My life has "flipped" in one year...(I need a little advice please)

[CoopJr]

Originally Posted by Welshwatchman

She looks a really nice person as well as being a bit of a looker. You are also looking smooth and in the prime of your life.

My 2c, don't rush into anything. Just don't. If your relationship suffers as a consequence of you taking things steadily then the relationship wasn't as sound as you thought.

All the very best to you and all the worst to that old bitch you used to be married to.

Paul...I couldnt say it better myself. Mik...she's a cute girl...youre both young...don't rush into anything. Just my opinion but 9 months isnt long enough to get to know someone. My own advice is to wait a total of 2 years. My wife and I were together for 5 years before we were married.

[CoopJr]

Originally Posted by mfer

Citizen of USA
We were good friends that work together. Turns out we liked each other more.
No baggage, we've kind of cleared that out, but really none to speak of.

Sounds like a good foundation Mik Proceed slowly and grow this over time and you'll both be happy.

[redshirt1957]

Originally Posted by CoopJr

Paul...I couldnt say it better myself. Mik...she's a cute girl...youre both young...don't rush into anything. Just my opinion but 9 months isnt long enough to get to know someone. My own advice is to wait a total of 2 years. My wife and I were together for 5 years before we were married.

When you give advice the members nod their heads and think, "good advice". Now if I was to give the exact same advice, most members here would have thought; "she married him after being together for 5 years? Hell, waiting does not seem to work so well."!

[leonidas]

somehow the reality that gets denied widely, is that it takes a great natural fit from the start to make a relationship. one can go for counseling for fine tuning, but you can;t bridge gaps that way. and if it seems that there just isn;t the sharing of values (seems to be THE overriding factor of importance), then best to acknowledge it, respect each other's need to move on and help each other through it. lack of those common values diesn;t mean that anyone is necessarily at any fault. if there are kids, any one from such a situation will tell you that the worst thing in the world is to stay together for their sake. humanity can still be served in the most difficult of situations. all the best to you, and learn everything there is to learn from this experience.

[Lisa]

Originally Posted by leonidas

if there are kids, any one from such a situation will tell you that the worst thing in the world is to stay together for their sake.

I don't think everyone in such a situation would tell you this, unless they are really trying to justify that divorce is not going to harm their kids. If there are kids involved, especially little ones, then the worst thing in the world is to tear the family apart so that one or both parents can pursue their selfish interests. The kids didn't ask to be born, and in most cases they would be better off with both parents together. Sure, it can be crappy for the at-odds parents involved, but there's a lot to be said for sucking it up and putting your needs aside to focus on giving the kids the best possible environment to grow in.

[GMTII Owner]

As I read your post, it sounds like you have found the one for you. You can ask us for advice or questions, but in reality, I believe you know the answer.

Good luck!!!

John