What I learned from online dating...

[gmh1013]

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[Zakalwe]

I had a mate who, when on the pull, would always select the plainest girl out of a group, rationalising that she would be so used to seeing her more striking-looking friends copping off all the time, she’d be excessively flattered by the attention. It seemed to work well for him, especially considering he looked like a blind cobblers thumb and sounded like Chris Eubank after inhaling a room full of helium.

[tudorbaja27]

Originally Posted by Zakalwe

I had a mate who, when on the pull, would always select the plainest girl out of a group, rationalising that she would be so used to seeing her more striking-looking friends copping off all the time, she’d be excessively flattered by the attention. It seemed to work well for him, especially considering he looked like a blind cobblers thumb and sounded like Chris Eubank after inhaling a room full of helium.

[DLRIDES]

Originally Posted by gmh1013

Just say no....I was on a senior dating site for about 7 months and I was tagged 5 times, 4 of those were scams, 1 could have been but i stopped it because they would never post a photo. I wasted money to join plus the money i lost in one scam and the money lost doing background checks. Would I ever try it again. Absolutely not! I had read somewhere that about 20 percent of the people are scams ....more like 100 percent to me. I guess it works for some but its just to risky at best for me. Plus I started to think "I cant afford to get involved with some bimbo with big boobs and risk losing half or more of what I have. I have no way of ever getting it back once its gone besides I have my cats to pile on me at night to keep me warm.

My experience with online dating has been the total opposite ! “Dating” being the key word, not relationship or marriage.

I am 57, stay in good shape for my age, not a looker but not a troll, no baggage/drama, enjoy a variety of activities, and brutally honest in my profile about not looking for marriage or a serious relationship, only an activity partner. I consider online dating like a buffet of short term fun, kinda like Amazon Prime 2-day delivery ! My only issue has been the definition of “average” size,.......................... my definition seems to be about 50lbs less than theirs. No full length photo, no chat.

Statistically and in reality, there are more 50+ divorced soccer moms than one can accommodate that are looking for noncommittal activity/partners/friends etc.

[brandrea]

Sorry it hasn’t worked out for you Greg, but regardless of how you choose to meet women, perhaps you aren’t ready yet.

There’s no one way to meet women, but I believe you have to be open not skeptical of the opposite sex. Forgive me if that sounds harsh Greg, but I’ve read a few of your posts regarding this subject, and it seems to me you’re taking it way too seriously. Again, no offense intended, just an observation.

I understand you’ve been through a lot, but by this stage we all have our “stuff”. Positivity begets the same in others, and I think you will have much better luck meeting that special lady when you’re ready to be open.

I wish you all the best and hope you find someone you click with.

[DLRIDES]

Originally Posted by brandrea

Sorry it hasn’t worked out for you Greg, but regardless of how you choose to meet women, perhaps you aren’t ready yet.

There’s no one way to meet women, but I believe you have to be open not skeptical of the opposite sex. Forgive me if that sounds harsh Greg, but I’ve read a few of your posts regarding this subject, and it seems to me you’re taking it way too seriously. Again, no offense intended, just an observation.

I understand you’ve been through a lot, but by this stage we all have our “stuff”. Positivity begets the same in others, and I think you will have much better luck meeting that special lady when you’re ready to be open.

I wish you all the best and hope you find someone you click with.

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[morganc]

There are many sites where they are not. You should carefully study how to behave on such dating sites. My wife and I met online and we are married 5 years!

[morganc]

Originally Posted by morganc

There are many sites where they are not. You should carefully study how to behave on such dating sites. My wife and I met online and we are married for 5 years! I used this tips www.happymatches.com/blog/platonic-relationship/platonic-relationship/

Wish you good luck with dating.

[JTL31]

Greg try the “Events & Adventures” website or meetup.com
At least you’ll enjoy an activity where you share the same interests.
It’s also a good way to meet new friends and/or potential dating partners :)

[Blansky]

I think you just have hop to it and put yourself out there and interesting things can happen.

[enjoythemusic]

Online dating is where i met my muse / now wife.

HERE'S A GREAT TRICK!

Within your bio in the middle, type:

"Just ensuring you're real, have your reply topic / message at the top say:

"Yes, I Am Real And Interested".

This way if you don't see the above text, you know it's a scam, or at a minimum they never bothered reading your profile so punt 'em.

[Rock]

No personal experience of dating sites. I would stab myself in the eye with a sharp pencil first. I have heard enough from close friends to make my blood run cold.
Males are in the vast majority and so you are pushing it uphill unless you are 'well above average on most parameters'. Appear to be a lot of average women just fishing for a better catch, plus a lot of 'time-wasters' who don't know what they want.
If I was single and "in the market" I would be joining a lot of special-interest clubs/organisations where you can assess people in person in a normalised environment, rather than waste time on these sites.

[m j b]

I was single for many many years, and met women a variety of ways (except bars, never was a bar person and too shy to boot) and the most efficient and accurate way has always been to meet them in person. You can't predict chemistry.

The best ways to meet your potential mate/partner/friend that I've found are:
- volunteer work
- weddings
- education (school, crafts, arts, etc.)
- work

The latter, of course, can be dangerous, but that's how I met my wife and we're doing fine.

[Blansky]

Originally Posted by m j b

I was single for many many years, and met women a variety of ways (except bars, never was a bar person and too shy to boot) and the most efficient and accurate way has always been to meet them in person. You can't predict chemistry.

The best ways to meet your potential mate/partner/friend that I've found are:
- volunteer work
- weddings
- education (school, crafts, arts, etc.)
- work

The latter, of course, can be dangerous, but that's how I met my wife and we're doing fine.

Damn, I forgot weddings.

I shot 500 weddings back in the old country, and I will personally back that up.

Women get, how shall we say, amorous at weddings. Bridesmaids especially. Maybe its the weird clothes, maybe the whole love is in the air thing.

I don't know but don't look a gift horse in the mouth.

So OP just go hang out at churches on Saturday and sneak into the reception and mingle.

[spaghettipapi]

Seeing and talking to a person IRL for two minute tells me way more than a page of online information and a month of emails. Plus it kind of feels like you are selling yourself like a old lawnmower on craigslist.

[Nadi090]

It's true though, the risks involved in online dating. But a very good friend of mine met his wife from an online dating site. So I think one just has to be extra careful. There are fake accounts, but that doesn't necessarily mean it's not possible to meet a genuine person online.

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[Bigblu10]

Originally Posted by Nadi090

It's true though, the risks involved in online dating. But a very good friend of mine met his wife from an online dating site. So I think one just has to be extra careful. There are fake accounts, but that doesn't necessarily mean it's not possible to meet a genuine person online.

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Much harder now than in years past. Too many scammers now and fake profiles looking to game the system and take advantage of folks.

[McLovin]

My brother met his wife on one of those sites and they’ve been married three years. But now they’re divorcing. Caveat emptor.

[Jabbo84]

....how big of boobs we talking about??

[enjoythemusic]

Originally Posted by Jabbo84

....how big of boobs we talking about??

How big a boob are you, as that needs quantifying first

[Jabbo84]

.....have a bad Christmas???

[kearez]

I'm younger here in my late twenties, have done my fair share of online dating. The very attractive women get hundreds of matches a day, offering to take them to Miami, LA, etc for the weekend.

There are genuine people out there, but be honest how many of us would match or swipe with someone if they aren't attracted to them physically, might work out to be great friends.
Its shame there are lots of scammers out there, just trying to take your cash but its same on all dating websites. Have seen multiple girls willing to sell nudes on tinder, or all these "instagram models" do the same with their patreons.