Wifey wants bolt-ons

[britincali]

[TopNotchChach]

Bolt ons? I thought you meant "strap ons" double yikes!!!!

You should compare before and after celebs.

As howard stern says "you don't want to go too big"

[JasoninDenver]

Originally Posted by Lisa

Eh, not always. Some women just want back what they used to have, before babies and breastfeeding. These are the women you work with, or who you see at the grocery store, or who are your wife's buddies, who you might never guess had had it done. Just ordinary gals.

How is it that Lisa is now becoming the Guru of this forum. Too many times now I have seen her hitting the nail on the head with her answers.

In the next two weeks my wife will be going in for a little tweaking after having realized the effects of breastfeeding our two little ones.

I have never been a breast man, so I do not really care. I actually thought she should get the MOP DJ she has been wanting for a couple of years now instead. She, however, is not happy with her current look. Combined with the fact that she has felt self-conscious about her small presentation for 40 years now, it became something that was important for her to change.

I think, for her, it is not about getting more attention or addressing underlying self esteem issues. She wants to be able to go into a store and buy a blouse off the rack (no pun) and not have to worry about it being tailored for an average bust size. That's all she is doing - getting to average.

It was really enlightening to go through the selection process and seeing before and after pictures. I thought she was being silly about her desire to have it done until I noticed that nearly every "before" picture was already much bigger than she is. None of the women that this surgeon did looked fake or abnormally large. In fact, this doctor does not do the "stripper jobs" as a matter of principle.

Here is the really interesting part of the story. My wife is a doctor herself. She researched this for years before deciding whether or not to do it. If she feels it is safe for her then I would have to agree as she does not even like to take any form of pain medication for fear of side effects.

As far as comments of any lack of self esteem --- Well, I am still trying to figure out why the heck she married me. Seriously though, she is stunningly gorgeous, incredibly intelligent, and the best person I have ever met. I am incredibly lucky to have her in any shape or form.

[RolexWatcher]

Originally Posted by Lisa

I think it's interesting (in a good way) that most of the men here aren't keen on the idea of implants, preferring the real thing, no matter the size. I wish my sisterhood could understand that being loved for who they are is best.

Interesting point, I sometimes think gals have misconceptions of what guys want. You can add skinny with the idea of wanting implants too.

But then, I think we guys all think we know what women want as well - e.g. "sizing" each other back in school which is definitely not what women want!

[The Joker]

Like most guys here I'm not a big fan either. I've seen some that look good(on the interweb) but the minute they look fake

Can feel unnatural and be rock hard. Almost broke my teeth on a pair in Amsterdam.

[JasoninDenver]

Originally Posted by The Joker

Like most guys here I'm not a big fan either. I've seen some that look good(on the interweb) but the minute they look fake

Can feel unnatural and be rock hard. Almost broke my teeth on a pair in Amsterdam.

Are you sure you weren't just stoned and hitting on a statue?

[Johny]

i think that any unnecessary surgery is risking your life needlessly. you need to get to the why. imho.

[The Joker]

Originally Posted by JasoninDenver

Are you sure you weren't just stoned and hitting on a statue?

I'm sticking with my story.

[britincali]

Originally Posted by Johny

i think that any unnecessary surgery is risking your life needlessly. you need to get to the why. imho.

Shes always had issues with her body and breasts ever since I met her day 1.

I just want her to be happy. Plus the happier she is the happier I am

[Johny]

Originally Posted by britincali

Shes always had issues with her body and breasts ever since I met her day 1.

I just want her to be happy. Plus the happier she is the happier I am

imho it's too much to risk/loose for what...fake boobs... that's the reality. is there any peer pressure involved here?

[britincali]

No peer pressure at all aside from all the women in the world with big ole titties lol

[Johny]

Originally Posted by britincali

No peer pressure at all aside from all the women in the world with big ole titties lol

...yeh who really wish that they had small ones.....grass is always greener.

[figbo]

Vtc Paul have spoken,nothing else to say.

[Pep04]

Originally Posted by NYC6

"bolt ons" first time I've heard that.

Me too!!! I love it!!!!

[TheVTCGuy]

Originally Posted by figbo

Vtc Paul have spoken,nothing else to say.

Excellent Point Rafiel!


Have I admitted you to the Dorklehead club yet? If not, I think it's time for an honorary membership

[britincali]

Originally Posted by Johny

...yeh who really wish that they had small ones.....grass is always greener.

True true...

[Johny]

Originally Posted by britincali

True true...

oh well...you pays your money and you takes your chance. fake boobs wont fix it.( the issues ) imho.

[Lisa]

I've blabbed enough in this thread - but I hope that if she decides to do it, it makes her happy, she gets exactly what she hoped for, and she has no regrets. It's not possible to go back and un-do the surgery. You can have implants removed but the breasts will be scarred forever and if there was loss of sensation it won't return. It's not my place to try and talk anyone out of doing something like this. My only hope is that she does her homework - and not all of the answers are found by talking to a plastic surgeon.

