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1st amg · 2 October 2017, 06:42 AM

It is with a heavy heart I write this, it is a place or platform I never expected to write in, but with TRF and it's band of brothers, I decided to vent, simply vent. At 4:16am this morning, my father finally was claimed by pancreatic cancer which spread to his liver three short weeks ago. Only ten days ago I called an ambulance to my parents home and then the cancer decided to give him massive blood clots which then caused two strokes in his brain stem. It was all but over since then. I never thought it was this ugly, it was a long ten days of slow painful death, it was awful to witness day and night.

My father was well respected in his community and business community. He was successful and popular and touched everyone's soul who net him. I learned how to be a good person, good father and good husband. My work ethic was installed by him. I am in a shock and daze, I can't believe he is gone. I know this was going to happen at one point when he was diagnosed 18 months ago. I am worried for my mother as her soul mate of 48yrs is gone. My heart aches for my kids 9 and 7, especially the older one who cried earlier this morning. He is named after his grandfather.

I hope I didn't waste anyone's time by reading this post, but if any of you have any sensible advice how to cope, please let me know. Thank you all

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wantonebad · 2 October 2017, 06:44 AM

Sorry for your loss Nick, I hope for peace for you and your family.

I lost my mother a few years ago to the same disease and can tell you the only thing that helps is being around your remaining family and time, those were the two most important things for me to move on.

PascalSwiss · 2 October 2017, 06:46 AM

Condolences.

sickened1 · 2 October 2017, 06:47 AM

My sincere condolences to you and your family, Nicholas. I lost my father a little over 20 years ago and still thinking of him to this day.

Laszlo · 2 October 2017, 06:49 AM

Very, very sorry. :-(

GB-man · 2 October 2017, 06:50 AM

I’m very sorry to hear of your loss Nick.

I lost my grandfather 2 years ago and he was my father figure in life having lost my father before I was born. It is a difficult road filled with moments of shear pain.

I’m of the belief that there is no real solution for grieving. Only advice I have is to let your emotions out. Don’t hold them in.

Best to you and your family in this most difficult time.

denmanproject · 2 October 2017, 06:50 AM

Very sorry for your loss

machob55 · 2 October 2017, 06:58 AM

Nick please accept my sincerest condolences for your loss. My prayers are with you and your family.

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SDRider · 2 October 2017, 07:00 AM

So sorry to hear that. You have my deepest sympathies.

BristolCavendish · 2 October 2017, 07:19 AM

Heartfelt condolences Nicholas. Perhaps it's best to reflect upon the good times and the priceless insights/concerns that your father shared with you during your times together. As a family we have lost members (of an earlier generation) to the likes of strokes, cancer and congestive heart failure. It never gets any easier dealing with the loss of a cherished family member.

Without getting metaphysical or anything, chances are that you and your father will meet again (whether it's in a dream or another existence) and he'll be glad to see you. He is no longer suffering and I prefer to think of death as a rebirth of sorts. For now, his legacy and immortality rests with your thoughts and remembrances.

BLACKHORSE 6 · 2 October 2017, 07:21 AM

I’m so sorry for what you’re going through.

My father past away unexpectedly when I was 13. He and I were very close. All I can say is that while the pain will always be there, it will get better.

Be the strong one for your mother, kids, and the rest of your family. Even if you have to fake it until you make it, focus on getting them through this. It’s what your father would want, and it will help you in the end.

All the best,
David

returntorolex · 2 October 2017, 07:22 AM

I'm so sorry for your loss. Please accept my sincere condolences.

cop414 · 2 October 2017, 07:23 AM

So very sorry to hear this Nick, my most sincere condolences. He will always be with you in your heart.

Cru Jones · 2 October 2017, 07:27 AM

Sincere condolences. :-(

May he rest in peace.

yooyotis · 2 October 2017, 07:29 AM

I lost my mother in April to liver cancer. I feel your pain. Heartfelt condolences to you and your family.

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tritium8 · 2 October 2017, 07:29 AM

Really sorry to hear this and thank you for sharing with us. This place really is more than just watches.

randomguy · 2 October 2017, 07:39 AM

Sincere condolences..

Pain will be replaced by fond memories over time.

I know, my twin and I lost both parents between our teens to early 20's.

God bless to you and the entire family

Limestonedan · 2 October 2017, 07:59 AM

Sorry to hear Nicholas..

drinkingeye · 2 October 2017, 08:09 AM

my deepest condolences. May you and your family find peace to accept this huge loss. God bless you all

hsfrank · 2 October 2017, 08:09 AM

My heart reaches out to you in your pain and sorrow. Having lost both my parents, I can assure you that it does get better and as time passes you will never forget him. Immortality is being remembered by those who you love and who love you. My sincere condolences to you and your family.

