How do you convince your significant other?

[SUBversive]

Originally Posted by cop414

True story, years ago when first dating my GF we were in a store, can't remember where. I had picked up some silly item and she took it out of the cart and put it back on the shelf and told me that I didn't need it. I put it back in and said to her on the spot that I work very, very hard for my money. I don't tell you how to spend yours. If you try to tell me how to spend mine we're going to have relationship problems. If I'm buying a 10,000 dollar watch and my bills aren't being paid then by all means speak up, but otherwise butt out. Seems kind of harsh but I wasn't about to start a relationship with her hands on my purchases. Haven't had any problem since. I guess that if you nip it in the bud you don't have problems later.
I do say though that it works both ways. I don't ever try to tell her how to spend her moner either. She buys some things that I just shake my head at, but hey, it's her well earned cash she can do what she wants with it. YMMV

I thought you mentioned that you were divorced?

[samsmart]

With my Rolex Purchases I explain to her that its like putting money in the bank, they are investments, investments that I can show off.

[samsmart]

Originally Posted by SUBversive

I thought you mentioned that you were divorced?

Maybe the girl friend is why he got divorced. Makes perfect since!

[ronmiller65]

Originally Posted by cop414

True story, years ago when first dating my GF we were in a store, can't remember where. I had picked up some silly item and she took it out of the cart and put it back on the shelf and told me that I didn't need it. I put it back in and said to her on the spot that I work very, very hard for my money. I don't tell you how to spend yours. If you try to tell me how to spend mine we're going to have relationship problems. If I'm buying a 10,000 dollar watch and my bills aren't being paid then by all means speak up, but otherwise butt out. Seems kind of harsh but I wasn't about to start a relationship with her hands on my purchases. Haven't had any problem since. I guess that if you nip it in the bud you don't have problems later.
I do say though that it works both ways. I don't ever try to tell her how to spend her moner either. She buys some things that I just shake my head at, but hey, it's her well earned cash she can do what she wants with it. YMMV

Well said Tim. That exact conversation may happen in two weeks when I pick up my new DJII. She was ok with my first sub four years ago, but this next one..... who knows?

[SUBversive]

Originally Posted by samsmart

With my Rolex Purchases I explain to her that its like putting money in the bank, they are investments, investments that I can show off.

Would never ever work for me. I use the more direct approach and stick with a black bezel insert so I can say its the same watch.

[samsmart]

Originally Posted by SUBversive

Would never ever work for me. I use the more direct approach and stick with a black bezel insert so I can say its the same watch.

That's awesome.

I am working on a GMT II project right now. She knows I am changing some things up on it. I figure from here on out, I will just say its the same watch, I just changed the Insert, and Bracelet.

[c.rod]

Originally Posted by SUBversive

Would never ever work for me. I use the more direct approach and stick with a black bezel insert so I can say its the same watch.

its a lot easier for me to pull that trick with another hobby...
black projectile launchers that fit in your hand.. they all tend to look the same to her.....lol

[zhiunit]

my girlfriend wants to pawn off my watches while im asleep =(

[samsmart]

Originally Posted by zhiunit

my girlfriend wants to pawn off my watches while im asleep =(

That's why I sleep with them on.

[Chaching]

Originally Posted by samsmart

With my Rolex Purchases I explain to her that its like putting money in the bank, they are investments, investments that I can show off.

Exactly! I ended up getting her one too now she has the Rolex Bug too...oh boy....

[samsmart]

I have been trying that with my wife.

[sparky]

bought her's first........ then 6 for me, one more for her.

[Lisa]

We both like wristwatches.... no issues.

[h999r]

My GF so smart, she let me buy the daytona and AP 39mm, after 2 months of borrowing and returning things, now become hers forever.

[007bond]

Originally Posted by TimeOnMyHands

I bought her a ROLEX of her very own. She loves it. Has worn it daily for over four years since the AD fitted the bracelet for her. She 'understands' now...

Excellent point made here.
i'm hoping mine follows this example: her new 36mm DJ is on the way.
Should make my life easier when adding more Rolexes.
This entire discussion gives RF another great reason to exist.
So glad to see different points of view.

[Marciano490]

My girlfriend was not pleased when I told her I wanted an AP. We have a pretty volatile relationship, so I waited until we broke up for a week, bought it and any anger over the purchase was lost in the lovey dovey reconciliation.

[samsmart]

Originally Posted by John in MA

When my house-boss and I were first married we ended up having to sell all of our stuff to break our lease so I could take a new job across the country due to bouncing paychecks and she being laid off (never work for the same company). Four years later our private business failed and we ran the risk of loosing the house due to the small business loan. I liquidated my collection and took a hit to the 401k to stay solvent and wore a g-shock for a year. I still keep it as a reminder.

She did what she could on her end with some of her jewelry though i wouldn't let her touch her 401k. Those experiences proved to my wife that I will never let a hobby get in the way of our family being able to live and she respects that (even to the tune of me selling my 1st Tudor Sub I received the day she told me she was pregnant with our daughter, the same watch I wore at her birth and had some high sentimental value to me). This coupled with the fact that I don't get excessive results in her not being concerned. I've earned it as has she over the years. We've been married for 15 years and have a combined bank account. Never understood married couples that have separate accounts personally.

Cool story John! I had to sell my First Rolex years ago to make payroll at my small business so the paychecks I wrote wouldn't bounce. These watches really are an investment. I wore that watch for 5 years, and sold it for $1500 for than I paid. 1989 no date sub. been on the hunt for the same watch since!

