My Biggest Depression

[Rolexitis]

Heru,

I have also been in the depression boat lately and I know what you are feeling. I have young boys like you do and we have beautiful families. Sometimes we just get this way (some more than others), but we have to talk about it to make it better I suppose. I hope you get back on top and thanks for sharing such a personal thing with your friends here on TRF..

[leopardprey]

As others have said and my suggestion: Get off the internet and the forums. Spend some time away from the internet and watches (at least a month) , and go have a serious talk with your Pastor/Church Counselor. That will lead you down the right step. God Speed!

[Bisquitlips]

Heru,

My heart and prayers are with you my brother!

I sent you a PM earlier.

Richard

[chenx15]

TR my friend problems are meant to go away. if there is something that always keeps my head above water is reminding myself that somewhere in this world someone will not have dinner tonight and still happier than i am. how dare can i be sad? but if it's medical depression then it's time to seek for medical help. remember my friend envy is one of the basic cause of depression

[Oscar]

Heru,

As you know I have been there and I am still recovering. Please speak with your doctor to see if you may require a referral to a psychologist or psychiatrist.

Please ensure that you have the full support and love of your wife to help through this period.

PM me anytime. I am glad that I reached out for help when I did.



Michael

[tonettem]

Hang in there Heru.

If I may...

Psalm 23

[Kokyuryoku]

Kia ora bro,

My prayers are with you. Here's something my mother always says to me when I'm in a dark place.

Te tiro atu to kanohi ki tairawhiti ana tera whiti te ra kite ataata ka hinga ki muri kia koe. (Turn your face to the sun and the shadows fall behind you.)

Take care bro

[Trurolexer]

Originally Posted by Mosco

My friend, it may be difficult to offer any help then. But I understand - not all information is for everyone's eyes. Since you know exactly what it is, ask yourself these questions:
1) is it a dead end - meaning, have you exhausted ALL possibilities of solving your dilemma/problem/hardship
2) if it is unsolvable - can you get past it?

Suffering is part of existence - it lets you know you're human.The strong deal with it the best way possible, the weak falter under pressure. From reading you're posts (I don't know you personally, but would definitely love to make acquaintance one day), you're anything but the second category. Keep your chin up, things will always get better!

Thanks Pal!!!
I believe someday I will through this problem.

Originally Posted by Dan Pierce

TR,
Everyone deals with depression to one degree or another. I've certainly had the blues before. Please seek the appropriate remedy. You'll come out the other side a better person.
All the best,
dP

Thanks Dan!!!

Originally Posted by B Square

Heru, my friend, my prayers are with you. You will prevail from this demon. I know. I was there once.
Boyd

I will, thanks for sharing your story, Sir.

Originally Posted by Jimbits76

If it's clinical as James says then the best answer would be to have a chat with a professional.

I carried a lot of baggage around with me for about 16 years before discovering from my doctor that I suffered from clinical depression.

At that point I realised it wasn't my mind, it was the physiology of my brain that made me "different". It helped alleviate my burden no end.

J

Buddy, thanks for the PM.
That's help me a lot.

Originally Posted by DSJ

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Obsessi...ality_disorder

I'll pray for you Heru.

Thanks for the site, Dave.

[Trurolexer]

Originally Posted by ratae1950

Once again great advice from Jim.
You need to determine whether you have have clinical depression. I understand you would not want to publish the details of your 'problem' on TRF.
Find someone you trust that is qualified to help you. Depression is an illness like any other and can be overcome in many different ways.

By the way United won again...

UNITED always wins lately, Sir.

Originally Posted by JJ Irani

Hello Heru,

You know how much I love and admire you, buddy.

If you need to "talk" to me, then send me a PM and I'll try and help you out.

Best - JJ

Thanks JJ!!!

Originally Posted by Carolina

Heru, it sounds like you are really suffering, and I hope that you have someone close by with whom you can share your troubles. You have my prayers, as well as the support of all your friends at TRF.

Thanks Carol!!!

Originally Posted by Lisa

Heru, I hope you find some answers soon. I'm sorry to hear you are so troubled!

Thanks Lisa!!!

Originally Posted by vapalux

Heru , my friend. My thoughts are with you and its good to try and talk things through. If there is anything I can do, like JJ said drop me a pm.