SemperFi · 2 October 2017, 08:12 AM

My sincerest condolences to you and your family Nick.
There is no way to ease the pain but the passage of time. Take comfort in your family and in all of the wisdom your father taught you. You are who you are because of him.

Widows Son · 2 October 2017, 08:12 AM

So sorry for your loss. We know that someday our parents will pass, but there is really no way to prepare for it. He lives on through you and your children.

Alexwwjd · 2 October 2017, 08:13 AM

Nicholas,I am sorry for your loss. It is never easy to lose a loved one. The love of a father is irreplaceable but as others have mention you are lucky to have shared times and he will live in you. My deepest condolences.

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Bryant Park · 2 October 2017, 08:31 AM

I hope that you can quickly transition away from the pain of his passing to the obvious joy of the experiences you shared. I hope you can gain some comfort that he is at peace and that he had the 18 months to come to terms with the inevitable.

You'll be in my thoughts and prayers!

jsg · 2 October 2017, 08:36 AM

Nick, I am very sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

swils8610 · 2 October 2017, 08:40 AM

Nick, I am so sorry for your loss. I dread the day that I am in your situation but sadly it will come at some point. Remember the good times. The lessons he taught. He will live on through you and your children. In my thoughts and prayers.

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nick c · 2 October 2017, 08:42 AM

Sorry to hear this Nick, may your father Rest In Peace.

Tony64 · 2 October 2017, 08:46 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BristolCavendish

Without getting metaphysical or anything, chances are that you and your father will meet again (whether it's in a dream or another existence) and he'll be glad to see you. He is no longer suffering and I prefer to think of death as a rebirth of sorts. For now, his legacy and immortality rests with your thoughts and remembrances.

Beautiful sentiments BC, of which I wholeheartedly concur.

Nothing eases the pain but time, and the realization and relief that suffering for your father has ended. Be strong for your kids and your mother- they need you now more than ever.

My sincerest condolences.

r8t3d_M · 2 October 2017, 08:49 AM

I’m terribly sorry for your loss Nicholas. You and your family will be in my prayers.

ciscopro2000 · 2 October 2017, 08:52 AM

I'm sorry for your loss Nick and heartfelt condolences to you and your family. I feel your pain. I hope you and your family will find peace soon. Take care and God bless.

2 October 2017, 06:42 AM	#1
1st amg 2024 SubLV41 Pledge Member Join Date: Jun 2013 Real Name: nicholas Location: ottawa canada Watch: Rolex,AP,Panerai Posts: 10,410	Cancer wins again...claims my father It is with a heavy heart I write this, it is a place or platform I never expected to write in, but with TRF and it's band of brothers, I decided to vent, simply vent. At 4:16am this morning, my father finally was claimed by pancreatic cancer which spread to his liver three short weeks ago. Only ten days ago I called an ambulance to my parents home and then the cancer decided to give him massive blood clots which then caused two strokes in his brain stem. It was all but over since then. I never thought it was this ugly, it was a long ten days of slow painful death, it was awful to witness day and night. My father was well respected in his community and business community. He was successful and popular and touched everyone's soul who net him. I learned how to be a good person, good father and good husband. My work ethic was installed by him. I am in a shock and daze, I can't believe he is gone. I know this was going to happen at one point when he was diagnosed 18 months ago. I am worried for my mother as her soul mate of 48yrs is gone. My heart aches for my kids 9 and 7, especially the older one who cried earlier this morning. He is named after his grandfather. I hope I didn't waste anyone's time by reading this post, but if any of you have any sensible advice how to cope, please let me know. Thank you all Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

2 October 2017, 06:44 AM	#2
wantonebad 2024 SubLV41 Pledge Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: USA Watch: 126600, 116500LN Posts: 12,849	Sorry for your loss Nick, I hope for peace for you and your family. I lost my mother a few years ago to the same disease and can tell you the only thing that helps is being around your remaining family and time, those were the two most important things for me to move on. __________________ "I'm kind of a big deal... on a fairly irrelevant social media site that falsely inflates my fragile ego"

2 October 2017, 06:49 AM	#5
Laszlo 2024 SubLV41 Pledge Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: San Francisco, CA Watch: Date & No Date Posts: 10,868	Very, very sorry. :-( __________________ "You might as well question why we breathe. If we stop breathing, we'll die. If we stop fighting our enemies, the world will die." Paul Henreid as Victor Laszlo in Casablanca

