I also need advice on dating women...

[TheVTCGuy]

What? This is a surprise to any of you?

[Darlinboy]

There is no instruction book.

It's all on-the-job training.

The good news.... it is safe to wear your Rolex while doing so.

[esm]

Originally Posted by TheVTCGuy

What? This is a surprise to any of you?

just go with your gut feel, Paul

[bayerische]

You must wear the wrong watch Paul!

What Rolex impresses women? Threads should be back!

[mjclark32]

Smile and say yes

[Lisa]

Paul, maybe you need to set up an appointment with this gal.

[figbo]

Simple rule.

[Lisa]

Raf, I like your pie chart best... you know, the one about liking the same things and hating the same things....

[dddrees]

Originally Posted by figbo

Simple rule.

Funny, that's what my wife keeps telling me.

[btrue]

Try not to over think things or listen to conjecture and old wife's tales. Just be yourself and that will eventually be enough for someone who is right for you.

[GradyPhilpott]

Two words: Forget it!

[Chipmunk]

Originally Posted by btrue

Try not to over think things or listen to conjecture and old wife's tales. Just be yourself and that will eventually be enough for someone who is right for you.

He tried that already but it didn't work.

[taughtmepatience]

Don't be too aggressive right off the bat. Women can smell desperation from ten miles away. Oh yeah... and be yourself.

[TheVTCGuy]

This may come as a HUGE shock to some (many...all) of you, but I really don't (never have) had trouble finding women that would be interested in dating me. I'm not TOO scary looking, charming, fun, and, oh yeah, some people say I have a pretty good sense of humor I've had several dates with nice ladies the last few months, and I know a couple at least, we're interested in continuing, it's just that, I don't find that "spark" any more.

Like with my ex-girlfriend, our relationship ended over a year ago now but I remember very clearly, even after almost a year and a half of dating, I'd still get nervous when I called her. You know what I'm talking about, those butterflies in your stomache, was always excited to see her... I miss that. I've been out with nice ladies, but... there just isn't that ... "spark" with any of them... Sigh....

How about it? To any other middle-aged single people, is it gone forever? Am I destined to move (back) in with Jocke and live my life a hermit? Do you ever get that Spark again? Even at my stage in life? I hope so....


Besides, mine as well either give up dating all together or turn gay, the best woman in the world is already married... and lives in Oklahoma.

[figbo]

I'm such a troll...

[figbo]

Originally Posted by Lisa

Raf, I like your pie chart best... you know, the one about liking the same things and hating the same things....

Here is one similar,Lisa.

[FeelingTheBlues]

Originally Posted by TheVTCGuy

This may come as a HUGE shock to some (many...all) of you, but I really don't (never have) had trouble finding women that would be interested in dating me. I'm not TOO scary looking, charming, fun, and, oh yeah, some people say I have a pretty good sense of humor I've had several dates with nice ladies the last few months, and I know a couple at least, we're interested in continuing, it's just that, I don't find that "spark" any more.

Like with my ex-girlfriend, our relationship ended over a year ago now but I remember very clearly, even after almost a year and a half of dating, I'd still get nervous when I called her. You know what I'm talking about, those butterflies in your stomache, was always excited to see her... I miss that. I've been out with nice ladies, but... there just isn't that ... "spark" with any of them... Sigh....

How about it? To any other middle-aged single people, is it gone forever? Am I destined to move (back) in with Jocke and live my life a hermit? Do you ever get that Spark again? Even at my stage in life? I hope so....


Besides, mine as well either give up dating all together or turn gay, the best woman in the world is already married... and lives in Oklahoma.

I get that sparkle when I talk to you Paul...

Now how come I'm not the best person in Montreal in your book eh!?

[chicfarmer1]

Originally Posted by TheVTCGuy

To any other middle-aged single people, is it gone forever? Am I destined to move (back) in with Jocke and live my life a hermit? Do you ever get that Spark again? Even at my stage in life?

Of course you should expect to find joy again. I witnessed it myself with my own father, a widower. He remarried in his late 50s and had what I observed to be a very satisfying and loving life; my stepmother became my mother, a truly fine person. So I know it's possible.

Rooting for you.

[Lisa]

I dunno Paul.... maybe you could give the other team a try. I'm teasing, but you do remind me of a story shared by a cute, pert gal I used to work with. She was married to a minister for more than 10 years. She never felt a "spark" for him, and she would ask herself, "is this all there is?" Something was missing, but she had no idea what, or why she felt that way. Then, she was at a big event, an art show or something, and her eyes met with someone from across the room... that spark ignited. It was a woman! And guess what? She's never looked back. She and her husband amicably parted ways and she finally started living the life she was meant to have. Last I heard, she's living happily ever after.

Moral of the story? I'm not sure. Maybe you need to go to more art shows?

[Lisa]

Oh dear... this happens too often. I make a completely dorky and pointless post moments after a very wise, intelligent and articulate woman posts something meaningful.

[chicfarmer1]

Lisa, you know we tag team. I'm up next for the comic post after your next very thoughtful one!

[Jocke]

Originally Posted by Lisa

Then, she was at a big event, an art show or something, and her eyes met with someone from across the room... that spark ignited. It was a woman! And guess what? She's never looked back. She and her husband amicably parted ways and she finally started living the life she was meant to have. Last I heard, she's living happily ever after.

Lisa don't give him some ideas, I'm still happy with my wife.

[The Joker]

Paul if I come to San Diego and we go out on the pull you can be my Wingman anytime. You can engage the minger, whilst I go in for the kill with the hottie.

How does that sound?

[Johny]

hi paul...just move back to jockes. you know that he went to a lot of trouble to build you a room.

[rfknauss]

Paul ...... always glad to help you out ..... so here is my advice.

[mfer]

dumb luck while keeping your head up.

[TheVTCGuy]

Originally Posted by The Joker

Paul if I come to San Diego and we go out on the pull you can be my Wingman anytime. You can engage the minger, whilst I go in for the kill with the hottie.

How does that sound?

Perfect Wes! My motto was always: Go Ugly Early!

[threemonkeys]

I'm 45 and happily married. But I swear - if I became single I would probably just stay home and read a book. I'm not sure that I could find that 'spark' with anyone either.

How's that for encouragement? But seriously - I think love bites you on the butt when you're least expecting it. And if it doesn't, you can always fall back on Raf's online suggestion.

[Lisa]

Originally Posted by threemonkeys

I'm 45 and happily married. But I swear - if I became single I would probably just stay home and read a book. I'm not sure that I could find that 'spark' with anyone either.

.

I feel exactly the same way, Craig. Raising kids has a way of pulling your priorities in a different direction.

[The Joker]

Blimey, come on guys, you're not in a retirement home.. yet.

Now you should all go out and rent Cocoon, that should make you all feel better.