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Old 25 June 2013, 07:53 PM   #1
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How do you convince your significant other?

This is not a very serious question.

I am guessing most people here can afford an expensive watch (or more), but I find it difficult every time I am planning a new watch-hunt to convince my wife that I want to buy another watch (although we can afford it and she knows that I really love watches.)

I am wondering, how do you guys deal with this issues without sleeping on the sofa for a week after every new purchase??
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Old 25 June 2013, 08:00 PM   #2
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I'm very lucky that my wife does not care, as long as I don't object to her shoes or designer bags.

I have more of an issue with some of my close friends who don't understand why I need so many rolex's and other watches.
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Old 25 June 2013, 08:09 PM   #3
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Old 25 June 2013, 08:10 PM   #4
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I'm very lucky that my wife does not care, as long as I don't object to her shoes or designer bags.

I have more of an issue with some of my close friends who don't understand why I need so many rolex's and other watches.
Hahaha.. My wife is not much of a shopper herself. She would buy a bag or a couple of shoes every now and then. She likes her older stuff and wears em often.

My friends don't care much about what I wear. Once a friend asked me about my watch and he almost got a heart attach knowing it costs more than 3 grands. Of course, I didn't mention it is more than 9K
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Old 25 June 2013, 08:29 PM   #5
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buy her something nice and justify the money was extra and will not affect bringing foods to the table
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Old 25 June 2013, 08:54 PM   #6
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True story, years ago when first dating my GF we were in a store, can't remember where. I had picked up some silly item and she took it out of the cart and put it back on the shelf and told me that I didn't need it. I put it back in and said to her on the spot that I work very, very hard for my money. I don't tell you how to spend yours. If you try to tell me how to spend mine we're going to have relationship problems. If I'm buying a 10,000 dollar watch and my bills aren't being paid then by all means speak up, but otherwise butt out. Seems kind of harsh but I wasn't about to start a relationship with her hands on my purchases. Haven't had any problem since. I guess that if you nip it in the bud you don't have problems later.
I do say though that it works both ways. I don't ever try to tell her how to spend her moner either. She buys some things that I just shake my head at, but hey, it's her well earned cash she can do what she wants with it. YMMV
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Old 25 June 2013, 09:07 PM   #7
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I'm very lucky that my wife does not care, as long as I don't object to her shoes or designer bags.

I have more of an issue with some of my close friends who don't understand why I need so many rolex's and other watches.
Same thing here
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Old 25 June 2013, 09:14 PM   #8
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Usually a watch or nice diamond earrings seem to do the trick...
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Bought mine (atleast my first) before I'm with anyone. Ironically to this thread it will help me get with one now.
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Old 25 June 2013, 09:26 PM   #10
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Old 25 June 2013, 09:34 PM   #11
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Old 25 June 2013, 09:41 PM   #12
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True story, years ago when first dating my GF we were in a store, can't remember where. I had picked up some silly item and she took it out of the cart and put it back on the shelf and told me that I didn't need it. I put it back in and said to her on the spot that I work very, very hard for my money. I don't tell you how to spend yours. If you try to tell me how to spend mine we're going to have relationship problems. If I'm buying a 10,000 dollar watch and my bills aren't being paid then by all means speak up, but otherwise butt out. Seems kind of harsh but I wasn't about to start a relationship with her hands on my purchases. Haven't had any problem since. I guess that if you nip it in the bud you don't have problems later.
I do say though that it works both ways. I don't ever try to tell her how to spend her moner either. She buys some things that I just shake my head at, but hey, it's her well earned cash she can do what she wants with it. YMMV
My wife and I don't have the "my money, your money" process. Whenever something comes up with a high price tag, we usually discuss it right there and then but it's a conversation about the actual item and if it's worth what they are asking for it, and not about who's paying. We have never referred to either pocket as the one paying no matter who earns what.