2 October 2017, 06:50 AM	#6
GB-man 2024 SubLV41 Pledge Member Join Date: Nov 2012 Location: USA Watch: addiction issues Posts: 37,355	I’m very sorry to hear of your loss Nick. I lost my grandfather 2 years ago and he was my father figure in life having lost my father before I was born. It is a difficult road filled with moments of shear pain. I’m of the belief that there is no real solution for grieving. Only advice I have is to let your emotions out. Don’t hold them in. Best to you and your family in this most difficult time. __________________

2 October 2017, 07:22 AM	#12
returntorolex "TRF" Member Join Date: Dec 2014 Real Name: Steve Location: Atlanta Watch: Jackie Stewart DD Posts: 5,661	I'm so sorry for your loss. Please accept my sincere condolences. __________________ Rolex - Tudor - Omega - Breitling - Oris - Grand Seiko - Timex - Casio - Ocean Crawler - Ganymede - American Waltham - Seiko - Gruen - Arethusa - Citizen - Sinn - Nodus - Formex

2 October 2017, 06:46 AM	#3
PascalSwiss "TRF" Member Join Date: Aug 2017 Location: Switzerland Posts: 605	Condolences.

2 October 2017, 06:47 AM	#4
sickened1 2024 SubLV41 Pledge Member Join Date: Aug 2014 Real Name: Ed Location: SoCal Watch: ugiveiswatchuget Posts: 9,054	My sincere condolences to you and your family, Nicholas. I lost my father a little over 20 years ago and still thinking of him to this day.

2 October 2017, 06:50 AM	#7
denmanproject "TRF" Member Join Date: Jan 2015 Real Name: Wayne Location: Canada Posts: 4,407	Very sorry for your loss

2 October 2017, 06:58 AM	#8
machob55 "TRF" Member Join Date: Aug 2017 Location: US Posts: 1,119	Nick please accept my sincerest condolences for your loss. My prayers are with you and your family. Sent from my R1 HD using Tapatalk

2 October 2017, 07:00 AM	#9
SDRider Banned Join Date: May 2017 Real Name: Julian Location: San Diego, CA Watch: Rolex 116613LB Posts: 1,908	So sorry to hear that. You have my deepest sympathies.

2 October 2017, 07:19 AM	#10
BristolCavendish Banned Join Date: Aug 2016 Location: United States Posts: 1,864	Heartfelt condolences Nicholas. Perhaps it's best to reflect upon the good times and the priceless insights/concerns that your father shared with you during your times together. As a family we have lost members (of an earlier generation) to the likes of strokes, cancer and congestive heart failure. It never gets any easier dealing with the loss of a cherished family member. Without getting metaphysical or anything, chances are that you and your father will meet again (whether it's in a dream or another existence) and he'll be glad to see you. He is no longer suffering and I prefer to think of death as a rebirth of sorts. For now, his legacy and immortality rests with your thoughts and remembrances.

2 October 2017, 07:21 AM	#11
BLACKHORSE 6 "TRF" Member Join Date: May 2013 Real Name: Dave Location: USA Watch: Rolex SS Daytona Posts: 2,679	I’m so sorry for what you’re going through. My father past away unexpectedly when I was 13. He and I were very close. All I can say is that while the pain will always be there, it will get better. Be the strong one for your mother, kids, and the rest of your family. Even if you have to fake it until you make it, focus on getting them through this. It’s what your father would want, and it will help you in the end. All the best, David

2 October 2017, 07:23 AM	#13
cop414 TRF Moderator & 2024 SubLV41 Patron Join Date: Apr 2012 Real Name: Tim Location: Pennsylvania Watch: 14060M Posts: 72,261	So very sorry to hear this Nick, my most sincere condolences. He will always be with you in your heart. __________________ Rolex Submariner 14060M Omega Seamaster 2254.50 DOXA Professional 1200T Card carrying member of TRF's Global Association of Retro-Grouch-Curmudgeons TRF's "After Dark" Bar & NightClub Patron P Club Member #17 2 FA ENABLED

2 October 2017, 07:27 AM	#14
Cru Jones 2024 SubLV41 Pledge Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Paris, France Posts: 35,303	Sincere condolences. :-( May he rest in peace.

