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23 August 2009, 04:44 AM | #1 |
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Very sad news for a father
Sergeant Paul McAleese 29 was killed in Afghanistan it was reported today. This is a tragedy for his family and I suspect for his father very very hard. His father was one of the SAS team who stormed the Iranian embassy in London in 1980. I am sure that he will be extremely proud of his "Boy", yet being an ex service man himself possibly wouldn't have wanted his lad to face the same risks as he had himself in service.
This is something I currently have playing on my mind. My Father was a Royal Marine (WWII) and so was I, my boy (15) is very keen to follow the same path and form a tradition. I myself having seen the realities of soldiering, do not want him to join up. I would rather he went to University like his sister is about to. Quite a few lads have asked my advice over the past few years and I tell them straight, that the glamour of a smart uniform can cost a heavy price later. Although it is a wonderful life with great mates. Not too sure where I'm going here.... How would you feel if your child wanted to join up? |
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(If I had kids), and he/she wanted to join up, then that's thier personal preference. I was never in the service, but I am absolutely thankful for the men and women who put thier lives on the line every day overseas protecting our country.
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It would depend on what I feel is the needs of the country, had you asked this on September 12th, 2001, I would have wanted everyone in my family to join, even my dog. Today? I doubt it unless some foreign country decides to attack ALABAMA. I have an 18 year old and he thinks it's all about glory. |
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Mac, I am not a father so I can not relate to advice I'd give my child.. but I did serve 12 years (as an Officer) in the military.
There were good times, there were bad. I flew in the Gulf War in 91, and had other various "conflicts" during my career. I am proud of the service I did for my country, not just in being a Pilot, but knowing that I did what is important to me, my country, and our way of life. To the day I die, I will stand proud that I did my duty. The Military also tought me... a LOT. It tought me discipline, adaptability, maintaining a presence of focus and mind under extreme conditons, the list goes on and on. It (obviously) was dangerous. I lost friends, both in the war and other times, there is no doubt your child could become seriously injured, or worse. I don't have a Son, but if I did, and he was interested in joining up, I'd support his decision. It is scary, it's not easy letting him venture in to a very dangerous environment like the Military, but there are risks with everything in life. At the end of the day, or his service, or when he is old and gray (like me), he can stand proud for what he did, and say: "I served" Just my two cents.... |
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My father served in Vietnam and was stationed at Khe Sanh during the TET offensive. I have asked him about the war and he has simply stated that he does not want talk about it, and that's just not like him. I can't imagine what he saw and what his life was like while serving, but it must have been horrific for him not to tell me. So while I completely understand and support one's drive to be patriotic, it most certainly comes at a cost, with the worst of it being death. So having never served, I would not dare to give you advice on what you should advise your son to do. Your post has given me some food for thought, as my son is only 10 now. As most parents do, I am sure that you will advise your son to make right decision given your insight of the situation.
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Thanks for the comments so far guys, I don't want to get too heavy on my own personal dilemma, I'm wondering how YOU would feel given this situation? Would you be in favour of your child joining up or anti?
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Honestly I'd have to say I wouldn't want my boy joining.
I know it's selfish and I know it's fairly cowardly but the pain those parents must feel when finding out their child has died (in usually awful circumstances) in a foreign land must be unbearable. Sorry to put a downer on things Mac, I'm just a big old wimp who wants no harm to come to his son! J |
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Claire and I watched some news footage/bbc interviews recently of the troops in Helmand.
It bought tears to our eyes, they were kids. They looked just like the kids who come into my office for work experience. Everytime a mortar went off the soldiers jumped. When they spoke their hands shook (might have been nerves from being on tv, may have been the sound of gunfire). These were boys and it breaks my heart to kinow they are being sent out there to fight this war. I take my hat off to anybody who joins up and support them fully, I wish we could come up with more public funds to help save lives out there. I also offer my sincere thanks to the families, parents, wives and children of the guys who give up so much. I don't know if it makes me less of a man but I know I couldn't have done it. Mac, maybe by the time your son is ready to join up, the war effort and casualties may be in such a sorry state that he might just change his mind! Jim |
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I served in the Army and I am very grateful for the experiences that I had there. I have an 8 year old son and I would not encourage him to go into the military but I don't believe I would feel right to discourage him either. No one should have to live through losing a child I can't imagine anything more terrible.
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You don't have to encourage your son to join,sometimes it runs in the family.Grandfather WW1,all my uncles WW2,father Corea and myself 'Nam and Panama.It was 1996 when my son came to me and told me he's going to join the US Marines,all I could do was was give him my blessing and off he went.
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If he has the fire in him to join and you hold him back, he will regret it big time when he is in his 40s. I see more people who wished they had joined when they could have.
