Wifey wants bolt-ons

[britincali]

Been married 14 years and with her 17 and am finally in a comfortable financial situation, since spending some decent coin on watches in the last 12 months shes decided she wants implants.

Now I know nothing about them, where to go what to do etc.

Can anyone on here recommend a great doc or have any experiences / knowhow to share?

Im lost and really dont want the most special thing in my life messing up.

[rr-nyc]

I don't know what kind of advice you're seeking from a watch forum but I would suggest consulting one of the many BH plastic surgeons to discuss the options. Shop around for the "right" plastic surgeon. Look at their work and have a discussion about the options.

Silicon gel is the most "real" feeling and looking but will require a much larger incision, most likely around the areola. Sometimes, an incision under arm will work but it really depends on the size of the implant and her anatomy. If your wife scars easily, I would avoid the areola route.

Saline implants can be done from the belly button with little or no visible marks afterwards. The drawback is they don't feel as "real" as silicon and if the don't fill the implant completely, rippling can occur and can be seen from the side at certain angles.

[NYC6]

"bolt ons" first time I've heard that.

[britincali]

Originally Posted by rr-nyc

I don't know what kind of advice you're seeking from a watch forum but I would suggest consulting one of the many BH plastic surgeons to discuss the options. Shop around for the "right" plastic surgeon. Look at their work and have a discussion about the options.

Silicon gel is the most "real" feeling and looking but will require a much larger incision, most likely around the areola. Sometimes, an incision under arm will work but it really depends on the size of the implant and her anatomy. If your wife scars easily, I would avoid the areola route.

Saline implants can be done from the belly button with little or no visible marks afterwards. The drawback is they don't feel as "real" as silicon and if the don't fill the implant completely, rippling can occur and can be seen from the side at certain angles.

Thanks man, very sound advice :)

Im just trying to get some decent referals for docs in the southern california area, there seem to be a lot of doctors on here so I figured it would be a great place to ask

[britincali]

Originally Posted by NYC6

"bolt ons" first time I've heard that.

In the car business we call them "port installed options"

[subtona]

recommend some of this =

1)they need a tune up every so many years... so your kind of bargaining for multiple surgeries.
2)elective surgery can be frightening??? your depending on an anesthesiologist for maintaining life functions... i don't know too many people who have had major surgery but 2 of them had disastrous outcomes complications from anesthesia.


if its the equitable distribution of cash that your trying to balance against your watch hobby, why not write her a check or take her or send her on the vacation of her dreams?

why invite possible trouble to your special person?


i would politely say it is entirely up to you, but its not my thing, i love you just the way you are:-)

[Welshwatchman]

Originally Posted by britincali

Im lost and really dont want the most special thing in my life messing up.

Talk her out of it.

Does she know for a fact that she is the most special thing, as you say?

Perhaps that's all she needs to know.

Now I'm already out way out of my depth, advice wise, I'll go.

[Dr.Brian]

I know a thing or 2 about anesthesia...
Serious complications from anesthesia are very rare, even in quite ill patients.
If your wife is fairly healthy, it's low risk surgery.
Considering where you live, it should be easy to find an experienced board certified plastic surgeon. Good surgeons tend to get good anesthesiologists as well.
Good luck. It's best to go big and not come back for an upgrade in 2 years. Many do.

[Dilemma]

I have no advice. I do have a request; PICS!

[eman1200]

LOL, agree with PICS!!!!!

[britincali]

LOL @ the pics request, I knew that was coming !!!!!

[britincali]

Shes really worried about scarring and nerve damage...

[gypsy jim]

I'm going out on a limb here. Tell her they are fine the way they are. Both of my sister-in-laws had "bolt-ons" installed and they are always tugging their shirts to cover them or wearing bulky sweaters as if they are now sorry they had the upgrades. Just my two cents.

[Lisa]

Originally Posted by britincali

Shes really worried about scarring and nerve damage...