2 October 2017, 07:29 AM	#15
yooyotis "TRF" Member Join Date: Sep 2017 Location: Texas Posts: 5	I lost my mother in April to liver cancer. I feel your pain. Heartfelt condolences to you and your family. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

2 October 2017, 07:29 AM	#16
tritium8 "TRF" Member Join Date: Jun 2015 Real Name: N8 Location: L.A. Watch: 216570 Posts: 1,745	Really sorry to hear this and thank you for sharing with us. This place really is more than just watches.

2 October 2017, 07:39 AM	#17
randomguy "TRF" Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Real Name: J Location: Canada Watch: Rolex OMEGA Posts: 887	Sincere condolences.. Pain will be replaced by fond memories over time. I know, my twin and I lost both parents between our teens to early 20's. God bless to you and the entire family

2 October 2017, 07:59 AM	#18
Limestonedan "TRF" Member Join Date: Oct 2014 Real Name: Dan Location: USA Posts: 983	Sorry to hear Nicholas..

2 October 2017, 08:09 AM	#19
drinkingeye "TRF" Member Join Date: Aug 2017 Real Name: Mauro Location: Arizona Watch: too many Posts: 40	my deepest condolences. May you and your family find peace to accept this huge loss. God bless you all

2 October 2017, 08:09 AM	#20
hsfrank "TRF" Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Real Name: Herbert Frank Location: Middletown,De Watch: President Posts: 1,641	My heart reaches out to you in your pain and sorrow. Having lost both my parents, I can assure you that it does get better and as time passes you will never forget him. Immortality is being remembered by those who you love and who love you. My sincere condolences to you and your family. __________________ Time and Tide wait for no man Rolex Cellini 4133 Tudor North Flag HERS: Rolex TTDJ

2 October 2017, 08:12 AM	#21
SemperFi "TRF" Member Join Date: Sep 2014 Real Name: Angelo Location: Brooklyn, NY Watch: Rolex Submariner Posts: 42,164	My sincerest condolences to you and your family Nick. There is no way to ease the pain but the passage of time. Take comfort in your family and in all of the wisdom your father taught you. You are who you are because of him. __________________ Rolex Submariner Omega Seamaster Aqua Terra Tudor Black Bay 58 Blue Tudor Ranger 79910 Nomos Club Datum 733 Nomos Metro 38 Stowa Flieger Classic 40 * Card carrying member of TRF's Global Association of Retro-Grouch-Curmudgeons *

2 October 2017, 08:12 AM	#22
Widows Son "TRF" Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Hudson Ohio Posts: 3,564	So sorry for your loss. We know that someday our parents will pass, but there is really no way to prepare for it. He lives on through you and your children.

2 October 2017, 08:13 AM	#23
Alexwwjd "TRF" Member Join Date: May 2009 Real Name: Alex Location: Texas Watch: Out!!! Posts: 2,352	Nicholas,I am sorry for your loss. It is never easy to lose a loved one. The love of a father is irreplaceable but as others have mention you are lucky to have shared times and he will live in you. My deepest condolences. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

2 October 2017, 08:31 AM	#24
Bryant Park Banned Join Date: Aug 2017 Real Name: John Location: Van By The River Posts: 1,326	I hope that you can quickly transition away from the pain of his passing to the obvious joy of the experiences you shared. I hope you can gain some comfort that he is at peace and that he had the 18 months to come to terms with the inevitable. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers!

2 October 2017, 08:36 AM	#25
jsg "TRF" Member Join Date: May 2013 Real Name: J. Location: North east USA Watch: Rolex, PAM, Omega Posts: 581	Nick, I am very sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

2 October 2017, 08:40 AM	#26
swils8610 2024 SubLV41 Pledge Member Join Date: Sep 2012 Real Name: shannon Location: usa Posts: 9,211	Nick, I am so sorry for your loss. I dread the day that I am in your situation but sadly it will come at some point. Remember the good times. The lessons he taught. He will live on through you and your children. In my thoughts and prayers. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Pro

2 October 2017, 08:42 AM	#27
nick c Banned Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Canada Posts: 26,846	Sorry to hear this Nick, may your father Rest In Peace.

2 October 2017, 08:49 AM	#29
r8t3d_M "TRF" Member Join Date: Feb 2015 Real Name: Felipe Location: NYC Watch: Me ;) Posts: 2,894	I’m terribly sorry for your loss Nicholas. You and your family will be in my prayers.

2 October 2017, 08:52 AM	#30
ciscopro2000 "TRF" Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Real Name: Mark Location: San Diego Watch: 116500 Posts: 255	I'm sorry for your loss Nick and heartfelt condolences to you and your family. I feel your pain. I hope you and your family will find peace soon. Take care and God bless.

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