My wife wanted my SUB --- I refused!

[cwilson13]

It took my wife about 5 years of not even giving any of my watches a second glance to now wearing one of mine several days a week. Her favorite is my Hulk and a 1950s square, rose gold vintage piece. I think she wears them well and it helps soften up the conversation when it coming to adding to the collection!

[Sublover2166]

Happy Wife=Happy Life bud. You obviously haven't figured that out yet.....

[superdog]

Originally Posted by Sublover2166

Happy Wife=Happy Life bud. You obviously haven't figured that out yet.....

To each their own.....

You obviously haven't figured that our yet.

[DCgator]

Originally Posted by CoachRolexRyan

I gave my wife my LV Sub when she asked for it. In turn she let's me borrow her Gucci purse and her lip gloss whenever I want.

Too damn funny Ryan!

I share my watches with family members such as with my ex (we are still close friends) and my two sons. Since the ex safekeeps the tt T-bird I gave the older son two years ago I requested her to pls. wear it as often as she can to keep it running and she loves that watch. I gave her own tt Omega Constellation last year as a thank you gift for always helping out with our daughter and grand kids. I gave my son in law my Breitling Seawolf Avenger ti as he does not own one single quality watch. When my young son graduates from nursing school next month he will receive as grad present my GMTII-3186 Coke. I've given watches to other family members before (not Rolex).

To the OP - I can appreciate your stance although I would have insisted that I buy her her own Sub because she's special to you and deserves a brand new one. My 2c.

[SixPak]

Originally Posted by rolexdivers

Any of you this strict with your watches?

No!

[BlueHeron]

Originally Posted by RolexDivers

My wife really likes my watch collection. She has a YM midsize that she likes to wear which is hers. She is not that much into watches.

While we were driving, she said, "well, you have so many, let me have one of your sub".... I said instantly "NO --- why don't we buy you a new sub instead!".. She gave me that look of "wow, you said no to me and I am your wife?" ... I kind of felt bad for a microsecond and then I didn't give a crap.

So folks the main thing is that for me, I do not like people even touching my Rolexes and by people I mean people...When it comes to my Rolexes, every one is people to me, including wife, kids, parents, everyone--- No one touches my Rollies but me. After I die, they can sell them for a buck a piece, I don't care..but unitl my last breath, I will be saving them and guarding them with my blood if it need be.

My teenage daughter has asked me to wear the GMT2C and the DEEPSEA to her college...and my response with a smile is "Over my dead body sweetness!!"...

So yeah, I am one cruel bastard but I know that when it comes to babying and taking care of MY watches, no one gives a hoot except MOI...big believer in the saying "wanna do something well, then do it yourself"....

Any of you this strict with your watches?

Assuming you otherwise have warm and connected relationships with your wife and children, then I have no problem with how you feel. Feeling so possessive about your watches could even be considered charming in an otherwise loving family.

If your wife loves you and is otherwise generally fulfilled in your relationship, then your reluctance to share your watch should not give her any reason to hold you hostage to anger -- it should produce a chuckle at worst.

The phrase used by many in this thread -- "Happy Wife Happy Life" -- should never be used as a kind of emotional blackmail, as if any request from one's wife must be automatically granted for fear of being subjected to misery. I'd go further and say that it is insulting to women to portray them as demanding "100% compliance or else".

[underdog33]

My wife isn't into watches. It's a hobby that I enjoy and had hoped that we could share. We've looked at various Rolex DJ, Explorer I, Omega's etc. for her and she simply loved the classic look of my Rolex 16610. I love my 16610 but I rarely wore it anymore since I added several new pieces to my collection.

So I sized the 16610 for her and she absolutely loves it. She loves it more than several of her 'fashion' watches (Chanel, Cartier etc.). I now miss wearing it, but truth be told, I think it looks better on her wrist than mine. As well, she's a bit more understanding about my passion for watches now.

[handsfull]

Originally Posted by ocwatching

Wow...

x 100

[Gharddog03]

Hardcore! To each their own. I would let my wife wear one of my watches but she wouldn't ask.

[bonbonson]

A happy wife is a happy life. Good luck buying a new watch.

[Armyguy03]

I can see how the OP feels, the man loves his timepieces.

I recently purchased my little brother a 14060 after he asked for mine. I guess the way I look at it, if he can experience as much happiness from wearing a watch as I do, AND if I can afford it, then why not (I should caveat that I did make him sell his Movado's first).

I am not married, or any in relationship. However, when I get serious with a woman, and decided to marry her, I would have no issue letting her wear any watch I own.

