 10:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Welshwatchman

I married mine. We were both very young getting married and doing the house/family bit.

I just love a happy ending!!

diablojota · 1 April 2009, 04:40 PM

I still care about my first love. And even over time we'd keep in touch and the like. But she got married and her husband won't let her talk to me anymore. Which is too bad since she was always the one I turned to when I needed female advice or a pick-me-up. I wonder how she is doing.

Now when I was an undergrad, I dated this girl who I still haven't really ever gotten over. She was amazing and I was a complete and utter dolt. Worked out for the best that we didn't end up together, it was because that relationship ended that I am who I am now and I think it's a much better me.

Oscar · 1 April 2009, 05:43 PM

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Originally Posted by elgatonegro

Is there truth about first love never dies?

Is it because he's/she's the 1st person to hurt you?

What can you say about this guys/gals?

Just my 2c worth here. I met my first 'true love' when I was 19 years old. 30 years later I am still with her and still love her dearly. My wife has become part of me.

txbikerdude · 3 April 2009, 09:52 AM

ill never forget her.... Melissa.....

MrRetep · 3 April 2009, 09:59 AM

What is Love?

Oh baby, don't hurt me
Don't hurt me no more
Oh, baby don't hurt me
Don't hurt me no more

What is love
Yeah

Oh, I don't know why you're not there
I give you my love, but you don't care
So what is right and what is wrong
Gimme a sign

What is love
Oh baby, don't hurt me
Don't hurt me no more
What is love
Oh baby, don't hurt me
Don't hurt me no more

Whoa whoa whoa, oooh oooh
Whoa whoa whoa, oooh oooh

Oh, I don't know, what can I do
What else can I say, it's up to you
I know we're one, just me and you
I can't go on

What is love
Oh baby, don't hurt me
Don't hurt me no more
What is love
Oh baby, don't hurt me
Don't hurt me no more

Whoa whoa whoa, oooh oooh
Whoa whoa whoa, oooh oooh

What is love, oooh, oooh, oooh
What is love, oooh, oooh, oooh

What is love
Oh baby, don't hurt me
Don't hurt me no more

Don't hurt me
Don't hurt me

I want no other, no other lover
This is your life, our time
When we are together, I need you forever
Is it love

What is love
Oh baby, don't hurt me
Don't hurt me no more
What is love
Oh baby, don't hurt me
Don't hurt me no more (oooh, oooh)

What is love
Oh baby, don't hurt me
Don't hurt me no more
What is love
Oh baby, don't hurt me
Don't hurt me no more (oooh, oooh)

What is love?

Im not in any position to answer this question. im young and foolish

GinGinD · 3 April 2009, 10:23 AM

Never give him a thought. I've been with my husband for 26 years (married 22) and I barely remember anyone else. No need to.

Jeannie

23 March 2009, 08:39 PM	#1
elgatonegro Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Philippines Watch: Omega Speedmaster Posts: 467	Is there truth about first love never dies? Is there truth about first love never dies? Is it because he's/she's the 1st person to hurt you? What can you say about this guys/gals?

23 March 2009, 10:37 PM	#5
Mosco "TRF" Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Real Name: Greg Location: Cincinnati Watch: I like to... Posts: 18,567	I have had many 'first love' situations - or so I thought. After a while, I realized that it was lust, not love. Sometimes it would drag on for couple years, but then inevitably end, either disastrously, or somewhat amicably. Now I am realizing that Erin, my wife, is indeed my first true love, and here we are. Oddly, it started exactly the same as most other ones (with me wanting to 'tap that' ) and then grew, rapidly at that. Hopefully I won't screw it up and we will stay together - if not, I will provide better insight into your question. __________________ Instagram - @CaliberSwiss *“A man who procrastinates in his choosing will inevitably have his choice made for him by circumstance.” - Hunter S. Thompson*

23 March 2009, 11:25 PM	#7
Lion "TRF" Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Real Name: Leo Location: Midwest Watch: GMT-II 16710 PEPSI Posts: 21,461	I have every so often thought about my first love from high school years but then I remember the break up. My curiosity does make me wonder what she looks like today, how many children she has and whether she has found happiness. If we were both divorced and met up again would I give it another chance, No!!! __________________ SS GMT-II 16710 PEPSI(Z-serial#) THE ONLY DIFFERENCE BETWEEN MEN AND BOYS IS THE PRICE OF THE TOYS!!! MontBlanc Meisterstuck Doue Silver Barley MontBlanc Meisterstuck Solitaire Doue Signum Proud Card Carrying Member of the Curmudgeons.....Yikes!!!