Most surgeons will say about 10 percent of patients have lasting numbness, either at the incision site or elsewhere. I think the numbers of patients who end up with permanent nerve damage and loss of, or unpleasant changes in, sensation, or chronic discomfort, are under-reported. Wow, that was an awkward sentence. And it's just my non-scientific opinion from talking with a few women (including my sister) who have had it done.

[Mosco]

LOLing at the pic requests...

No sound advice here, do what makes both of you happy.

[subtona]

Originally Posted by Dr.Brian

I know a thing or 2 about anesthesia...
Serious complications from anesthesia are very rare, even in quite ill patients.
If your wife is fairly healthy, it's low risk surgery.
Considering where you live, it should be easy to find an experienced board certified plastic surgeon. Good surgeons tend to get good anesthesiologists as well.
Good luck. It's best to go big and not come back for an upgrade in 2 years. Many do.

ill tell you straight i don't know anything about anesthesia, except 2 things
1) went in for ankle surgery (otherwise healthy) came out with the mind of a child. has a wife and 2 kids
2)went in for spinal surgery and due to anesthesia complications, the surgery had to be buttoned up in a jiffy to save the life... partial paralysis was the result specifically to 1 leg and bladder.

fyi the above is from 2 long time coworkers in an office of 50 people.

if it is a necessary procedure the risk is one thing, but for elective surgery i think i would... ... about it.

[Rolodex5551212]

Who is she trying to impress (probably not you)? Sounds like you must have been impressed already if you stuck with her for 14 years. Some people just have low self-esteem.

[Lisa]

Originally Posted by Rolodex5551212

Who is she trying to impress (probably not you)? Sounds like you must have been impressed already if you stuck with her for 14 years. Some people just have low self-esteem.

It's society's fault! We're bombarded with images of what women should look like - and almost always big, luscious breasts are part of that. It's tough for many women to accept themselves as they are. That's one reason why I admire celebrities like Kate Hudson. She's got teensy breasts but exudes confidence and sexiness. And she's gorgeous, too.

[paddy_crow]

Silly cones...

[johnbeth]

When it comes to boltons, anything more then a hand full is a waste.

Seriously now, visit a few plastic surgeons and they will advise you on whats best in regards to look and feel and size for your wife.

Please do your own research as you will find horror stories been posted on the net, so you are aware of what can go wrong.

[Rolodex5551212]

Originally Posted by Lisa

It's society's fault! We're bombarded with images of what women should look like - and almost always big, luscious breasts are part of that. It's tough for many women to accept themselves as they are. That's one reason why I admire celebrities like Kate Hudson. She's got teensy breasts but exudes confidence and sexiness. And she's gorgeous, too.

I agree with your 110%. You don't need big boobs to be sexy. Boobs are not everything!

[Saxon007]

Originally Posted by Welshwatchman

Talk her out of it.

x2

[rsg]

Okay, I've sat in on breast enhancement surgery. I watched a beautiful woman have saline implant put in through her armpits. There was nothing wrong with her breast to begin with. Every surgeon I've spoke with has said that they have never had a client complain they are too big.
Here s how it works. They make an incision in the armpit and dissect tissue from the armpit to the chest creating a capsule that the implant will occupy. The capsule is created by sliding a large metal instrument through the armpit into the chest and scraping away the connective tissue. The implant is them positioned in the chest inits deflated position with a small bladder outside of the armpit. Saline is then injected into the bladder until the desired size is achieved. The nurse then sits the patient up (still under anesthesia) and the doctor checks to make sure the implants look good. If not final adjustments are made. Never has a patient complained about too big.
Every patient need at least a second surgery, most need multiple.
Convince her she is beautiful the way she is.

[mikea]

Love my wifes!

[Launch Mini]

Have your wife check out my friends site. Www deliciousdames.com

It's a site to help women accept who they are as they are. She. Is located near Hollywood.
Unless it is reconstructive no need to to do it. Just my $.02

[colpol]

Originally Posted by britincali

Can anyone on here recommend a great doc or have any experiences / knowhow to share?