Jim has ever has it spot on, a little bit of professional help go's a long way

We're here for you buddy

Si

Thanks Simon!!! I really appreciate it.

Originally Posted by kcmo

Hang in there Heru! We all feel 'down' at times but what is most important is having support. Please don't keep it in for too long. Seek some help.

Thanks Karis!!!

Originally Posted by mfer

We're here for you Heru. Let me know if there is anything I can do buddy!

Thanks Mik!!!

Originally Posted by SPORTSFAN

Heru..................My friend.

I think that you need professional help.

The problem started on a specific Date............December 8th. to me that would suggest that it was something that you could not avoid.

Jim gives you some good advice from his troubled past.

Everyone goes through tough times,I think that it is sometimes a sign of strength to seek help.

My PM box is always open to you.

Your Friend, Mike.

Thanks Mike!!! I think time for me to looking for proffesional help.

Originally Posted by folexhater

We are here for you Heru all the way whatever it is that is bothering you! Always think about your family! Whats to happen to them without your guidance? You could overcome this my friend! Believe me, there is always a solution on any problem!

Good advice, Buddy!!!
Yes, I always considering 'em in all my decision.

Originally Posted by swatty

TR, just want back up what others have said, we are all here for you , to help in any way we can. I believe professional help would be a good start. PM me any time mate .

Thanks Peter!!!
I think UNITED win this season.

Originally Posted by Rolexitis

Heru,

I have also been in the depression boat lately and I know what you are feeling. I have young boys like you do and we have beautiful families. Sometimes we just get this way (some more than others), but we have to talk about it to make it better I suppose. I hope you get back on top and thanks for sharing such a personal thing with your friends here on TRF..

Thanks Pal!!!
Thanks for put me in your Friendslist.

Originally Posted by leopardprey

As others have said and my suggestion: Get off the internet and the forums. Spend some time away from the internet and watches (at least a month) , and go have a serious talk with your Pastor/Church Counselor. That will lead you down the right step. God Speed!

Yes, I need that. Planning to go to my Pastor in Friday with my wifey. After that maybe we want to take vacation in couple days.
Thank you, Sir.

Originally Posted by Bisquitlips

Heru,

My heart and prayers are with you my brother!

I sent you a PM earlier.

Richard

Thanks Richard. Your PM really help me. Thanks once again.

Originally Posted by chenx15

TR my friend problems are meant to go away. if there is something that always keeps my head above water is reminding myself that somewhere in this world someone will not have dinner tonight and still happier than i am. how dare can i be sad? but if it's medical depression then it's time to seek for medical help. remember my friend envy is one of the basic cause of depression

Good advice, thanks Jonathan.

Originally Posted by Oscar

Heru,

As you know I have been there and I am still recovering. Please speak with your doctor to see if you may require a referral to a psychologist or psychiatrist.

Please ensure that you have the full support and love of your wife to help through this period.

PM me anytime. I am glad that I reached out for help when I did.



Michael

Michael, thanks Buddy.

Originally Posted by tonettem

Hang in there Heru.

If I may...

Psalm 23

Yes, good one!!! My favorite words.
Thanks Kabayan.

Originally Posted by Kokyuryoku

Kia ora bro,

My prayers are with you. Here's something my mother always says to me when I'm in a dark place.

Te tiro atu to kanohi ki tairawhiti ana tera whiti te ra kite ataata ka hinga ki muri kia koe. (Turn your face to the sun and the shadows fall behind you.)

Take care bro

Good word. Beautiful word.
Thanks Buddy!!!

[Subexplorer]

Heru:
I regret to know you are having such a bad time.
You are a young man, have a charming young wife, and two beautiful children as per the pictures you have shown here.
Have faith in God, and go Very Fast to see a Doctor you have faith in. Your family doctor can direct you to an specialized one. Just have a talk with him.

Problems like you have, are not uncommon in our complicated world of today. You are not alone. Just need adequate help, counsel, and may be some medication, but you must be sure you´ll overcome this with a little patience, and correct treatment. Believe me!
You´ll also need the help of your nice Family, and I´m sure they will understand and gladly stand behind you.

God bless you, and help you to go through this stage of your life. You´ll make it pal!
Best cordial regards, Abel