Dating today, better or worse than when you were a young adult?

[Chewbacca]

Seems worse!!!!


What say you all?!?!?!??!!!???!!!??!!!!!

[Blansky]

It's like fishing.

It depends what you're using for bait. That never changes.

[Chewbacca]

Originally Posted by Blansky

It's like fishing.

It depends what you're using for bait. That never changes.

Money?

[Blansky]

Originally Posted by Chewbacca

Money?

Money, looks, personality....how much hair a person has??

[Chewbacca]

Originally Posted by Blansky

Money, looks, personality....how much hair a person has??

Jeebus.

[Blansky]

Originally Posted by Chewbacca

Jeebus.

You'd be fine.

2 outa 3 ain't bad.

[MrGoat]

I have no idea. I presume it’s easier considering all the different apps and whatnot. But probably a lot easier to get scammed or catfished these days.

Thankfully I’m not anywhere close to being or wanting to be in the dating scene.


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[330ci]

Dating when I was younger was fun.

Dating today makes me want to pay a surrogate and purchase eggs to breed my offspring.

[AzPaul]

It can't be better than when I was young.
Those truly were the best of times

[Fashionwatch]

I feel it’s a bit better these days with all the platforms made for it, but I feel it used to be great I personally miss the good old days.

[superdog]

I thought it would be easy.

I did pretty well when I was a kid. I mean, I taught yoga. Owned a few studios. I had a blast.

But even aside from that, I did very well.

I thought it would be super easy now. Older, lots of hair, better off financially, and at 48 most guys are not in my shape.

But no. It’s not easy at all. I have to work at it harder than I used to. Then again, I’m still chasing 20 and 30 year olds. Even so, it’s a challenge for sure. Not a ton of fun. Prefer my alone time now more too. Less willing to play the games.

But certainly the fun moments make up for the effort, to a certain degree. Still, way harder than I thought.

[Blansky]

Originally Posted by superdog

I thought it would be easy.

I did pretty well when I was a kid. I mean, I taught yoga. Owned a few studios. I had a blast.

But even aside from that, I did very well.

I thought it would be super easy now. Older, lots of hair, better off financially, and at 48 most guys are not in my shape.

But no. It’s not easy at all. I have to work at it harder than I used to. Then again, I’m still chasing 20 and 30 year olds. Even so, it’s a challenge for sure. Not a ton of fun. Prefer my alone time now more too. Less willing to play the games.

But certainly the fun moments make up for the effort, to a certain degree. Still, way harder than I thought.

I've always in life been a believer in the "go out and chase it" no matter what it was. But there is also a school of thought pertaining to 'fate' or luck that says good things will come to you. Wu-Wei. The art of letting things happen, and of letting go. ( I know that'll bend a few people outa shape)

When after 2 failed relationships of 16 years in total, I moved to LA and started chasing. I went out almost every night and met and dated a lot of women and Mrs. Right was not in the group. I dated doctors, lawyers, psychologists, bar waitresses, office workers etc etc. Did it for 5 years.

Then one day as I said in a previous post SHE came to me. I was laying in a hospital bed there she was. My ailment was 'unnatural", unexpected, and happened only once. I would have had no other way to meet her.

I was there and she showed up.

If there's a moral to the story, I don't know what it is, but sometimes circumstances/fate/luck just show up.

[JasoninDenver]

Originally Posted by superdog

I thought it would be easy.

Then again, I’m still chasing 20 and 30 year olds.

My life got a whole lot better when I stopped dating girls and started dating women.

[superdog]

Originally Posted by JasoninDenver

My life got a whole lot better when I stopped dating girls and started dating women.

Not really interested in relationships at the moment.

And haven’t done the Internet thing.

I like introducing myself and seeing if I can make some magic happen. I enjoy the hunt. But I’m also getting too old and tired for it.

I’m my own worst event.

[Star Ferry]

Originally Posted by superdog

I thought it would be easy.

I did pretty well when I was a kid. I mean, I taught yoga. Owned a few studios. I had a blast.

But even aside from that, I did very well.

I thought it would be super easy now. Older, lots of hair, better off financially, and at 48 most guys are not in my shape.

But no. It’s not easy at all. I have to work at it harder than I used to. Then again, I’m still chasing 20 and 30 year olds. Even so, it’s a challenge for sure. Not a ton of fun. Prefer my alone time now more too. Less willing to play the games.

But certainly the fun moments make up for the effort, to a certain degree. Still, way harder than I thought.

Easiest fix would be getting a place in Manhattan. The young girls are obsessed with location, and I think many would swipe left on Brad Pitt if he lived in Hoboken.

But I’ve also noticed the 20-30 year old party girls destroy their appearances quickly with all the partying. A 30-40 year old who takes care of herself can easily end up looking better. My girlfriend is past 30 but never drank, smoked or did drugs and looks much younger as a result.

[Chewbacca]

What a sad sad thread.

Are we not all Rolex wearers!!!!

Are we not all people of great taste!!!!

Are we not all #1, top of the list, head of the heap, kings and queens of the hill!!!!!!!


We can all date today and be successful at it!!!!


What say you all!?!?!?!?!?!


Download the apps and get to the bars and get at it!

[RyanJ]

Originally Posted by Chewbacca

What a sad sad thread.

Are we not all Rolex wearers!!!!