Im lost and really dont want the most special thing in my life messing up.

The guy asks for advise & as per usual which I've noticed a lot more lately - we get the post way off track by people offering there point rather than what the OP asked for inc a pic of some celeb with the body of a 12 year old school boy ..... !!!

Anyway man - no expert but check out this site & make sure you do lots of research. There was a fairly high profile in the UK\ Scotland a few years ago. The ex-captain of the scotland football team's wife went in for a cosmetic procedure - I think a tummy tuck. Complications set in - she was really ill for a few years & eventually died. I think it was due to the surgeon they used - who wasn't the best. If your wife does decide to go for it - make sure you really, really do your research

http://www.plasticsurgery.org/

[RRY]

Originally Posted by Lisa

Real is real sexy.

[Lisa]

Originally Posted by colpol

The guy asks for advise & as per usual which I've noticed a lot more lately - we get the post way off track by people offering there point rather than what the OP asked for inc a pic of some celeb with the body of a 12 year old school boy ..... !!!

Anyway man - no expert but check out this site & make sure you do lots of research. There was a fairly high profile in the UK\ Scotland a few years ago. The ex-captain of the scotland football team's wife went in for a cosmetic procedure - I think a tummy tuck. Complications set in - she was really ill for a few years & eventually died. I think it was due to the surgeon they used - who wasn't the best. If your wife does decide to go for it - make sure you really, really do your research

http://www.plasticsurgery.org/

Do you think Kate Hudson should get implants, then, so she'll look like real woman? Heaven forbid she should be so unfortunate to have breasts that make her look like a schoolboy.

The OP did ask if anyone had experiences to share. That's an important part of making a decision. I for one think it's very, very important to look at all sides of the issue - but with breast implant surgery, it's a little trickier to find information that hasn't tended to be glamorized.

To the OP - try an image search for "complications breast augmentation." Most complications aren't life threatening, but they do require more surgery.

As for women regretting that they went "too big" - it does happen. And the bigger the implant, the more likely it is to have problems, especially with lasting numbness and discomfort. I've talked to women who have had implants who now can't stand to have their breasts touched.

Of course, finding a board-certified plastic surgeon is the way to go, but they're not infallible. Their idea of what looks right for you might not match what you had envisioned. And the best surgeon out there can't guarantee against unacceptable scarring and permanent loss of sensation.

No implant feels like a real breast, either.

[dddrees]

Originally Posted by Lisa

Do you think Kate Hudson should get implants, then, so she'll look like real woman? Heaven forbid she should be so unfortunate to have breasts that make her look like a schoolboy.

The OP did ask if anyone had experiences to share. That's an important part of making a decision. I for one think it's very, very important to look at all sides of the issue - but with breast implant surgery, it's a little trickier to find information that hasn't tended to be glamorized.

To the OP - try an image search for "complications breast augmentation." Most complications aren't life threatening, but they do require more surgery.

As for women regretting that they went "too big" - it does happen. And the bigger the implant, the more likely it is to have problems, especially with lasting numbness and discomfort. I've talked to women who have had implants who now can't stand to have their breasts touched.

Of course, finding a board-certified plastic surgeon is the way to go, but they're not infallible. Their idea of what looks right for you might not match what you had envisioned. And the best surgeon out there can't guarantee against unacceptable scarring and permanent loss of sensation.

No implant feels like a real breast, either.

Very well said Lisa.

To the OP, if your wife does decide to go forward with this I hope everything works out for the best.

[ratae1950]

The procedure leaves a scar and to my trained eye as a lecherous git look quite grotesque. They bring to mind the great line in the 'History Boys' referring I believe to Da Vinci's nudes--"...they look like men with tits put on with ice cream scoops.."
You might save a few bob by having her see a therapist.
The amusing 'bolt ons' sums it up!