A few fellow officers I've met during my time in the service would often boast of how their wives purchased them Rolex watches after they got married. I guess that's how you know she's a keeper.

[Boopie]

Yikes! A bit harsh!

That being said, my husband's Submariner is his. As are his clothes, his cigars, his computer + phone + iPad and his other stuff. The garage is his. His desk is his. My stuff is mine.

Obviously we share food, but typically what we buy for our personal use belongs to us.

But, I wouldn't say my stuff is = a person. I wouldn't ask that he give me the watch that he wears every day, but I imagine that if he had a watch that he didn't wear any more, and I showed an interest in wearing it, it wouldn't be an issue.

[redsubby]

Don't see why all the negative responses. Some people don't like their items abused by others and that's perfectly fine. If his wife wants to wear one of his watches, then she best wear it and care for it the way he does. If she bangs it around like she does with her own stuff then it's not wrong to say no to her.

[Touring]

Wow...

[polarinda]

I dont see why my wife cant wear any of mine. The thought just never cross my mind.

[powerfunk]

I guess my answer is no, because my wife wanted this Sub...and I went out and sized it for her right away.

[Bangel]

I actually think that if my wife wanted to wear my watch, it would be kinda' cool!

[Boopie]

Originally Posted by redsubby

Don't see why all the negative responses. Some people don't like their items abused by others and that's perfectly fine. If his wife wants to wear one of his watches, then she best wear it and care for it the way he does. If she bangs it around like she does with her own stuff then it's not wrong to say no to her.

I re-read the OP and I didn't catch anything about her "banging" things around or otherwise abusing them or being irresponsible. I inferred that he had a lot of watches that he didn't wear, and she asked about wearing an "extra" watch (not his daily wearer).

I have "my" car and my husband has "his" car, but in reality they are "ours." Obviously we each store personal gear (e.g. music, accessories) in our cars, so I would ask before taking "his" car. I suppose if my husband were a reckless, irresponsible driver who has a tendency to crash cars I would say "no," but I wouldn't say "no" just because my car is "mine."

If the OP's wife were irresponsible, then of course he would be justified in saying no. I inferred, however, that he thought that his watches were "his" and he didn't want anyone else to touch them.

I'm not keen on a wife appropriating her husband's daily wearer, but if he had a watch in the safe that he wasn't wearing, and that she would like to wear (absent unusual circumstances, such as a vintage Newman Daytona that he was keeping for investment purposes), and she weren't irresponsible, I would say, why not?

[WWC]

Originally Posted by RolexDivers

My wife really likes my watch collection. She has a YM midsize that she likes to wear which is hers. She is not that much into watches.

While we were driving, she said, "well, you have so many, let me have one of your sub".... I said instantly "NO --- why don't we buy you a new sub instead!".. She gave me that look of "wow, you said no to me and I am your wife?" ... I kind of felt bad for a microsecond and then I didn't give a crap.

So folks the main thing is that for me, I do not like people even touching my Rolexes and by people I mean people...When it comes to my Rolexes, every one is people to me, including wife, kids, parents, everyone--- No one touches my Rollies but me. After I die, they can sell them for a buck a piece, I don't care..but unitl my last breath, I will be saving them and guarding them with my blood if it need be.

My teenage daughter has asked me to wear the GMT2C and the DEEPSEA to her college...and my response with a smile is "Over my dead body sweetness!!"...

So yeah, I am one cruel bastard but I know that when it comes to babying and taking care of MY watches, no one gives a hoot except MOI...big believer in the saying "wanna do something well, then do it yourself"....

Any of you this strict with your watches?

Just keeping it short and simple. Family is family and nothing is above that. My Rolex is my jewel but is diminutive compared to my family.

My watch is just a piece of metal.

No hard feelings

[polarinda]

let her have the regular beat up 16610 and lock the NOS red sub.

[RolexDivers]

I apreciate your comments. Thank you.. I did mention to her immediately that she deserves her own SUB and that the ceramic ones looks mighty nice ..but once she did try my SD and it was too big on her... thank god...my SDs are safe,,, that was close.. the lugs were coming off her wrists!
I forgot to write that in my original email...

But what I have learned in my 15 years of life, the key to a happy marriage is to still maintain your identity and do things that you used to do before you were married (with the exception of dating!) ...

So once a week for a few hours, I am me, doing my favorite activity like climbing, she does her own thing and the other 5 days we are doing things together as a family with each other and the kids ...That allows each person's batteries to get recharged and no one burns out....just because you are married, doesn't mean you share everything...somethings you feel very passionately about, no one touches and your spouse respects you for that... and then your spouse has a few things she doesn't want you or the kids to ever touch and you respect that ...

Works really for us...

