Wife moving out 10/1.

[Mosco]

Keep your head up, Chuck. Everything always seems to shake out eventually.

[colpol]

Never been married but had 2 long termers that came to an end - one that lasted most of my 20's.

My top advise would be to keep busy - first time I moped about for weeks on end. Then I got my bike out - used to cycle 2 hours every night after work/ then started going out for friday night pints & then more & more stuff. Then - you wake up one day & realise you haven't thought of your ex for over a week !!

You think at the time that its the worse of the worse & then about 4/ 5 months later realise it was the best move ever. Stay positive & get that watch.

Good luck

[blackmsport]

and stay away from the alcohol....

stick with positive thinkers

[onryo]

This is probably the strangest piece of advice you'll get, but I'll just say it: watch the bottle. I've been down that road after a bad split and it only makes things more difficult in the long term. Take care of yourself first.

[onryo]

Originally Posted by blackmsport

and stay away from the alcohol....

stick with positive thinkers

You beat me to it. Great minds think alike. Trying to get sober was a far greater challenge for me than getting over the woman and losing my things...

[Widows Son]

I've had four male friends in your same spot recently. In each case the wife had a boyfriend. Sounds like she's already made up her mind that it's over. Protect yourself. From this point on, it's purely a business transaction. Nobody "wins" in a divorce, all you can hope to do is break even. Don't even consider going into court without a divorce attorney. Hate to sound too negative, but I've had some experience in these matters.

[bayerische]

Sorry to hear!

Hope it works out for the best of you two.

[Gaijin]

I don't know man. Every divorced friend of mine says it was the best money they ever spent in theri life. Worth every penny of it.

So maybe this will be a new start for you.

[Ultraman]

Hoping the best for you, Chuck!

Stay Positive.

[Cru Jones]

sorry to hear this news....and, even though this is "just a forum", good for you to be reaching out and seeking support wherever you can get it.

Originally Posted by betrezra

Actually some pretty good ideas here...
1. work out and take care of yourself.....
2. take care of the inards as well..... mind, and soul.....
3. surround yourself with people who care about you
4. don't forget who you are.....
5. figure out what you want.

Peace

Originally Posted by masterserg

Good stuff. I'd add "stay positive and surround yourself w/ positive people".

the above is FANTASTIC advice perfectly said.

Originally Posted by Widows Son

I've had four male friends in your same spot recently. In each case the wife had a boyfriend. Sounds like she's already made up her mind that it's over. Protect yourself. From this point on, it's purely a business transaction. Nobody "wins" in a divorce, all you can hope to do is break even. Don't even consider going into court without a divorce attorney. Hate to sound too negative, but I've had some experience in these matters.

and, even though it is hard to hear, yes, there is a strong possibility there's someone else. i don't agree that she thinks "it's over", but, she is probably very confused.

good luck. it's okay to feel like sh*t....but, it will get better and maybe you both will be together again and stronger for it.

[Tunacan26]

Thanks to all for your thoughtful words.

[jamesbondOO7]

What's a Tudor Advisor?

[Grumpy Badger]

Originally Posted by jamesbondOO7

What's a Tudor Advisor?

Link here...

http://www.watchtalkforums.info/foru...orum/49209.htm

OP, hang tough, fella!

[jamesbondOO7]

Thanks, does not look half bad, at least on the picture.

[Runnin' Rebel]

The glass is half full, just fill the other have. I'm a bartender for almost 30 years, tons of stories, most work out fine, just keep positive !!!

many fish on the sea, maybe it will work out !

[Dr.Brian]

Originally Posted by Widows Son

I've had four male friends in your same spot recently. In each case the wife had a boyfriend. Sounds like she's already made up her mind that it's over. Protect yourself. From this point on, it's purely a business transaction. Nobody "wins" in a divorce, all you can hope to do is break even. Don't even consider going into court without a divorce attorney. Hate to sound too negative, but I've had some experience in these matters.

I've seen this too many times with my professional friends, and both ways BTW. Married to the job, bored and abandoned spouse. One day, the revelation. I don't need this anymore, I'll be fine alone (or with x). I've seen angry wives do some CRAZY stuff to get as much as possible. You would not believe it. It's great that you may work things out. The advanced notice MAY really be one last try to get your attention about unresolved problems. Either way, you MUST talk to an attorney ASAP and work on protecting your assets and a fair settlement. It may already be too late, you just don't know it.

[Dr.Brian]

Originally Posted by Widows Son

I've had four male friends in your same spot recently. In each case the wife had a boyfriend. Sounds like she's already made up her mind that it's over. Protect yourself. From this point on, it's purely a business transaction. Nobody "wins" in a divorce, all you can hope to do is break even. Don't even consider going into court without a divorce attorney. Hate to sound too negative, but I've had some experience in these matters.

I've seen this too many times with my professional friends, and both ways BTW. Married to the job, bored and abandoned spouse. One day, the revelation. I don't need this anymore, I'll be fine alone (or with x). I've seen angry wives do some CRAZY stuff to get as much as possible. You would not believe it. It's great that you may work things out. The advanced notice MAY really be one last try to get your attention about unresolved problems. Either way, you MUST talk to an attorney ASAP and work on protecting your assets and a fair settlement. It may already be too late, you just don't know it.

[arttay10]

Chuck - myself and all your TRF buddies are here if you need us.

[Lamone]

Originally Posted by Widows Son

I've had four male friends in your same spot recently. In each case the wife had a boyfriend. Sounds like she's already made up her mind that it's over. Protect yourself. From this point on, it's purely a business transaction. Nobody "wins" in a divorce, all you can hope to do is break even. Don't even consider going into court without a divorce attorney. Hate to sound too negative, but I've had some experience in these matters.

I agree 100%. My wife left and never came back...PROTECT yourself just in case. You don't want to lose it all.

[mfer]

Been there, done that.

My only advice is to figure out what you really want. If you aren't happy, you can't make anyone else happy. It takes two and you can't force someone's mind.

Also, it will be impossible to realize now, but things will be better one day and you will be happy again. In your marriage or in your new life.

[betrezra]

And you have us crazy bunch of watch-nutz to kablitz with ... some on here 24/7...... :)
Hang in there buddy!