24 March 2009, 12:27 AM	#9
vapalux "TRF" Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Real Name: Si Location: united kingdom Posts: 1,655	Yep. Hurt like heck. Against all odds by Phil Collins was in the charts at the time which didn't help! Moved on quickly and found another the same! This was getting to be hard work and then I found my partner of 21 years and counting and she is absolutely wonderful! I think the world of her! Si __________________

24 March 2009, 03:28 AM	#11
Carolina "TRF" Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: North Carolina Watch: it, Bubba! Posts: 6,271	I personally don't think it is true, just as I don't think there is only one person for each of us. __________________ . .Member #5380 .

23 March 2009, 09:12 PM	#2
Jimbits76 "TRF" Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: UK Posts: 9,407	I can't answer that effectively due to strange circumstances. My first love hurt like hell. I was dumb enough to go back to her almost 10 years later, more out of a combination of her emotional circumstances, unfinished business and general comfort of the thought that I knew who her background/family etc. It was an absolute nightmare. We were together about two years and we tore each other up, always fighting and rowing. We split up, I met my future wife and that was that. We have never speaken since, very, very rarely even seeing each other by accident in the street etc. I might sometimes think about her and wonder if she's okay or well but I'm not that bothered. I'm with somebody now who I care about 100x more than I did for my first (and last) girlfriend. J

23 March 2009, 09:19 PM	#3
jdc "TRF" Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Real Name: Martin Location: UK Posts: 7,023	Love is a great and wonderful experience, been there many times since first love, all good, although one ended in divorce which was the right thing for both of us. Since meeting Rosemary 22 years ago though have not looked back. No doubt that a meeting an old flame brings a jump to the heart, but I never like to live in past and and more than happy with my choices in life.

23 March 2009, 09:33 PM	#4
2careless "TRF" Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Melbourne, AU Watch: Pepsi Posts: 4,370	Sometimes I do wonder how my first gf would be after all these years... That's a thought for like 5 seconds

23 March 2009, 11:30 PM	#6
Taffi Abernathy "TRF" Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Real Name: Faith Location: Philadelphia, PA Watch: TT DJ, SS DJ Posts: 4,053	Not necessarily. I think this is a highly individualized experience. To begin with, people tend to be very young (and often immature) when they encounter their first love. Two people can simply grow apart, mutually and painlessly. Another plausible explanation is that one may have initiated the break-up, and experienced relief as opposed to pain when the relationship terminated. Still another possibility is that people may have felt hurt at that time of the break-up, but were able to move past the pain. Time, meeting another desirable person, processing residual feelings and moving on, all contribute to mitigating the hurt of broken attachments. Nonetheless, for some their first relationship is particularly salient because it is novel, a first experience with "romantic love." Nothing is unhealthy about feeling positively about a former love. The real questions becomes: Do you feel "stuck?" By this I mean ruminating about a person who has been long gone, and with whom you have had no contact for a significant amount of time? Do you feel that you retain such deep feelings for this person that you are prevented from moving on to a new relationship? If so, professional help may be warranted. If you wish to read some potentially helpful books, I recommend these two - "A New Guide to Rational Living" by Albert Ellis and "How to Fall Out of Love" by Debora Phillips. Best Wishes.

23 March 2009, 11:54 PM	#8
Lisa "TRF" Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: oklahoma city Posts: 15,741	Wasn't true for me. I had about 3 serious relationships before marrying, and not one of the guys do I still care or think much about.