Sorry Chewy.. Rolex wearers are seen as those that can't afford a Patek. It's hard out there and standards are high. Perpetual Calendars only...

[Chewbacca]

Originally Posted by RyanJ

Sorry Chewy.. Rolex wearers are seen as those that can't afford a Patek. It's hard out there and standards are high. Perpetual Calendars only...

There are better Polish watches out there.

[superdog]

Originally Posted by Star Ferry

Easiest fix would be getting a place in Manhattan. The young girls are obsessed with location, and I think many would swipe left on Brad Pitt if he lived in Hoboken.

But I’ve also noticed the 20-30 year old party girls destroy their appearances quickly with all the partying. A 30-40 year old who takes care of herself can easily end up looking better. My girlfriend is past 30 but never drank, smoked or did drugs and looks much younger as a result.

Well, part of my "challenge" is that I am only interested in smoke shows. Otherwise, I am not really wasting my time.

I do happen to live in one of the "hippest" towns in jersey, so I think the location is good.

I think I have just gotten to the point where I am not willing to play the game, I don't stay out past 9:00, I simply don't have a lot of patience.

I am okay with all of this. I am still enjoying myself immensely.

I had just thought I would pull up in a hot car and I would have to beat them off with a bat. But the only people that are interested are dudes.

Not complaining one bit. Just different for me than in the past, and different that I expected.

Still getting back into the swing of things too.

[Star Ferry]

Originally Posted by superdog

Well, part of my "challenge" is that I am only interested in smoke shows. Otherwise, I am not really wasting my time.

I do happen to live in one of the "hippest" towns in jersey, so I think the location is good.

I think I have just gotten to the point where I am not willing to play the game, I don't stay out past 9:00, I simply don't have a lot of patience.

I am okay with all of this. I am still enjoying myself immensely.

I had just thought I would pull up in a hot car and I would have to beat them off with a bat. But the only people that are interested are dudes.

Not complaining one bit. Just different for me than in the past, and different that I expected.

Still getting back into the swing of things too.

If you’re 40+ and driving world-class exotic cars, my best guess is they don’t think you’re serious about settling down / don’t think the time and energy will lead to an actual relationship. Their biological clocks are ticking. You may need to really hold their hands and reassure them. And also change 9pm curfew to 11pm maybe. Good luck

[superdog]

Originally Posted by Star Ferry

If you’re 40+ and driving world-class exotic cars, my best guess is they don’t think you’re serious about settling down / don’t think the time and energy will lead to an actual relationship. Their biological clocks are ticking. You may need to really hold their hands and reassure them. And also change 9pm curfew to 11pm maybe. Good luck

Lmao.

No compromises. No hand holding. Take it, or leave it.

I wonder why it’s not as easy as it once was.

[GB-man]

Originally Posted by superdog

Well, part of my "challenge" is that I am only interested in smoke shows. Otherwise, I am not really wasting my time.

I do happen to live in one of the "hippest" towns in jersey, so I think the location is good.

I think I have just gotten to the point where I am not willing to play the game, I don't stay out past 9:00, I simply don't have a lot of patience.

I am okay with all of this. I am still enjoying myself immensely.

I had just thought I would pull up in a hot car and I would have to beat them off with a bat. But the only people that are interested are dudes.

Not complaining one bit. Just different for me than in the past, and different that I expected.

Still getting back into the swing of things too.

Don't move closer to Manhattan move farther away. You're just a guy in Manhattan you can be Jesus walking in smaller metros

[Star Ferry]

Originally Posted by GB-man

Don't move closer to Manhattan move farther away. You're just a guy in Manhattan you can be Jesus walking in smaller metros

My experience is the opposite. There is an over supply of attractive women here. Any guy with a decent job and a crappy $3K/month apartment in the East Village seems to be rolling in female attention. In the real world women expect you to have a car, own a house, have a retirement fund, etc. Here you barely have to show up.

[binArt]

Originally Posted by superdog

I had just thought I would pull up in a hot car and I would have to beat them off with a bat. But the only people that are interested are dudes.

You may be the victim of stereotyping. There is often a negative perception amongst "smoke shows" regarding old men in exotic cars. Were you an obviously single guy in your 20's the car would be a chick magnet.

[7sins]

It's the mentality that has changed. For those that are older, the dating mentality before dating apps was "fix not replace". Now it is replace not fix as accessibility has never been easier and often people are always chasing the next best thing. I do believe it is more geographically dependent. In my case, I noticed dating in LA, full of women with false entitlement and 10s that can't count to 10 is much less gratifying than dating in Europe.

[huncho]

Originally Posted by 7sins

In my case, I noticed dating in LA, full of women with false entitlement and 10s that can't count to 10 is much less gratifying than dating in Europe.

[HHIslander]

If you're looking for some short-term companionship of a no strings nature, it's much better. If you're looking for a relationship, it's a nightmare compared to the olden days. This is what the single folks my age tell me these days. ymmv.

[brandrea]

Can’t help you Chewie, happily married here.

[Chewbacca]

Originally Posted by brandrea

Can’t help you Chewie, happily married here.

I don’t want your help. You’ve done enough damage around here!!!!!

Reported!!!!!

[brandrea]

Originally Posted by Chewbacca

I don’t want your help. You’ve done enough damage around here!!!!!



Reported!!!!!

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