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[superdog]

Originally Posted by Brenngun

Would normally agree with you Grady. I'm very loyal to my friends but in this case based on the kind of vitriol responses and lack of any respect I'd quickly write him off as a friend period. Has nothing to do with debt or no debt, meeting a self imposed deadline or not and everything to do with mutual respect and decent communication.

AND this guy showed up out of the blue after many long years.

[Rock]

I would never under any circumstances ask anyone for a loan.
We funded our home without a mortgage through years of hard work and sacrifice.
If we couldn't afford it we didn't buy it.
I would never loan somebody money.
If I had it and I thought they were a close friend and a genuine case then I would give it to them as a gift.
Banks are for loans.

[handsfull]

Originally Posted by ronin_ph

Weird thing to post on TRF, however was this last part that got me:

I will send u the $ when I get f**king $ to send u, until then I wish I never ever asked u for a favor. Go buy another watch or something superficial too make u feel better.

^^....A "FRIEND" he is not. This sentence made that crystal clear.

[Knappo 1307]

Originally Posted by GradyPhilpott

I wouldn't burn any bridges if I were the OP.

I've loaned money to a friend on multiple occasions and he always tells me that he'll pay me on a given schedule and to date he's never kept that schedule, but he has always paid me back.

Anymore I'm not even sure if he'll live long enough to pay me back when I lend him money, but ultimately it doesn't matter because he's my friend and I want to help him.

Being a friend doesn't mean being a bill collector.

Being a friend means being there in the time of need.

Move on from the issue, but leave the bridges intact.

Yea, but did your "Friend" tell you to F*** off? I think the point here is this particular person isn't a friend and had no intention of paying back the money. The friend burnt the bridge already, not the OP. IMHO.

[Watchflair]

Originally Posted by GradyPhilpott

Chalk it up to charity and move on.

In the long haul, it's probably the cheapest way to find out the true nature of your "friend."

So beyond true.

[CRM114]

Originally Posted by ronin_ph

Weird thing to post on TRF, however was this last part that got me:

I will send u the $ when I get f**king $ to send u, until then I wish I never ever asked u for a favor. Go buy another watch or something superficial too make u feel better.


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Never trust someone who makes an effort to spell out entire words like "f**king" and "superficial" in the course of insulting you, but can't be bothered to spell out the word "you", "money", or use "too" correctly. He writes like a petulant 12 year-old in the schoolyard.

Judging by the venom it seems he has some pretty deep psychological problems, almost like he believes he's entitled to monetary "favors" from anyone he happened to meet in his life, asked-for under the guise of a "loan" and then moves the goalposts as far as repayment promises. I mean, how dare you question his ever-changing, open-ended timetable?

The world is now full of arrested-development bratty children masquerading as adults where this sort of verbal immaturity and vitriol has become acceptable instead of rightfully being a source of great embarrassment and shame (thanks a lot Jerry Springer).

[ronin_ph]

Originally Posted by CRM114

Never trust someone who makes an effort to spell out entire words like "f**king" and "superficial" in the course of insulting you, but can't be bothered to spell out the word "you", "money", or use "too" correctly. He writes like a petulant 12 year-old in the schoolyard.

Judging by the venom it seems he has some pretty deep psychological problems, almost like he believes he's entitled to monetary "favors" from anyone he happened to meet in his life, asked-for under the guise of a "loan" and then moves the goalposts as far as repayment promises. I mean, how dare you question his ever-changing, open-ended timetable?

The world is now full of arrested-development bratty children masquerading as adults where this sort of verbal immaturity and vitriol has become acceptable instead of rightfully being a source of great embarrassment and shame (thanks a lot Jerry Springer).

Yeah, I'm pretty set on making things uncomfortable for him.


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[brandrea]

Forgive and move on. I have a feeling that the OP doesn't need the pound of flesh as he was compassionate enough to lend him the money in the first place.

[droptopman]

Originally Posted by THC

hey Moose, Rocko, help the judge find his checkbook....

Lol "Al Czervik". If I remember you have quoted one of my favorite all time movies before. Keep em coming.

This is always tough. As others have posted loaning money to friends and family can lead to the end of the relationship.
I can't even remember how many times I have been through this. I am not a softy or a sucker but my wife and I both feel very blessed and try to help others when we can. She a little more so than I. But in 99% of the cases it ends the relationship. I usually just consider it a gift on the front end to avoid disappointment.
No lawyer, but without "legal" paperwork I don't think there is much recourse.
In the end it may be Karma that settles the debt.