24 March 2009, 04:30 AM	#15
Bebot "TRF" Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Real Name: Emil Location: Bay Area, CA Watch: U macallit Posts: 2,645	Don't even remember where or when or who my first love was. Hmmmm.... Now that you asked, trying to think. Still don't remember.

24 March 2009, 03:41 AM	#18
Trurolexer Banned Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: USA Watch: 5513MaxiI+PreComex Posts: 18,421	Not work for me, sorry...

24 March 2009, 04:08 AM	#19
Ashley "TRF" Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Real Name: Ashley Location: Calgary Posts: 6,967	I have been very lucky with my first true love. Almost four years later and we get closer each and every day! Also, I agree with an earlier post, what I thought might be love earlier in my life was simply excitement for me. None of them worked out or lasted long, and good riddance! To be cheeeeesy, I thought I knew what love was until I actually fell in love!

24 March 2009, 04:36 AM	#20
erwin - Join Date: Jan 2008 Real Name: Erwin Location: Hollywood, Ca Watch: SD Posts: 1,032	Yes, she is still in my heart after so many others and all these years! __________________ Your watch silently speaks about your character! sd/datejust/tudor/a couple of vintage omegas/tissotMB Meisterstuck Bordeaux pen/MB Noblesse Oblige/Starwalker/MB Classique Fountain pen/MB no 149

24 March 2009, 06:11 AM	#21
Welshwatchman "TRF" Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Real Name: Paul Location: Wales, UK Posts: 14,578	I married mine. We were both very young getting married and doing the house/family bit. __________________ ..33

1 April 2009, 04:40 PM	#26
diablojota "TRF" Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Real Name: Frank Location: Chattanooga, TN Watch: SS Submariner Date Posts: 4,042	I still care about my first love. And even over time we'd keep in touch and the like. But she got married and her husband won't let her talk to me anymore. Which is too bad since she was always the one I turned to when I needed female advice or a pick-me-up. I wonder how she is doing. Now when I was an undergrad, I dated this girl who I still haven't really ever gotten over. She was amazing and I was a complete and utter dolt. Worked out for the best that we didn't end up together, it was because that relationship ended that I am who I am now and I think it's a much better me. Last edited by diablojota; 1 April 2009 at 04:42 PM.. Reason: Spelling error.

3 April 2009, 09:52 AM	#28
txbikerdude Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: texas Posts: 622	ill never forget her.... Melissa.....

3 April 2009, 09:59 AM	#29
MrRetep "TRF" Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Real Name: Pete Location: Orange County, CA Watch: the Lakers Posts: 686	What is Love? Oh baby, don't hurt me Don't hurt me no more Oh, baby don't hurt me Don't hurt me no more What is love Yeah Oh, I don't know why you're not there I give you my love, but you don't care So what is right and what is wrong Gimme a sign What is love Oh baby, don't hurt me Don't hurt me no more What is love Oh baby, don't hurt me Don't hurt me no more Whoa whoa whoa, oooh oooh Whoa whoa whoa, oooh oooh Oh, I don't know, what can I do What else can I say, it's up to you I know we're one, just me and you I can't go on What is love Oh baby, don't hurt me Don't hurt me no more What is love Oh baby, don't hurt me Don't hurt me no more Whoa whoa whoa, oooh oooh Whoa whoa whoa, oooh oooh What is love, oooh, oooh, oooh What is love, oooh, oooh, oooh What is love Oh baby, don't hurt me Don't hurt me no more Don't hurt me Don't hurt me I want no other, no other lover This is your life, our time When we are together, I need you forever Is it love What is love Oh baby, don't hurt me Don't hurt me no more What is love Oh baby, don't hurt me Don't hurt me no more (oooh, oooh) What is love Oh baby, don't hurt me Don't hurt me no more What is love Oh baby, don't hurt me Don't hurt me no more (oooh, oooh) What is love? Im not in any position to answer this question. im young and foolish

3 April 2009, 10:23 AM	#30
GinGinD Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Real Name: Jeannie Location: North Carolina Posts: 533	Never give him a thought. I've been with my husband for 26 years (married 22) and I barely remember anyone else. No need to. Jeannie

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