When it came to getting my YG Daytona recently, I had reservations about the price but she was the one who insisted and said go for it. It's the most expensive item we've spent money on besides cars and houses. I definitely have a keeper!
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Old 25 June 2013, 09:42 PM   #13
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Sometimes I might have to tell a little white lie about how much I actually paid for it....:) I got real lucky. Sort of. She is not a big spender on anything, so we just have to worry about me...lmao
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Old 25 June 2013, 09:45 PM   #14
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My wife and I don't have the "my money, your money" process. Whenever something comes up with a high price tag, we usually discuss it right there and then but it's a conversation about the actual item and if it's worth what they are asking for it, and not about who's paying. We have never referred to either pocket as the one paying no matter who earns what.

When it came to getting my YG Daytona recently, I had reservations about the price but she was the one who insisted and said go for it. It's the most expensive item we've spent money on besides cars and houses. I definitely have a keeper!
Same here. I find we have far less fights about money than a lot of our friends when it's all combined into "our money". It's funny to me when I hear married people complaining its the other persons turn to pay etc...
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Old 25 June 2013, 09:47 PM   #15
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That's a danged good answer, Mr. Pierce

When I met my wife, she was working in a watch dials company where we were placing orders, so she knew what she was getting into since day one
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Old 25 June 2013, 09:48 PM   #16
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She is glad to see me so enthusiastic about something ,I just gave her one of my watches and she loves it
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Old 25 June 2013, 09:54 PM   #17
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She is glad to see me so enthusiastic about something ,I just gave her one of my watches and she loves it
Nice watch... Your wife's wrist shot is um interesting.....;) lol
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I'm very lucky that my wife does not care, as long as I don't object to her shoes or designer bags.

I have more of an issue with some of my close friends who don't understand why I need so many rolex's and other watches.
Same here!
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Old 25 June 2013, 09:59 PM   #19
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She is glad to see me so enthusiastic about something ,I just gave her one of my watches and she loves it
She has a very hairy arm!
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Old 25 June 2013, 10:03 PM   #20
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Old 25 June 2013, 10:06 PM   #21
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If you need to convince her then there is something else wrong

My wife and I share everything, there is no separate money. We discuss everything and we are very happy.
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Old 25 June 2013, 10:06 PM   #22
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She has big hairy wrists
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Old 25 June 2013, 10:28 PM   #25
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True story, years ago when first dating my GF we were in a store, can't remember where. I had picked up some silly item and she took it out of the cart and put it back on the shelf and told me that I didn't need it. I put it back in and said to her on the spot that I work very, very hard for my money. I don't tell you how to spend yours. If you try to tell me how to spend mine we're going to have relationship problems. If I'm buying a 10,000 dollar watch and my bills aren't being paid then by all means speak up, but otherwise butt out. Seems kind of harsh but I wasn't about to start a relationship with her hands on my purchases. Haven't had any problem since. I guess that if you nip it in the bud you don't have problems later.
I do say though that it works both ways. I don't ever try to tell her how to spend her moner either. She buys some things that I just shake my head at, but hey, it's her well earned cash she can do what she wants with it. YMMV



Love this answer.

I tend to not really ask for anything in life.

Don't misunderstand, I'm always polite, but I typically do what I want how I want.

Then again, 39 and single.
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Old 25 June 2013, 11:01 PM   #27
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I find dishonesty to be the best policy.

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The way I have managed to avoid these roadblocks has been to give her my Breitling, Omega and Tag that have gotten "too small" over the years. It seems that a 36mm or 38mm is a nice modern size for a woman's wrist! Lucky me!

Oh, and have them cleaned and polished for her! My wife loves that I do this as well for her.
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My wife simply doesn't care...she lets me spend whatever I want on my hobbies and knows I'm very responsible with our finances. I handle all the bills/payments/etc and she has no problem with it...I'm a very take-charge person, so this would have been an issue in the beginning of our relationship...now, not so much. She's very chill, which is why we get along so well.
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