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13 March 2009, 12:51 PM | #1 |
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My wife's grandfather passed away on Sunday and the funeral was today. I was a pall bearer and my wife was charged with writing and delivering the eulogy. The week has been full of reminiscing and "interviewing" her father and aunt for life details. Quite a bit of work actually.
Her grandfather was a lot like "Walter" in Jeff Dunham's ventriloqist act. Kind of loud and boisterous, crotchedy and usually angry about something. Through the time and effort used in writing the eulogy, we were able to break down his behavior and rationalize a lot of it and accept the rest. I think the eulogy task was very helpful. We were charged with finding nice things to say and so went looking for the positive. In doing so we learned nice things and also learned the circumstances behind the not-so-nice. After she completed it I found myself wishing I could have talked to him a bit more both to learn and also to give him some support. So what I've discovered is that if you really want to understand someone, charge yourself the task of finding positive things about them and writing them down. Maybe if more people did this we would all have a better understanding of each other. What an eye opener.
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13 March 2009, 01:20 PM | #3 |
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Wow. Nice lesson you bring, Bill. Sorry for your loss.
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13 March 2009, 01:21 PM | #4 |
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I'm sorry for your loss You have given us lots to think about!
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13 March 2009, 01:31 PM | #5 |
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Bill, I am sorry to hear about this. Your thoughts are great. Lots of times you find this out when it is too late...and there always are positive things to remember. Sometimes it is not easy but writing them down is just a great idea!
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13 March 2009, 02:04 PM | #6 |
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I am sorry for your loss.
I agree...we have lost two very close friends within the past 4 months. One was my husband's godfather who was one of those guys who was "always there." He and my father in law became friends when they were 3 years old, in the mid-1930s. I can still hear his voice, and it is strange that he's gone. Death is certainly the ultimate motivator to put things in perspective. |
13 March 2009, 07:31 PM | #7 |
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Bill sorry for your loss.
Thanks for such an eloquently written reminder of what is important! J |
13 March 2009, 07:35 PM | #8 |
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Sorry for your loss and a great idea to write down the positives about someone, I have found out the hard way how people only seem to remember the bad about people and not the good.
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14 March 2009, 05:41 AM | #9 |
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Our sympathies. As my dad says ... "None of us are going to make it out of here alive." It's easy to forget, but .......
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14 March 2009, 11:21 AM | #10 |
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I've always loved and respected my father, but watching him face his inevitable death in the final weeks of his life with such courage and strength of character deepened my feelings immeasurably. He was a hero to the end.
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14 March 2009, 11:35 AM | #11 |
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I remembered you and your fathers recent passing while at the funeral. My wifes grandfather was buried with military honors as well. After the gravesite ceremony one of the soldiers discreetly collected the spent shells and presented them to my BIL to give them to the grandchildren. My son has one and I think it's a good momento.
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Don't worship a hero becasue he has passed, worship a hero because he was born; as we need those special few.
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