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2 December 2017, 11:45 PM | #31 | |
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Thanks, that is helpful. I agree, all my friends we did have went from being down to go have steaks/drinks/cigars anytime to pretty much just being with their kids 24/7 (which is understandable certainly, but just sucks for me). |
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I'll be honest with you here. You sound a bit boring. Doesn't matter if you workout or if you own a house, car or if you're married or not, only thing that matters is the way you are. Fun people always have friends regardless of where they are. You need to get out more, get high, drink, smoke, everything you avoid when you try to be physically healthy, but you're getting mentally sick. Cut the workout BS and go have fun man. You may find yourself in the near future with lots of friend especially girls. It works.Trust me.
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Yes, golf is very difficult to get good at and an expensive hobby. Takes a lot of work to be a low handicap. I played sports my whole life and didn’t start golfing until I was 30. Hardest sport to master imo. That is what makes it awesome.
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One second your buddies are always down for a few beers/late night. Then the baby comes and they vanish. It'll get better
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3 December 2017, 12:01 AM | #37 |
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Thanks. As a child I would sometimes go to the driving range with my dad. Maybe I’ll start there and work my way up.
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3 December 2017, 12:02 AM | #38 |
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The more I think about it, the more I start thinking this may be a big part of my problem. I’m just not ready to take that plunge yet though, personally.
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3 December 2017, 12:20 AM | #40 |
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How do adults meet people?
You have had a lot of good suggestions in here already.
One more idea, what does your wife do for a living? Reason I ask is that my wife is great at making friends thru work/social groups she joins (enjoys) and neighbors and school etc. I usually get dragged along for the ride and have met some really cool people. I travel for work and don’t have a lot of time at home so this works for me. I also tend to befriend people that are a lot older than I am. I am a 42 year old Christian male and one of my better friends is 74 year old Jewish female. We disagree on about every hot button issue. Politics, abortion etc. but we are open to others opinions and like to have spirited discussions. We also both enjoy similar work things. But I will second someone’s comment of “you get what you give”. If you say and think and act like all you want to do is go to work and go to the gym and go home then that is what you will get. If you aren’t willing to invest in people beyond the time at the office or gym then this quest will likely be impossible. Just be open to whatever friendships may come your way as you never know when that lightbulb will light and you will meet a new best friend. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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You have the advantage of being in a major metro area (Indianapolis). Do you have an alumni chapter from your college that is active there?
A lot of Wisconsin grads in Minneapolis, and that helped a lot when I moved here not knowing a soul after college.
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I moved from upstate NY to Los Angeles when I was 22 years old. My boss was promoted to regional manager of the L.A. area and called me up after he had been out here for 6 months and asked me if I wanted to move out here and work for him. He said I could stay with him, he would give me a company car and a branch to manage so I said sure, why not. I had never even been to California before. I knew literally one person here.
Fortunately, I worked in an industry where you meet many different people on a daily basis. I met the woman I eventually married only a few months after moving here and nearly all of my friends I’ve met through work or they were neighbors of mine at some point. I know guys I was friends with in high school, but only through Facebook do I keep in touch with them. My closest friends I’ve known now for more than 25 years. We go on vacations together, we go on fishing trips together, we chat via email or text nearly every day. These are lifelong friendships that I cherish. Like Seth mentioned earlier in this thread, it takes work. Find people with common interests to yours and see if you connect with someone and can develop a friendship. Some will come and go over the years but the good ones you’ll want to keep in your life. |
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Stewart...imho you should get your priorities straight.
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Wrong thread, sorry.
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Seems you have eliminated a very large part of the population before meeting them. Women, people who don’t work out seriously and older people for example. You can make friends with people much different than you, in fact, it’s the best way to broaden your horizons.
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Most of socialising through kids sport clubs as soccer academy or swimming club, school events or church.
Sharing the same hobbies as outdoor activities or collecting watches also help. Maybe time for kids. Good luck. Sent from my SM-N935F using Tapatalk |
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If you like working out you should try a martial art like boxing or BJJ. I have gained many friends that way.
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Get out there young man and take a chance. Work at relationships. Be interested in others. It will pay off in spades. Put in the work. I joined a softball league when I was about your age and met lots of people I'm still good friends with.
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My word. I just saw you are in Carmel. I am in Zionsville. We just moved here 2 years ago and my wife found all kinds of newcomer groups, obviously stuff for the kids etc. There are no shortage of philanthropy related and volunteer opportunities around. If you let me know what you are passionate about I may be able to steer you in a direction. Feel free to DM me. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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this is a common 'problem' of this generation and the future mainly because people move cities or countries for work and career aspirations and dreams...as a result, there is no strong roots in a particular place.
I am away from my home country for work and have been away for 6+years. As suggested, you can start a family, or join a club be it golf, car club or other sports club. Out of so many people, they may be a few whom you can become friends with. |
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Have a few kids and you will be too tired or busy to have friends. You'll meet lots of other parents.
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Love this.
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Meet-up on the internet is a great way to meet people in your area with common interests.
We used it in the D.C. area and met some great people, we met at local bars and restaurants to chat about our hobbies and all sorts of things. |
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You know, similar situation with me, but because I am single. I have good friends, hobbies, even though I work out if my house I meet a lot of people in my travels, but this year I noticed I wasn’t getting imvited to events, games, parties, barbecues,bowling, whatever. I call a friend out in it one time why I wasn’t invited to a cookout at his house a lot of mutual friends were, had I (unintentionally) offended him or his wife or some other reason? He was incredibly apologetic, and said that when he and his wife sat down to create the invitation list, I was overlooked not because I am bad company but because I was single. The list went something like: The millers (married couple) he Smiths (married couple) Bill and Lisa (Dating couple) John and Tim (Gay couple) etc. Because I do not have a significant other, my name was never brought up. I had heart to hearts with other friends and got the exact same response. It was not malicious nor representative of any desire not to have me at these events, but when inviting guests, the COUPLE was inviting COUPLES and I was overlooked. I pointed out, if they invited myself and single women, maybe I would end up with a significant other. They were all apologetic and promised it was just an overlook; it makes sense and I believe them. Anyway, to you middle age couples out there, remember your single friends when making plans, we are people too!
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