Dating Advice: How do you guys get over someone that was “special”

[TheVTCGuy]

So... I dated this nice young woman for 11 months, it ended about a year ago. It was fantastic; suffice it to say I was very happy. She is quite a bit younger then me so we both knew we were not each other’s “end games” but nonetheless, we got along great and it was a very enjoyable relationship. The inevitable happened, I got dumped. It ended very abruptly with her saying: “Let’s just be friends.” Now, I have been dumped many many.. many many times in my life, so I knew how to handle this, play it cool, don’t chase, but I really was broken hearted. Ask Larry, BnLion, when I pleaded to let me come over to his house and cry on his shoulder he was kind enough to listen.

She and I have spoken on the phone several times, met for lunch a couple occasions, but what I was hoping for, the: “Take me back” statement never came. I have since dated a couple pleasant ladies, currently seeing a very nice one that is actually the same age as my ex, but there is not the ... “feeling”... I had with her. I know, it never could have ended much of any other way, shouldn’t have gotten myself emotionally involved to the point I did, but it was so much fun, such a great time.

Here we are, coming up on one year since I got dumped, she called me on my birthday a couple months ago and there were vague references about getting together... blah blah blah. When I am alone, contemplating the world, (like I am tonight) I find my thoughts drifting towards her. It couldn’t ever work out, I SHOULDN’T want it to, still.... those thoughts drift where they do.

So tell me TRF, how do you guys get over one that was so much fun, it’s hard to stop thinking about?