As far as how safe it is, Chicago is more dangerous than Iraq. I was deployed 2005-2008 for 1000 days and loved it. There is inherent danger in any job, maybe this more so, but we are not lining up for the guillotine. Remember there are about 150,000 troops deployed from all countries. Hearing about one death or two cannot be compared to WWII where 50,000 troops could be lost in one day. Understand that before he goes anywhere he will be well trained and armed. We don't get tossed to the lions. I have a nephew who wants to join but he complains he cannot because he is only 13. I assured him the country will still be here when he is ready. It is the biological nature of women to nurture and men to fight. We are built for it. Maybe ask him to go to college ad become an officer, and in that time he may reconsider, or become more stoic in his decision.
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Well said Robert, I tried to put those sentiments in to words, about if it is in his spirt to join, holding him back would be a mistake, but you did it a LOT better then I could have. If it's a calling, I don't think any kind of withstraint is a positive thing. If it is just curiosity, then of course opinions are very helpful. I guess the hard part is deciding which one of these it is...
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Afghanistan does need to be 'controlled' but I am afraid that like the British in the 19th Century and the fairly brutal Soviets more recently, our forces have a hopeless task ahead of them. I have to say that Rory Stewart the British politician makes a lot of sense to me when talking about Afghanistan. Best wishes with your son! http://www.terraplexic.org/review/20...y-stewart.html
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I have a son that just turned 18 in July. He is dying to serve, but my worry is he thinks it's like in the movies. I worry about his maturity. Considering what little real information I have on what is going on in Iraq and Afghanistan, because you certainly cannot believe everything you read in the press, I would not stop my son from joining, but I would not encourage it either (i.e. "egg him on").
My stance would change immediately if the USA (US Soil) were directly attacked by anyone, then I would immediately take my son to the nearest recruiting station. Even I would leave my stethoscope in the office and off I go, probably @ 35 I would not be allowed into a uniform, but I would not need one (a uniform) to get my rifle and be on the lookout. Conclusion: Your son is now an adult, don't stop him from doing what he must. |
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Mac, Thanx to you and all that have served their respective countries for keeping me and my world(family)safe. I do have a son who is 24 years old and would not like to see him join the military and go overseas to fight in the wars in the Middle East. But his life is his own and I would respect and support his decision if he chooses to join the military!!!
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Thanks for your thoughts guys. It has certainly got me thinking quite hard about my obligations to my son and his wishes. It's 23.00pm here in the UK and On that note I'm off to bed ..... Thinking of the parents that are currently going though what must be a very worrying and difficult time for them.
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Hi Mac,
As a mom, I would be terrified for my child to join the military eventhough that's how I met her dad who was stationed in my country. If that's what she'd want to do, there is no way for me to stop her... Not if she looks like me at least! I am just hoping I will never have to worry about this...... Good luck with your son, and THANK YOU!
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If no one's child served, we would all be living under tyranny. Respectfully submitted.
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To be honest, my thoughts have changed over the past several years. I would be very unhappy if my son were to join the armed forces given todays circumstances. I think serving your country in honorable but things are way off course these days. However I am proud and grateful to those who serve and sacrifice. I guess it is a bit unfair to pick the situation to serve in but that what I am saying. |
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It's quite true. My son is finishing up Med School and is a commissioned officer. He will eventually be deployed at least once, and maybe twice once he is on active duty. I worry about him being in a combat zone. I have a close friend who is a Colonel, U.S. Army. He was deployed to Bosnia and Iraq. When he was in Iraq a group of Doctors went for a ride within few days of US forces capturing Baghdad. Two doctors were killed by hostile fire directed at them from a bridge...now according to my friend it was foolish of them to have done that, but there's an example of a very sad ending. On the other hand, soldiers need to have Doctors ready to serve them as they engage in combat missions. It's a tough deal.
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I have a different perspective. I know that my son would like the training and the order of military life. That's kind of how he is so far, at 13. He has been studying martial arts since 5 years old and wrestles on his school wrestling team. My problem with it is that it's not fair. Any person could be killed or injured in a chemical attack or hidden bomb and never have a chance to fight back, or even know it was happening. War is not a contest of skill and any pathetic weakling terrorist can "beat" well trained soldiers. If these things could be settled in a ring with a winner and a loser using training and strength I'd support it more. At least the participants would be in control.
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Mac as a father of 6 (3 boys,3 girls) I can relate. My father served in Korea. Conflict will always be. Some were epic. Some seemed pointless (I am a product of the Vietnam era) When I was in 6th grade (1971) one day in math class my friends mom and the principal came and took him out of the class and in the hall they told him that his father who was a navy pilot had been shot down. I will never forget his cries. If one of my children choose a military path and God forbid anything happen to them, I would take comfort in the fact that they felt that what they were doing was important. So many have given themselves for all of us.
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I think a service in the armed forces is a wonderful thing, I have spent 37 years serving and still going strong, I too was like you Mac, not an easy decision, I advised my son against it, not even sure if it was the correct advice, he took it though.
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My son will be 18 on Halloween. The only reason he hasn't joined yet is because he needs my signature and I won't sign. I am not opposed to his service. We have a family tradition of service from the civil war on up at least one of us served. I will be very proud to see my son serve, however, it must be his signature on the contract, not mine.
I agree with astcell. It's not a thrilling prospect to see our sons in uniform, however, our parents felt the same way when we did it.
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