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TheVTCGuy · 23 June 2018, 06:44 PM

I am trying to think of how to explain this situation without calling out a fellow (and long time) TRF member... There is a TRFer, whom I have never met, but have had a few cordial comunications with in threads. He is on the other side of the country, and like I said, we have never met or spoken or exchanged PMs directly, but I have commented on a few of his posts and visa-versa and everything has been cordial if not friendly. Now, this member kind of, well, did a nice thing for me. It’s really hard to explain without getting specific, but ... well, it was just a nice thing I appreciated; leave it at that.

Now fast forward a few months, and I obtain in my possession an item (not expensive, maybe $70 bucks) that is related to this nice thing he did; and I think it would be a cool act to give it to him. So I send him a PM asking for a shipping adress, I have a small gift to send. He replies he has no idea what I am referring to and leave him alone. I tried a couple times more, explaining I am not a weirdo (well, I am, but it has nothing to do with this gift) and this is in no way a scam, and if he was uncomfortable giving a home address maybe a PO box or work address or anything would suffice, and no I wasn’t sending it collect or anything (can you do that?

). And... Nothing

I respect someone’s desire for privacy, and I’m done trying to convince him to let me send him a small gift, I guess I’ll keep the item, or maybe give it away on here or something, and I shouldn’t get worked up, but... WTF!?

Try and do something nice for someone....

dmash · 23 June 2018, 06:54 PM

He actually responded ‘leave me alone’?

Jocke · 23 June 2018, 07:20 PM

Send it to me my friend, you have the address.

Someone is very afraid to leave their addresses of different reasons.

BTW. Congrats to your 14K post.

Dr.Brian · 23 June 2018, 07:44 PM

If he said to leave him alone, I’d respect his request and move on. People have a lot of things going on in their lives and we see only a tiny little slice of it here, and i think that the interweb is an escape from the real world for a lot of people. A blessing for some limited by illness, etc. and a curse for others whose time and energy would be best spent elsewhere.
Having said that, I’ll PM my address

Old Expat Beast · 23 June 2018, 07:47 PM

Best to keep it private. Calling him out...even just between the two of you...in public is not good.

cda555 · 23 June 2018, 07:59 PM

So strange. Maybe he forgot about his interaction with you?

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OmegaJJH · 23 June 2018, 08:34 PM

Let it go Paul.

Before I came to TRF I would never have given out my address to a 'stranger' on the internet.

TRF is pretty unique.

Huge congrats on the 14,000th post by the way!!

Abdullah71601 · 23 June 2018, 08:35 PM

I'll take it Paul. You have my address.

Let it go. This is the internet, and people have an expectation of privacy. Not everybody is willing to transcend this virtual lifestyle and make things a reality.

AzPaul · 23 June 2018, 08:53 PM

Your heart was in the right place, but think about it, Paul . . . .

Would you want you to have your address?

TheVTCGuy · 23 June 2018, 08:57 PM

You guys are all 100% correct, of course. My only option is moving on and forgetting about it. But can you understand why it kind of pissed me off? Really I was trying to do a nice (and cool) thing, if I could explain the whole situation (which I won’t) I guarantee you would all understand, and get a kick out of it. Anyway, no Adam, no names or identification and it’s over and done with.

And I knew several of you guys would be sending me your address for the free gift. So, let’s see, now I have to buy one for Jocke, Brian, Abdullah... geez, this is going to be expensive!

Nevets750 · 23 June 2018, 09:36 PM

Ok I'm new to the forum. I'll take a welcome gift

🤣

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Abdullah71601 · 23 June 2018, 09:36 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TheVTCGuy

You guys are all 100% correct, of course. My only option is moving on and forgetting about it. But can you understand why it kind of pissed me off? Really I was trying to do a nice (and cool) thing, if I could explain the whole situation (which I won’t) I guarantee you would all understand, and get a kick out of it. Anyway, no Adam, no names or identification and it’s over and done with.

And I knew several of you guys would be sending me your address for the free gift. So, let’s see, now I have to buy one for Jocke, Brian, Abdullah... geez, this is going to be expensive!

I can understand why you're surprised. But pissed off, no. It's not like he keyed your Ferrari. Context is important, and if you allow piddly things to spike your blood pressure you will have a short and uncomfortable existence.

The thing is in the mail, right?

daveathall · 23 June 2018, 09:38 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TheVTCGuy

And I knew several of you guys would be sending me your address for the free gift. So, let’s see, now I have to buy one for Jocke, Brian, Abdullah... geez, this is going to be expensive!

I never get a mention, sniff.

Jocke · 23 June 2018, 09:39 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Abdullah71601

The thing is in the mail, right?

Will you plaese leave my gift alone just like the guy who should have it from the start.

superdog · 23 June 2018, 09:52 PM

So when first telling people about the bad thing that happened you explain:

“I gave this guy from the internet my address.”

Imagine the reaction. Most people would think that the worlds dumbest move.