[JasoninDenver]

Originally Posted by britincali

True true...

Yeah, my wife's cousin actually had to have reduction surgery...

[Dilemma]

Almost broke my teeth on a pair in Amsterdam

They are not beef jerky you know.

[Nugs]

Originally Posted by Lisa

It's society's fault! We're bombarded with images of what women should look like - and almost always big, luscious breasts are part of that. It's tough for many women to accept themselves as they are. That's one reason why I admire celebrities like Kate Hudson. She's got teensy breasts but exudes confidence and sexiness. And she's gorgeous, too.

Agreed, but she picks terrible movies to be in

Personally I'm not a fan of most elective comestic procedures but if she really wants it then it's probably best to help her in the process rather than get in the way. I stupidly nearly broke up with my girlfriend over her wanting rhinoplasty before I realised that.

[rr-nyc]

She could buy a larger bra and stuff them with tissue but it won't be the same and I'm sure she has tried something similar in the past which led her to want them anyway

At the end of the day, there is only one way for your wife to know whether they're for her and thats to get them done. She could, money permitting, get saline implants inserted through the belly button that leaves no scars or loss of sensation. If she likes them, she can them as is or she can always move up to silicon gel (which would have to be implanted with a larger incision). If she hates them, she can have them removed and no one will know the difference (Assuming she doesn't go up more than a cup size).

There are plenty of women that get breast augmentation for themselves and for no other reason. My wife has them because she wanted them. They make her happy and she looks great (before and after for me but she prefers the latter). If you didn't know her before, you'd never know. There are no scars (saline through the belly button) and no loss of sensation. If your wife really wants them and you are in a financial position to provide them, support her while she makes up her mind.

I realize this is a Rolex forum but the comments about skipping the implants and using the money for another Rolex are pretty lame.

[Oyster1982]

I m not into women, however I do not believe in aftermarket parts. I would not want my partner to get a face lift, I know that we just get older and gravity takes over. I like my partner like I like my Rolex's, all original.

[keschete]

Originally Posted by Lisa

Do you think Kate Hudson should get implants, then, so she'll look like real woman? Heaven forbid she should be so unfortunate to have breasts that make her look like a schoolboy.

The OP did ask if anyone had experiences to share. That's an important part of making a decision. I for one think it's very, very important to look at all sides of the issue - but with breast implant surgery, it's a little trickier to find information that hasn't tended to be glamorized.

To the OP - try an image search for "complications breast augmentation." Most complications aren't life threatening, but they do require more surgery.

As for women regretting that they went "too big" - it does happen. And the bigger the implant, the more likely it is to have problems, especially with lasting numbness and discomfort. I've talked to women who have had implants who now can't stand to have their breasts touched.

Of course, finding a board-certified plastic surgeon is the way to go, but they're not infallible. Their idea of what looks right for you might not match what you had envisioned. And the best surgeon out there can't guarantee against unacceptable scarring and permanent loss of sensation.

No implant feels like a real breast, either.

AMEN Sister!!! Personally as a woman and as a medical professional. I would never undergo surgery or anesthesia unless I was ill and it was required.

Many women feel the need to look a certain way because they are insecure. Some women are confident and want to have augmentation, but in my experience, most women who want plastic surgery, feel insecure, for whatever reason.

I would certainly urge you to discuss this at length with your wife and make sure that this is what she really wants. It wouldn't even be a bad idea to see a therapist or even wait a few months and really discuss the issue. Make sure she really wants this. It isn't a rush...encourage her to take her time, talk to other women and get references on good surgeons.

Once it is done, you don't want to have repeated surgeries to correct things she isn't happy with. Best of luck!

[Timber Loftis]

After being a lifetime connoisseur of random women as well as those who dance or do videos for money, there is only one thing I can say for certain: It is rare beyond compare to find a boob job where you cannot notice that it was done. Whether they slice the nipple or the underboob or go in through the belly, it will absolutely be noticeable to the person or persons who get to see those boobies naked.

In my experience, all, yes, all, surgery alters the body and leaves scars. You simply cannot escape it. Plus, and forgive me for being crass, but you can see the stupid baggies floating around when those things get to bouncing. Forgive the imagery, but the last thing I want are helicopter boobies that have those tell-tale impression marks in them.

I may be a fan of women with fake boobies, but it is never because of the fake boobies, I can promise you that.

All of that said, they seem to do it better in Canada for some reason. So, if you're hell bent on it (or, rather, she is) then at least check there to see what's up. I once also knew a gal who got very good ones done through the belly button - her doc was in Florida somewhere, I think Ft. Lauderdale, but that's not very specific, I realize (sorry).

Oh, you do know that they need a new "tending to" about every 10 years, yes? It's just like servicing your watch, put it on the schedule.