[samsmart]

Originally Posted by samsmart

Cool story John! I had to sell my First Rolex years ago to make payroll at my small business so the paychecks I wrote wouldn't bounce. These watches really are an investment. I wore that watch for 5 years, and sold it for $1500 for than I paid. 1989 no date sub. been on the hunt for the same watch since!

*more

[samsam]

Originally Posted by Daytona-Dan

I think you're confusing this with how they convince us?

[samsam]

Very interesting stories.

As I said in the OP, this is just for fun and to lighten things up here in the forum. No need to over think.

For my first rolex, I just told her that it was my dream watch and I wanted it since I was a little kid (true story). Now for the rest of my watches, it is a different story. We would sit and talk about it and decide together.

I am a guy that is very independent, but I like my wife to share my decisions and it feels great when my wife compliment my watch when I wear it knowing that she had a say in picking it up.

[cop414]

Originally Posted by SUBversive

I thought you mentioned that you were divorced?

Ri, that is correct. This conversation was with my girlfriend and it's a conversation that would have never happened with my ex wife when we were married.
Divorce taught me many things about myself as well as relationships. Sounds kind of selfish but I learned that the first person you have to look out for is yourself. Take care of yourself and then you are able to take care of the loved ones around you.
I've been known to say about my divorce... it's the worst thing that ever happened to me but it was the best thing that ever happened to me. Those who have been through it will understand.

[cop414]

Originally Posted by SamSam

Very interesting stories.

As I said in the OP, this is just for fun and to lighten things up here in the forum. No need to over think.

For my first rolex, I just told her that it was my dream watch and I wanted it since I was a little kid (true story). Now for the rest of my watches, it is a different story. We would sit and talk about it and decide together.

I am a guy that is very independent, but I like my wife to share my decisions and it feels great when my wife compliment my watch when I wear it knowing that she had a say in picking it up.

Well said Sam, very well said.

[MonBK]

Originally Posted by cop414

Ri, that is correct. This conversation was with my girlfriend and it's a conversation that would have never happened with my ex wife when we were married.
Divorce taught me many things about myself as well as relationships. Sounds kind of selfish but I learned that the first person you have to look out for is yourself. Take care of yourself and then you are able to take care of the loved ones around you.
I've been known to say about my divorce... it's the worst thing that ever happened to me but it was the best thing that ever happened to me. Those who have been through it will understand.

I guess you know why divorces are so expensive......................................... .................................................. ....because they are worth it.

[John in MA]

Originally Posted by samsmart

Cool story John! I had to sell my First Rolex years ago to make payroll at my small business so the paychecks I wrote wouldn't bounce. These watches really are an investment. I wore that watch for 5 years, and sold it for $1500 for than I paid. 1989 no date sub. been on the hunt for the same watch since!

Appreciate it Sam.

Nothing humbles you more and helps you know you married the right woman then to be living out of boxes in a hotel room for 3 weeks till you get your first paycheck at a new job and then almost loose your house a few years later. All these years later we look at it as a well planned learning experience for us and it brought us closer together and made discussing finances not an issue which it can be for some marriages.

The Lord was watching out for us in those experiences most definitely.

[cop414]

Originally Posted by MonBK

I guess you know why divorces are so expensive......................................... .................................................. ....because they are worth it.

Yeeeooouch... In the long run I guess it was worth it, in the short term it's devastating to those involved. Good to be able to look back and chuckle about it now, not too funny when one is in the middle though.

[Israguard]

I take after the US Military.. I call it operation "shock and awe.. And you can have one too honey". Has worked 8 times.

Last watch I bought was the 18k DDII. Got it for myself on Dec 14. Didn't say a word to my Wife. On Dec 27 we fly to FL for a cruise, 2nd or 3rd day into cruise at dinner she notices my watch and says "nice watch congrats".. I swear that's it.

I'm very very lucky that way. Mind u.. I also had a brand new car in driveway and it took her almost a week to notice.."oh they all look same to me".

I believe that for those who don't have it that easy, best thing is to involve your wife/husband and take them with you.

[cruvon]

Originally Posted by chicfarmer1

It's really not that difficult.

[jshepard]

My wife is pretty supportive of it. I've told her I've got a limit... I got one more to go but as long as I put distance between the purchases and I only use the money I set aside in small amounts at a time monthly, then I'm all good. What takes convincing is letting me get her a nice watch... She doesn't care for expensive watches. I won't push her if it'll keep her off my back about my watches!

[andromeda160]

Originally Posted by SamSam

This is not a very serious question.

I am guessing most people here can afford an expensive watch (or more), but I find it difficult every time I am planning a new watch-hunt to convince my wife that I want to buy another watch (although we can afford it and she knows that I really love watches.)

I am wondering, how do you guys deal with this issues without sleeping on the sofa for a week after every new purchase??

any time I buy a watch or anything my girlfriends really cool with it, I told her I found a 50 gram 14kt gold rope at the pawn shop he'll sell me for scrap and I was buying a solid gold Harley charm to go with it and it was $1800 total for everything which was how much gold was in it, and she freaked saying how its a waste of money and too much ladadadada. which I found to a surprise. but I compromised, told her I didn't need the solid gold Harley charm with diamond and solid gold spinning wheels and i'd just get the necklace instead and we were good

[Wllnv19]

My wife just shakes her head and says another watch,as long as our responsibilities to the household are met I don't tell her how to spend her money and she doesn't tell me how to spend mine. That's it works