How Do You Feel About Keeping Up With High School Classmates & Attending Reunions?

[Taffi Abernathy]

I joined a couple of web sites where I can catch up with high school classmates and they with me. While it was initially fun, it now seems like an annoyance. I have retained contact over the years with some high school friends, and due to the mobility of our society, many have relocated to different parts of the country. (I, too, moved to San Diego from Philly for grad school and stayed for almost 15 years.)

Do you keep in contact with high school friends? Attend reunions? Have you joined signed up with sites that put you in touch with your school friends? There is a big reunion planned for my high school graduating class in the not-to-distant future, and I'm finding I have little motivation to attend. I have 4 or 5 people on a site now to whom I should respond, and I'd simply like to send along a brief, perfunctory message. What's your feelings and experiences been like regarding renewed interaction with high school buddies and reunions?

[pz93c]

Nah.

I'm out.

I didn't like them then, either.

[2careless]

I have only kept in touch with 3-4 classmates who I can call mates.
There was a big 25 years reunion a couple years back that I didn't know and if I did know I wouldn't have attended anyway. Adding to the fact that I've moved to Australia which costs a fortune to go anywhere didn't help.

[Yume-sama]

No thanks.

[diablojota]

I keep in touch with a couple of people from high school, etc. Facebook has really helped. I went to a small school though. My class only had 69 students. I did go to my 10 year high school reunion. But that said, there are only a few that I really keep up with.

[jdc]

Not for me. However my wife has organised for the past ten years school GTG twice a year, all ages and old school teachers attend

[Uncle-AJ]

I would think most of my old school mates are dead.

[Trurolexer]

Sometimes I still hang out with my High School Friends. Many of 'em.

[East Bay Rider]

Originally Posted by pz93c

Nah.

I'm out.

I didn't like them then, either.

Exactly

[sea-dweller]

I did initially after high school (first 5-10 years). However, life takes it's turns and twists and other priorities often take hold. What happens is that you lose touch eventually, I have found. I kept in touch with 2 of them 20 years after graduation, but we have recently stopped communicating and lost contact.

[swissautopro]

No thanks

[generic0]

I just got my 10y reunion invite...$42 per ticket (me and wife)!!?? Whaaat? It's just dinner...

So the answer is, "no."

[Lisa]

When our 20 year reunion notices went out, they wanted more than $300 for event tickets. Please. I didn't go. Most of the people I would care about seeing feel the same way I do about reunions - they wouldn't be there, either!

[iSellJerseyShore]

My 10yr reunion is coming up next year, I don't think I will go. Most of the people in my graduating class (and town) are fake and lack true loyalty. It must be something in the water! LoL


-Frankie

[Cato]

I am curious what they are up to; but, I generally had a bad experience in high school I can do without the resurrected memories.

[BigHat]

Funny you posted this as I just got a notice of our first HS reunion in 35 years. I guess we picked the wrong class officers. My mother was VP of her class and I'll always remember her making endless calls trying to track down classmates. She felt it was an obligation.

I'd have to travel quite a ways, so I'm somewhat torn about the investment in vacation time. While I've done well in my chosen field, still have all my hair (in the original color for the most part) and have kept in pretty good shape, I have to think it will end up being more of a" success contest" than a chance to rekindle old friendships. High school is really an interesting time. While I played sports and had a decent circle of friends, I wasn't the prom king or quarterback of the football team. I always thought it must be sad for those that had those experiences as the high point of their lives.

Frankly I'd rather remember old girlfriends as they looked then anyway.

[Mini2]

Well its quite funny. My close group of mates are made up of 16. And none of us made it or wanted to go to uni or in america college.

From not being the brightest spark in school people use to look down at you but its amazing how when your doing very well for yourselfs there giving you praise saying " there was always something about you, very business minded" utted b/s

Im happy with my clsoe 16 mates and the rest can go suck my big toe and wax my lamborghini (at the moment audi tt) but im only 22 the lambo is only a stone throw away.