[Lisa]

A couple of things about implants done through the belly button - it can only be done with saline implants, far fewer surgeons are willing to do it, and it used to void the implant manufacturer's warranty (though I don't know if this is still true). Apparently the uninflated implants' longer journey might increase the chances of it getting damaged. Also, it's more difficult to get proper placement and pocket dissection when you're working from such a long distance. Finally, if/when you need further surgery, the surgeon will have to go back in through the breast to fix things, so you get scarring anyway.

Also, no one has mentioned yet the incidence of capsular contracture. This is a common complication that happens when the scar tissue capsule that forms around the implants becomes too tight and compresses the implant, creating excessive firmness in the breast, distorting the shape of the breast, and/or causing varying levels of discomfort and pain. According to one study, this happens in 15 percent to 45 percent of breast augmentation patients. More surgery may be needed to relieve capsular contracture, but there are no guarantees that it won't happen repeatedly. It may take months or longer for the effects of capsular contracture to appear.

Fifteen to 45 percent chance of this occuring is pretty high. Something to factor in when weighing the risks and benefits of getting implants.

[rsg]

Originally Posted by Lisa

A couple of things about implants done through the belly button - it can only be done with saline implants, far fewer surgeons are willing to do it, and it used to void the implant manufacturer's warranty (though I don't know if this is still true). Apparently the uninflated implants' longer journey might increase the chances of it getting damaged. Also, it's more difficult to get proper placement and pocket dissection when you're working from such a long distance. Finally, if/when you need further surgery, the surgeon will have to go back in through the breast to fix things, so you get scarring anyway.

Also, no one has mentioned yet the incidence of capsular contracture. This is a common complication that happens when the scar tissue capsule that forms around the implants becomes too tight and compresses the implant, creating excessive firmness in the breast, distorting the shape of the breast, and/or causing varying levels of discomfort and pain. According to one study, this happens in 15 percent to 45 percent of breast augmentation patients. More surgery may be needed to relieve capsular contracture, but there are no guarantees that it won't happen repeatedly. It may take months or longer for the effects of capsular contracture to appear.

Fifteen to 45 percent chance of this occuring is pretty high. Something to factor in when weighing the risks and benefits of getting implants.

According to the studies submitted to the FDA 20-40% of ALL implants require another surgery within 3 years.

[rr-nyc]

Originally Posted by Lisa

A couple of things about implants done through the belly button - it can only be done with saline implants, far fewer surgeons are willing to do it, and it used to void the implant manufacturer's warranty (though I don't know if this is still true). Apparently the uninflated implants' longer journey might increase the chances of it getting damaged. Also, it's more difficult to get proper placement and pocket dissection when you're working from such a long distance. Finally, if/when you need further surgery, the surgeon will have to go back in through the breast to fix things, so you get scarring anyway.

Also, no one has mentioned yet the incidence of capsular contracture. This is a common complication that happens when the scar tissue capsule that forms around the implants becomes too tight and compresses the implant, creating excessive firmness in the breast, distorting the shape of the breast, and/or causing varying levels of discomfort and pain. According to one study, this happens in 15 percent to 45 percent of breast augmentation patients. More surgery may be needed to relieve capsular contracture, but there are no guarantees that it won't happen repeatedly. It may take months or longer for the effects of capsular contracture to appear.

Fifteen to 45 percent chance of this occuring is pretty high. Something to factor in when weighing the risks and benefits of getting implants.

I stated that the belly button approach is limited to saline in a previous post. Do you have any documentation that states transumbilical method voids the manufacturers warranty? I'm in med device and deal with FDA issues of other implantables and have never heard that an insertion method voids any warranties. If anything, that would fall under user error and has nothing to do with a manufacturer

[Lisa]

Originally Posted by rr-nyc

I stated that the belly button approach is limited to saline in a previous post. Do you have any documentation that states transumbilical method voids the manufacturers warranty? I'm in med device and deal with FDA issues of other implantables and have never heard that an insertion method voids any warranties. If anything, that would fall under user error and has nothing to do with a manufacturer

Right - as I mentioned, I wasn't sure if the warranty was voided. Actually a quick search just now revealed one plastic surgery site that said the TUBA method did void the warranty (Lawler Centre Cosmetic Surgery), but elsewhere read that is specifically does not. It may vary depending on the manufacturer, or I could just be wrong.

PS - I'm not a doctor nor an expert. Please don't hesitate to correct my errors.

[rsg]

Originally Posted by Lisa

Right - as I mentioned, I wasn't sure if the warranty was voided. Actually a quick search just now revealed one plastic surgery site that said the TUBA method did void the warranty (Lawler Centre Cosmetic Surgery), but elsewhere read that is specifically does not. It may vary depending on the manufacturer, or I could just be wrong.

PS - I'm not a doctor nor an expert. Please don't hesitate to correct my errors.

Medical devices/implants are frequently used "off label" without any consequences.