[RolexDivers]

Originally Posted by Boopie

I re-read the OP and I didn't catch anything about her "banging" things around or otherwise abusing them or being irresponsible. I inferred that he had a lot of watches that he didn't wear, and she asked about wearing an "extra" watch (not his daily wearer).

I have "my" car and my husband has "his" car, but in reality they are "ours." Obviously we each store personal gear (e.g. music, accessories) in our cars, so I would ask before taking "his" car. I suppose if my husband were a reckless, irresponsible driver who has a tendency to crash cars I would say "no," but I wouldn't say "no" just because my car is "mine."

If the OP's wife were irresponsible, then of course he would be justified in saying no. I inferred, however, that he thought that his watches were "his" and he didn't want anyone else to touch them.

I'm not keen on a wife appropriating her husband's daily wearer, but if he had a watch in the safe that he wasn't wearing, and that she would like to wear (absent unusual circumstances, such as a vintage Newman Daytona that he was keeping for investment purposes), and she weren't irresponsible, I would say, why not?

You are absolutely right... we have his and her and in reality all is ours ...my wife is not irrersponsible at all and not abusive towards her watches. She has 2 of her own rolexes that shehardly wears...she would wear them for a coupe of days and then nothing, I mean no watch at all for about 3 months...my only issue is my Rolex being out of my possession..and getting scratched!!!YIKES!!! -- personally I rather take those scratches on my face rather than put them on my watch...

Maybe I should give in and just let her try ... her wrists are way too small so she will hand the watch right back to me and the watches will come back to my safe either way...

[AK797]

Originally Posted by RolexDivers

You are absolutely right... we have his and her and in reality all is ours ...my wife is not irrersponsible at all and not abusive towards her watches. She has 2 of her own rolexes that shehardly wears...she would wear them for a coupe of days and then nothing, I mean no watch at all for about 3 months...my only issue is my Rolex being out of my possession..and getting scratched!!!YIKES!!! -- personally I rather take those scratches on my face rather than put them on my watch...

Maybe I should give in and just let her try ... her wrists are way too small so she will hand the watch right back to me and the watches will come back to my safe either way...

I don't think you should let her try on your Rolexes as women will mark up a watch like you wouldn't believe and it will surely make you mad. In that case I'm sure she'll be writing on her shoe/bag forums - "Don't touch your husband's watches as - happy husband, happy life!"

[kbutler971]

My wife has pretty much taken over wearing "our" DD YG 18238 and DD WG 118239. She's not a WIS but takes good care of them. It works for us, but I'd hesitate lending out any further than that.

[kbutler971]

My wife has pretty much taken over wearing "our" DD YG 18238 and DD WG 118239. She's not a WIS but takes good care of them. It works for us, but I'd hesitate lending out any further than that.

[FeelingTheBlues]

Well that was an interesting read...

I must admit that the way you describe the situation does make it sound like quite a big deal but as far as I'm concerned you kind of have a point. I must say my girlfriend is quite clumsy, she dropped some of my vintage watches on the floor or put things on them without realizing and though she hasn't broken one we got pretty close to that a few times. Having said that, I still let her touch them and if she wanted (she never does as she's not into watches) I'd let her wear them.

That's just the way I am though, whatever floats your boat and you take care of your watches the way you want to. To your defense I must say I find it special that your wife would request one of your watches like that, my mother always told me to never ask for a gift, always wait until someone wants to give you something before you accept...

Thank you for the morning laugh.

[Lisa]

Originally Posted by AK797

I don't think you should let her try on your Rolexes as women will mark up a watch like you wouldn't believe and it will surely make you mad. In that case I'm sure she'll be writing on her shoe/bag forums - "Don't touch your husband's watches as - happy husband, happy life!"

Whoa there, big fella. The desire and motivation to care for one's belongings isn't gender driven.

[Casey VP-26]

Let me see, I'm trying to remember,

Until death do us part, or was it

Until (you want my sub) do us part.

Good Luck to ya.

[BeauneCrusher]

Originally Posted by CoachRolexRyan

I gave my wife my LV Sub when she asked for it. In turn she let's me borrow her Gucci purse and her lip gloss whenever I want.

I don't mind her borrowing the pink lip gloss, but if she ever gets here hands on the purple, it would mean instant divorce. Now that's being a badass!

[donq]

There's nothing I wouldn't give my wife, if she wanted it.

Making her happy brings me more joy than watches etc.

That being said you have to hang on to your identity.

You can't give up everything that makes you who you are for someone else,
So I still have several motorcycles despite my wife's disapproval.

But a watch? If I'm not wearing it, then she might as well be...