What i have learnt since i got to this age is that wether your bright or not, wether your black, white, orange or green everyone is the same. People should not have to put up with shite when your so young and tender.

Oh well, bring on the bespoke suits, nice watches, italian shoes and fast cars..not forgetting the models and vintage champange :) here here

[Arby]

I left Albuquerque, New Mexico 2 weeks after I graduated High School and I haven't been back since 1977 (I live over 2000 miles away in New Jersey). So I guess the answer to the question is "NO".

[chu88y]

still friends with some,but can't be doing with the "what you doing bla bla bla "

[Lion]

I have a couple of friends that I keep in contact with but other then them I really do not care for reunions. I did go to my 30th reunion and it was fun to see how people have changed over the years!!!

[Carolina]

No, not that terribly interested, and both my high school and college send out endless full color magazines updating what classmates are doing anyway! Plus, it's too far to travel for me.

[David Bidner]

I keep in touch with a few friends from high school. However the couple of times I attended a reunion I felt awkward and uncomfortable and all it reminded me of is how much I disliked high school.

[oneillba]

Forget it. I didn't care for most of them then. I don't think I'd care for them any better now.

[KJacques]

Everyone has good and bad experiences from high school, but I'm a little surprised at the baggage a lot of people seem to still carry from high school. I thoroughly enjoyed the reunions I went to and getting to see and hug people that I grew up with.

Maybe a couple of you suffer such insecurity that you need that lambo to drive up to shove in your former schoolmates faces, but really, my advice is to get over it.

[Jet]

I keep in touch w/just a handfull. Our 20th year reunion was last year & I did not even bother to go. It would have been nice, but I already stay in touch w/those that really matter.

[Taffi Abernathy]

I just got a notice today that Barbara, an old friend from high school left me a message explaining what she has done with her life over the years and asking me to write her back. Can I get a ghost writer? I look forward to responding as much as I welcome searing abdominal cramps.

[walds11]

I keep in contact with a few high school friends.

And I will not attend anymore reunions. I attended my 5 year reunion a while back. It was not fun for me. Most people were just bragging and showing off. I could only imagine what the 20 year reunion would be like. That is coming up in 2 years.

[idk01]

I keep in touch with a few close school friends, they were a big part of my life back then and we had some great times, what a troublesome bunch we were :-), we don't play the old my car is better than yours, we mainly reminisce over times dearly missed, only difference we can legally drink now :-)

I did attend my 10 year reunion before moving from Brisbane to Sydney, was a great night, most of the guys knew what I'd be doing for a living thanks to being stuck on commodore 64 through my school years we now keep in touch via facebook and chat on msn, nothing to prove, nothing to hide, I miss the good old times!!

If I'm up north and a reunion is on I'd love to catch up with some long lost friend and class mates

[Gedanken]

Originally Posted by KJacques

Everyone has good and bad experiences from high school, but I'm a little surprised at the baggage a lot of people seem to still carry from high school. I thoroughly enjoyed the reunions I went to and getting to see and hug people that I grew up with.

Maybe a couple of you suffer such insecurity that you need that lambo to drive up to shove in your former schoolmates faces, but really, my advice is to get over it.

Amen, Kevin! As if life wasn't short enough.

That said, catching up with my old high school mates can be a painful experience. The evening always ends up with one of us laughing so hard we're still gasping for breath after ten minutes.

I'm 6000 kilometres from my old high school but as it turns out, my best mate plus three other high school mates have ended up here in Melbourne, so we catch up pretty much on a monthly basis. Being from Singapore, food's been a major factor and since we've all learned to cook, we have the occassional pot luck session where the wives put their feet up.

As for the wider school group, those guys catch up every 2-3 months, but their hookups have so far not coincided with my travel schedule - we still keep in touch over Facebook, though.

[mailman]

I don't do the social network thing. The four guys that I hung around with in high school, we're still all very good friends

I went to my 20 year reuinon last year and we had a blast It was a much better time that I expected and it was great to see friends we grew up with