What to do

[tr71123]

Back story and apologies for the long post.

Do I buy my grandfather his first Rolex or get my wife a decent diamond. In all honestly neither are bougie but both would appreciate the gesture.

My grandfather has always worn a TT jubilee year watch but always low end because he owns a restaurant and is hard his watches. He does wear nice rings and appreciates dressing up. . He’s finally about to retire and sell his business and I would love to surprise him with a Rolex and thank him for all he has done.

On the other hand I have my wife whom I married young and couldn’t afford a proper diamond. I’d love to upgrade her ring and band. The challenge is she see all the finances and it’s hard to surprise her.

I also struggle with the fact my grandfather is older and obviously has less time to enjoy the piece but also can afford his own Rolex if he wants to but it.

I recently took him into my local AD and had him try on some watches to see what his taste was. As expected he loved the 36 TT jubilee with a Champagne dial. They had a used one from the early 90s that he was tempted to buy but didn’t.

Any insight is appreciated.

My first Rolex is on order and will be here this year. I’ll post incoming pictures once I receive it. I also was able to place my wish list with my AD and am hopefully to add to my collection soon after.

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[subprimero]

I would buy the watch for your grandfather. Try using WatchRecon to find out prices and who the trusted sellers are.

[77T]

Neither in my opinion.

You’ve ordered a Rolex for yourself and might just be feeling a little pre-buyer’s remorse for spending on yourself.

Nothing wrong with buying your first Rolex at all. I’m just sensing your wife already knows that was your first thought. IMHO, the order could have been for two Rolexes, his & hers.

On your grandfather’s retirement, being one myself, I would not want my grandkids spending on me like that. Since he’s not bougie then I believe he wouldn’t feel comfy (perhaps you’re projecting your own remorse).

I hope you know I’m not judging - no disrespect intended - just my sense of the questions as you posed them.


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[Pw92676]

Originally Posted by 77T

Neither in my opinion.

You’ve ordered a Rolex for yourself and might just be feeling a little pre-buyer’s remorse for spending on yourself.

Nothing wrong with buying your first Rolex at all. I’m just sensing your wife already knows that was your first thought. IMHO, the order could have been for two Rolexes, his & hers.

On your grandfather’s retirement, being one myself, I would not want my grandkids spending on me like that. Since he’s not bougie then I believe he wouldn’t feel comfy (perhaps you’re projecting your own remorse).

I hope you know I’m not judging - no disrespect intended - just my sense of the questions as you posed them.


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Agree. When you are able to buy both comfortably, then do so.

[m j b]

Originally Posted by tr71123

In all honestly neither are bougie but both would appreciate the gesture.

I don't know what that means.

I also don't know what all your Grandfather did for you, but generally speaking money spent on the wife generates the most ROI. Happy wife happy life.

Assuming, of course, that you like the wife and want to keep her around.

[Tim Plains]

Assuming the old man will make a lot of money when he sells the business, he can buy whatever he wants. Your post seems to imply he likes Rolex but either wouldn't buy one or wouldn't wear one. He can afford one but doesn't buy one, he tries one on and didn't buy it, maybe he doesn't want one.

[Peak]

A delicate matter.

[insight]

Happy wife, happy life!!!

[kearez]

Upgrade the ring. Better ROI. Your grandfather after selling his business could treat himself to a new one. Sounds like you get your wife the diamond she wanted.

[tr71123]

Appreciate the insight.

I did try and get her a Rolex a few times but she has zero interest and is sick of me showing watches that I want as well. ��. She does like her purses so I tend to buy those as gifts.

Good points around my grandfathers ability to purchase his own if he truly wants one. My grandparents raised me so I was in some way trying to thank him for all he has done.

With that said I think the ring upgrade makes a lot of sense. Thanks again for the opinions.

[gerry100]

decent Diamond for the wife.

Your Grandfather would probably agree

[SS Oyster]

I would buy your wife a proper ring now that you can afford it. Priorities are not easy, but think that is where your highest loyalties should be placed.

As for your grandfather, I think what he will most appreciate is that you want to see him get the right Rolex for his retirement, so helping him through the process will be greatly appreciated, but he can afford it, so just help him through the process and have that memory together.

If he were posed this question, I would 100% be certain he would want you to take care of your wife before himself.

[RoRoRo]

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