I also need advice on dating women...

[BarkMaster]

Paul, I think you need someone who challenges you: someone you consider at least an equal.

[BH13GMT]

Paul (great name btw)

no need to go to the dark side, hanging out with Vader may not be your thing (Sorry Lisa)

Do you have a good network of buddies (TRF not included) who can introduce ladies in a non specific social group fashion. I have a lot of non married friends (in their mid 40's) who swear that their best source of finding likeminded women has always been a friend of friend with whom they can socialise a little within the group before making any moves. Always have that sense of humour on tap and dont look like your sharking. When that fin appear above the head, the ladies run a mile!!!!
I am sure there are loads of ladies out there who are looking for a guy that used to fly fast jets for the Navy, has an international group of friends and one in sweden , knows how to take a joke and can dish a few out at the same time and has the cleanest Daytona in CONUS
Back to the point in hand, tap in to that social network if you can, it could be a winner on may fronts.
I hope the Chateau Neuf De Pap was talking too much.

Paul

[keschete]

Originally Posted by TheVTCGuy

This may come as a HUGE shock to some (many...all) of you, but I really don't (never have) had trouble finding women that would be interested in dating me. I'm not TOO scary looking, charming, fun, and, oh yeah, some people say I have a pretty good sense of humor I've had several dates with nice ladies the last few months, and I know a couple at least, we're interested in continuing, it's just that, I don't find that "spark" any more.

Like with my ex-girlfriend, our relationship ended over a year ago now but I remember very clearly, even after almost a year and a half of dating, I'd still get nervous when I called her. You know what I'm talking about, those butterflies in your stomache, was always excited to see her... I miss that. I've been out with nice ladies, but... there just isn't that ... "spark" with any of them... Sigh....

How about it? To any other middle-aged single people, is it gone forever? Am I destined to move (back) in with Jocke and live my life a hermit? Do you ever get that Spark again? Even at my stage in life? I hope so....


Besides, mine as well either give up dating all together or turn gay, the best woman in the world is already married... and lives in Oklahoma.

Paul, it isn't about having a "magical spark" when you meet. It is about having someone you like and making the spark for yourselves.

I think if you are a reasonable adult, you find someone that you like and that you have some common interests with and then create the relationship as you go.

Rudy and I were attracted to each other, but the sparks flew when we got serious, because we both wanted a relationship. He moved in with me after a week and we were married within 10 months and we have been married 18 years.

Sometimes there aren't sparks, you have to work at making that happen. When you do, you will find how happy it makes you! Nothing good ever comes without effort!!

[Andad]

Good post Kaya.

Does Rudy have a friend?