Prayers please, silly reason

[lavaman]

In Nov, I ended a 7 year relationship. This week I finally boxed up her things and sent them to her.


It feels like my heart has been shattered into 1,000 pieces. My son and I are both crying a lot.

I ended it because in that entire time, she never introduced me to her father, although her family knew me. When my son would ask why we never went over to her house...I never knew what to say until one day I knew what I had to. Now I find that pictures we took of our time together have ended up in her dating profile. Wow does that feel good.

I would marry her tomorrow if she would just stand up and claim me. instead, I have renewed efforts to move. (she would have gone last time). This house is haunted. It feels every bit like a divorce.

anyway, prayers and good karma if you can spare it for a silly boy who is grieving over a silly girl.

sorry, I know its silly

[69mach351]

Time will work it out man. Sounds like it is for the better. Good luck.

[cop414]

Not silly at all. I went through a divorce 15 years ago, thought that I had it all, nice house in the country, mini van in the garage, good job, golden retreiver, two wonderful daughters, the American dream... then one Christmas Eve I'm hit with, "I don't love you anymore, I want a divorce" totally out of the blue.
I know that you are in a dark place right now but take it from someone who has been there, you will get out from under this and be a better person in the end.
Time really does heals all, give it time and take things one hour at a time. Use this time to heal as well as to hold your son close. Good luck to you, keep your chin up and take things slow. Good luck

[GermanyMatt]

In the long run, you'll both be better off. Find a woman who appreciates you and you'll quickly forget your ex.

[Lisa]

Did you ever understand why she didn't want you to meet her parents? That's really strange.

[rolexgiants]

Originally Posted by lavaman

In Nov, I ended a 7 year relationship. This week I finally boxed up her things and sent them to her.


It feels like my heart has been shattered into 1,000 pieces. My son and I are both crying a lot.

I ended it because in that entire time, she never introduced me to her father, although her family knew me. When my son would ask why we never went over to her house...I never knew what to say until one day I knew what I had to. Now I find that pictures we took of our time together have ended up in her dating profile. Wow does that feel good.

I would marry her tomorrow if she would just stand up and claim me. instead, I have renewed efforts to move. (she would have gone last time). This house is haunted. It feels every bit like a divorce.

anyway, prayers and good karma if you can spare it for a silly boy who is grieving over a silly girl.

sorry, I know its silly

I don't get it.... Was she embarrassed of u in some way?? 7 years not to introduce u to her family?? Maybe she was hiding something from u??

[SkyKing31]

Not a silly reason at all. I am so sorry to hear that you are going through so much pain. It's never easy, but you have a wonderful son who you can devote the extra time to. I will certainly be praying for you both. Prayer can do loads of amazing things. I know it sounds silly, but things really will get better. I will also pray that you will be able to find the inner strength to deal with this situation. Don't hesitate to message me if you ever feel like you could use someone to listen.

[Hooper]

Wow, I feel for ya. It's tough after letting someone in! Good thoughts your way my friend! Time will tell!

[Lisa]

Originally Posted by rolexgiants

I don't get it.... Was she embarrassed of u in some way?? 7 years not to introduce u to her family?? Maybe she was hiding something from u??

Families are strange. My mom's dad refused to have anything to do with any of us because Mom didn't marry the hometown boy he approved of. We never met him.

[AzPaul]

Some song lyrics that I think apply . . . .

I fell in love with a woman, but she did not fall for me
I fell in love with you baby, but you didn't fall for me
Now I'm dry as that old river and I'm dead as those old trees

Someday it's gonna rain
Someday it's gonna pour
Someday this old heart of mine is gonna fall in love once more

Someday it's gonna rain
Someday it's gonna pour
Someday this old dry river, well it won't be dry anymore


Hang in there. It gets better if you let it.

[watchf]

Take a short grief and move on to a new phase of your life. Life is formed by phases replacing and/or enriching the next you encountered since birth, that is just the way it is. Human relationship is based on emotions, emotions are abstract unlike a solid foundation of a house it can be here one day and gone the next, its a gamble many take in life and that is just the way of life.

Hang on, be strong and think of it as your next stage in life to a better life.

[psv]

I know it sucks right now but you and your boy deserves better.

[MonBK]

Sorry to hear and I know it hurts but you'll get over it and will find someone better for you and your son.

Plenty of fish in the sea................go fish.

[Lion]

I'm sorry your relationship did not work out but you do have your son to raise and love. And who knows what the future will bring...I'm sure a new lady and relationship will happen!!!

[Welshwatchman]

Originally Posted by lavaman

I would marry her tomorrow if she would just stand up and claim me.

Move on, buddy.

All you'd get is the rest of your life with someone who's not right for you.

The pain will heal if you allow it to.

[Rodentman]

It's not silly at all, but remember that time wounds all heels.

[kcmo]

Sorry to hear about your heart-break. It sounds like she didn't deserve you.

Hang in there and turn your focus to other things. Easier said than done, perhaps...but that will get easier in time.

[Grumpy Badger]

Originally Posted by MonBK

Sorry to hear and I know it hurts but you'll get over it and will find someone better for you and your son.

Plenty of fish in the sea................go fish.

The only trouble with the fishing analogy is that the deeper you trawl, the uglier they get!

[MonBK]

Originally Posted by Grumpy Badger

The only trouble with the fishing analogy is that the deeper you trawl, the uglier they get!

Then I would recommend fliefishing.

[Cru Jones]

sorry to hear about these tough times. seven years seems like a long time, but, there surely were good memories, you're a better person for it and the next one will be that much better.

Originally Posted by Grumpy Badger

The only trouble with the fishing analogy is that the deeper you trawl, the uglier they get!

Originally Posted by MonBK

Then I would recommend fliefishing.

[lavaman]

Thanks folks. Truly

[TheVTCGuy]

No apologies necessary, it hurts, I have been there (MANY MANY MANY times). The only thing I can tell you from my extensive experience is it WILL get better with time.

[MonBK]

Originally Posted by TheVTCGuy

No apologies necessary, it hurts, I have been there (MANY MANY MANY times). The only thing I can tell you from my extensive experience is it WILL get better with time.

We know Paul, just repair the leak and blow it up again.

[MichaelB_Can]

It's going to hurt . There is nothing worse than building a life with someone (you love) and have this happen . It's almost like dealing with a death . But it will get better , as they say time does heal all wounds !!
You WILL find someone that will give as much as you do . Stay Strong !


Mike B , Canada ⌚

[Beek]

Been there. At some point you can close the door on the past and move on. As hard as it was, it made me a better man. I hope that soon you can move on too and find someone who is right for you.

[skypilot]

A good and successful life is the best revenge.

[RRGHOST1]

Not a religeous person so don't do prayers. Time is a great healer.

[RRGHOST1]

Not a religeous person so don't do prayers. Time is a great healer.

[daveathall]

I'm going to go the other way from others on here, from what you say it seems like you still love her. You may not be the reason that she won't introduce you to her father, he might be the reason. If, as you say, you would marry her tomorrow, then move heaven and earth to make that come true, her father doesn't need to feature in your life. The photos you took together are still in her dating profile, seems like she misses you also. Got to be worth a go or another try, hasn't it?

[Jocke]

Originally Posted by Lisa

Did you ever understand why she didn't want you to meet her parents? That's really strange.

Maybe she not want to take him to San Quentin.

Sorry Lavaman I couldn't resist.

Just move on, you will find someone that deserve you. I wish you all luck.