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6 August 2018, 08:41 AM | #61 |
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Dear Paul,
I am your female friend and I'm not gonna sugar coat this. You need to put this behind you. She clearly doesn't deserve you and you should not waste your time. If she wanted to be with you, she would have let you know. At this age, there is no playing games who calls whom. As long as you keep in touch, you will never gain the needed distance to put her behind you. And as long as she is lingering, no matter who you meet, will not feel special enough. One day you will shake your head and say, man was i an idiot to waste that time on someone who doesn't deserve it. Screw the comeback. If she was the right one, she would have never left. Period. Break any and all contact. No exceptions. Only that will help you shift your focus and maybe give the attention to someone else who is maybe just as special but you don't see it, because your eyes are clouded. Short version: Break contact. Move on. She is not worthy of you wasting time. Life is too short to waste it on the people who don't deserve us. You won't find happiness as long as she's around. Good luck and here to talk if you need me, Tea
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6 August 2018, 09:06 AM | #62 |
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For what it’s worth, all the wrong girls eventually helped me find the right one that I married 10 years ago. I learned what I liked, didn’t like, and how to make a successful relationship last. Yes, there were a few girls that when we broke up I was miserable. But, looking back then at what I know now, those were the relationships that I learned the most from.
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I’m not sure about the rest of this but I’m thinking you should let this one go or at the very least let her know how you feel so she knows where things stand. I’m pretty sure no one wants to be dating someone who doesn’t think they have the same feelings toward them as they do their ex.
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Ask yourself what is it about her that really attracts you? Was she beautiful/hot...........like beyond the norm for you? Was it the intimacy? The answer is in front of you.............but this does not seem to be the girl for you, because you seem to be her "plan B". Simply put, there is not a convergence of feelings.........she has moved past, now it´s your turn.
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you will not like this. but it is tough love. because I genuinely care about you.
and reality. suck it up butter cup. man up. put her out of you mind. cut her off. mentally, physically and emotionally. make a conscious choice to shut it off and shut her out. and tell yourself to stop feeding into this. you are your own worst enemy. make a choice. let it go. and stick to that.
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i still say there is no easier way to getting over something like this than finding an IMMEDIATE replacement. easier said than done, but that has always been my solution.
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Paul, you need a new mistress you can get back in the saddle with, spend some time and money on to keep her fresh and looking good, just for you. In return, she'll always be there whenever you want whether it's for a nice relaxing afternoon or, if you feel like getting sweaty and grunty, really have your way with her, getting your ya-yas out and turning her every which way you can with no complaints because that's what she's built for. Of course, I'm talking about an airplane, a Pitts. Maybe a two-place S2B on the chance you ever meet woman cool, thrill-seeking, and confident enough to want to experience a threesome with you and your girl in the hangar. That'll be her real competition if she wants to land you. |
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Send her a link to this thread and then just sit back and wait for a reaction. You'll know everything is short order.
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6 August 2018, 12:09 PM | #74 |
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Maybe she wants to be friends with benefits.
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Dating Advice: How do you guys get over someone that was “special”
I think you need a trip to Montreal. Pm for recommendations lol
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The only way to move on is to move on.
She dumped you, so if she wants to come crawling back, that’s her move to make. But I’d probably pass. It sounds like you knew it was just temporary, so enjoy the memories and get back in the saddle. All the middle aged single people I know have two things in common, they work too hard and put too much of their self worth in their professional life and they regularly pass up social opportunities (don’t belong to clubs, don’t go to charity events, participate in solo sports, choose work or they’re “too tired” instead of going out with friends/colleagues, etc.). Those are things you can change. Either that or they are divorced and serial daters with no plans to settle down ever again. 6 weeks to 6 months and done no matter what.
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Go date her younger sister!
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Probably best to find a woman closer to your own age now, only works if you look and earn like Di Caprio.
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Just so you don't always wonder what could have been, ask her flat out if she wants relationship again. If she says no, then cut all ties and move on. No communication, no ruminating. |
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Dude, with all the beautiful women available in the world, there is no reason to get hung up on that one? Go to Medellin Colombia. Problem solved.
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you must look like James bond to claim that. I'm not dating shallow people, even if they look like any of the bonds. I'm 5'9" 145 lbs for the record.
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Agree with the others who are saying move on, it's over. She's using you as an emotional crutch. The "lets be friends" request more times than not is a let him down easy tool and usually contact ceases. She still reaches out to you not because she wants to be with you but there is something in her that needs reinsurance that you are still around if she needs you, don't be. It's rare that exes are friends and if they are it's usually unhealthy or co-dependent. I'm not saying never be friends with her, though that's what I want to say, what I am saying is you can't be friends right now. It's not fair and you can't be available to her and truly move on. See "Forgetting Sarah Marshall" very good breakup movie!!
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Paul, if you go abroad to cast your net it won't have to be a stretch-fabric, Size 20 Plus to catch someone. There's tons of normal people out there beyond the horizon where it takes almost 20 of them to make one of those tons instead of just 9 or 10. Not coincidently, if you happen to turn on a TV in any of those places you'll also notice that unlike at home 3 out of 4 commercials aren't advertising some sort of food. |
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