Perfectionism

[Moggo]

Does anyone else have a problem with this? It’s probably OCD related but drives me mad.

Finding imperfections in everything and then obsessing over it. Can be either bodily or physical items.

I obsess over detail, like watches for instance, I will analyse until the watch is ruined because something is not quite symmetrical or slightly misaligned and then end up disliking it, not wanting to look at it.

Can be with clothing, cars etc....

Anyone else suffer this? Any advice? It ruins almost every purchase I make for instance because I find fault and then worry about future failure etc

Not sure if I’ve made sense.....


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[tseiff]

Go to psychology forum ;)

[superdog]

I do not have this issue.

I’m more willy nilly than anything else. I actually prefer imperfections with the one exception of my cars paint job. I’m good with everything else.

[Moggo]

Great input tseiff

Car problems? Go to a car forum.....
Food? Go to a food forum.....
Investment? Go to an investment forum.....

This is ‘open’ discussion last time I looked.


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[superdog]

Originally Posted by Moggo

Great input tseiff

Car problems? Go to a car forum.....
Food? Go to a food forum.....
Investment? Go to an investment forum.....

This is ‘open’ discussion last time I looked.


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The guys been on the forum for about 10 seconds.

Don’t sweat him.

I’m sure others will be on soon enough with good input.

[bdex75]

I do not have it to that extreme and get over it pretty quickly.

Used to be worse about everything being perfect until I had kids. Made me realize that I am not the one in control of this ride around the sun. And that things are going to happen and we just have to roll with it. I do still get upset when the wife or kids do/don’t do something that causes problems down the road or puts me in a bad position.

It has become easier over time to relax but still struggle sometimes but it is generally with specific things and with my wife allowing my kids to do certain things.

But with other ocd type things I don’t care at all. Like timing watches. I care less if my watch is 3 seconds or 3 minutes a day off.


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[Bigblu10]

Have you thought about seeking counseling from a doctor (specialist) to help you with this issue? Not sure you will find meaningful help here on the forum, except for sympathy. While many strive for perfection which is not necessarily bad, achieving it is a whole other story.

[Fat_ninja]

No not really. Nothings ever perfect. I dont like my stuff scratched or broken. But thats not because i need things perfect.

[AzPaul]

Originally Posted by Moggo

Does anyone else have a problem with this? It’s probably OCD related but drives me mad.

Finding imperfections in everything and then obsessing over it. Can be either bodily or physical items.

I obsess over detail, like watches for instance, I will analyse until the watch is ruined because something is not quite symmetrical or slightly misaligned and then end up disliking it, not wanting to look at it.

Can be with clothing, cars etc....

Anyone else suffer this? Any advice? It ruins almost every purchase I make for instance because I find fault and then worry about future failure etc

Not sure if I’ve made sense.....


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It's great you're aware of it and the negativity its injecting into your life. Fortunately, you're nowhere near alone with this issue. I'd start by googling 'Handling Perfectionism' and see where it takes you. I know a lot of credible work has been published on the subject, so if nothing else, it'll be a good starting point.

[OmegaJJH]

Originally Posted by bdex75

Used to be worse about everything being perfect until I had kids. Made me realize that I am not the one in control of this ride around the sun. And that things are going to happen and we just have to roll with it.

Amen to that



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[cruise_bone]

Originally Posted by Moggo

Does anyone else have a problem with this? It’s probably OCD related but drives me mad.

Finding imperfections in everything and then obsessing over it. Can be either bodily or physical items.

I obsess over detail, like watches for instance, I will analyse until the watch is ruined because something is not quite symmetrical or slightly misaligned and then end up disliking it, not wanting to look at it.

Can be with clothing, cars etc....

Anyone else suffer this? Any advice? It ruins almost every purchase I make for instance because I find fault and then worry about future failure etc

Not sure if I’ve made sense.....


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Nothing is ever perfect. And the imperfections are where true beauty is found.

Next.

[tritium8]

Originally Posted by superdog

I do not have this issue.

I’m more willy nilly than anything else. I actually prefer imperfections with the one exception of my cars paint job. I’m good with everything else.

Ha! I was like this with cars then realized buying used cars made me chill out a bit. If the car came with some blemishes, it didn't bother me as much when I got a few more. I mean, I still get oissed that people can be so inconsiderate as to bash their door into my car but I get over it pretty quick.

[Burlington]

I guess the age old adage of changing what you can, and accepting what you cant change.

[JasoninDenver]

One of my friends purposefully puts a small ding somewhere on his new car as soon as he drives it off the lot. Seriously. He says otherwise his OCD brain stresses over it unmercifully. Now he feels it already has the first one and he no longer has to worry about parking at the far end of the lot.

[tudorbaja27]

Have a drink.
Well, you may need more than one...

[Star Ferry]

I am obsessive with a lower case "o" -- personalities vary from person to person, and I'm okay with it. If you think you may be Obsessive with a capital O, then it may be time to seek professional help. and best of luck

[SG56]

Originally Posted by Moggo

Does anyone else have a problem with this? It’s probably OCD related but drives me mad.

Finding imperfections in everything and then obsessing over it. Can be either bodily or physical items.

I obsess over detail, like watches for instance, I will analyse until the watch is ruined because something is not quite symmetrical or slightly misaligned and then end up disliking it, not wanting to look at it.

Can be with clothing, cars etc....

Anyone else suffer this? Any advice? It ruins almost every purchase I make for instance because I find fault and then worry about future failure etc

Not sure if I’ve made sense.....


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Life is too short to worry to that extent.

btw, the writing in your avatar is not perfectly horizontal

[Star Ferry]

Originally Posted by cruise_bone

Nothing is ever perfect. And the imperfections are where true beauty is found.

Next.

Natural state of things is disorder, right? Let entropy take its course and appreciate Fibonacci's spiral, I say

[brandrea]

So have you found anything perfect enough for you?

I'd say its subtle imperfections that make life interesting

Maybe just not in watches

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[droptopman]

Yes, but not to the extent when I was younger. While I still notice things I do not grind on them like I used to. I seem to be able to let things go easier, but I still like things in certain "order". The difference being I am not so consumed by it. For example, closet has a certain pattern of design, sock drawer, car being clean, things like that. I wish I could provide some input on how things changed but I think it is just aging. Not like a read a book and found a cure....

[Moggo]

Thanks guys. *Goes to straighten avatar writing *

Need to learn to let things go.....


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