While a nice gesture from you Paul, most people would think we are nuts for sharing our adressses and sending people things.

dmash · 23 June 2018, 09:54 PM

I wonder, after reading this thread, if the other individual will feel embarrassed or angry?

Star Ferry · 23 June 2018, 10:01 PM

I'll use this opportunity to open the bidding for Abdullah's address, which I obtained long ago in a ruse involving shellfish and a mallet.

rodo · 23 June 2018, 10:04 PM

Hey, I’ll give you my address!!!

Abdullah71601 · 23 June 2018, 10:08 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Star Ferry

I'll use this opportunity to open the bidding for Abdullah's address, which I obtained long ago in a ruse involving shellfish and a mallet.

The missus still treasures that mallet.

crew · 23 June 2018, 10:31 PM

I had a Saudi prince contact me once who wanted my home address.
No way I said!!!
I wasn’t born yesterday.
I just gave him my bank account info and my Social Security number. Home address? Never.

OmegaJJH · 23 June 2018, 10:36 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Star Ferry

I'll use this opportunity to open the bidding for Abdullah's address, which I obtained long ago in a ruse involving shellfish and a mallet.

Just spat out my coffee!!

Brilliant

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MonBK · 23 June 2018, 11:28 PM

Don't sweat it Paul but I know exactly how you feel as the exact same thing happened to me years ago.

A member here that I've only talked to (on the forum) a couple of times and didn't know had a lenghty post about how a part on his watch was discolored and wanted it to be under warranty and that he couldn't get it.

This happened many years ago before he became a moderator and I of course felt sorry for him so that day when I went to my Ad I of course bought the part for him.

Just like you Paul I sent him a PM and asked for his address so I could send him the part.

Guess what, not even a courtesy reply!

A week later another (to me completely unknown) posted about the same part so I made the same offer to him.

He replied immediately and I sent him the part and he later started a thread thanking me.

Moral of the story, after that I stopped buying parts for ungrateful people and never approached unknowns again.

Old Geezer · 23 June 2018, 11:29 PM

I think you can rest knowing “It’s the thought that counts”. You tried and it didn’t work out. I doubt there was any ill will on the intended recipients part.

watchtabs · 23 June 2018, 11:48 PM

Don't take it personally. I would hardly give my address to someone I don't know on the internet. For all I know you could be SWATTING me (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Swatting)

You know? This is where my wife lives, kids, and of course where I stash my watches - and you know what I have!. I'd be weary.

Again, I'd be weary of anyone, even if you had 100k posts.

BUT, I'd give mine to you Paul. I don't know you, but your reputation precedes you!

SDRider · 23 June 2018, 11:49 PM

Maybe he wants to remain anonymous? Maybe he is someone who would be publicly recognizable and he doesn't want that. Just respect his privacy and leave it at that.

Abdullah71601 · 23 June 2018, 11:53 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MonBK

Don't sweat it Paul but I know exactly how you feel as the exact same thing happened to me years ago.

A member here that I've only talked to (on the forum) a couple of times and didn't know had a lenghty post about how a part on his watch was discolored and wanted it to be under warranty and that he couldn't get it.

This happened many years ago before he became a moderator and I of course felt sorry for him so that day when I went to my Ad I of course bought the part for him.

Just like you Paul I sent him a PM and asked for his address so I could send him the part.

Guess what, not even a courtesy reply!

A week later another (to me completely unknown) posted about the same part so I made the same offer to him.

He replied immediately and I sent him the part and he later started a thread thanking me.

Moral of the story, after that I stopped buying parts for ungrateful people and never approached unknowns again.

I have this discoloration on my DD40 diamond dial. It just really frets me...I am all out of sorts about it...

MonBK · 23 June 2018, 11:54 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Abdullah71601

I have this discoloration on my DD40 diamond dial. It just really frets me...I am all out of sorts about it...

I said unknowns

A new dial will be in the mail immediately.

Star Ferry · 24 June 2018, 12:00 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by OmegaJJH

Just spat out my coffee!!

Brilliant

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Yet my English friends continue to tell me that "Americans can't banter properly"

Quality banter knows no borders

Abdullah71601 · 24 June 2018, 12:03 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Star Ferry

Yet my English friends continue to tell me that "Americans can't banter properly"

Quality banter knows no borders

Banter or barter? I've been accused by English friends of the latter, but not the former.

Caduceus · 24 June 2018, 12:07 AM

I agree with those who state you should leave this alone and move on. There is not much of a reason why you should be "pissed off" from an outsider's perspective - sorry, you asked and now have responses.

In fact, if I was the guy you are speaking of, I might be a little pissed to read your post about it in the first place.

You are obviously a thoughtful guy. Give the gift to someone who feels like receiving one.

Good luck

23 June 2018, 06:44 PM	#1
TheVTCGuy Banned Join Date: Jul 2008 Real Name: Paul Location: San Diego Watch: 126619LB Posts: 21,540	OK, this really bugs me. I am trying to think of how to explain this situation without calling out a fellow (and long time) TRF member... There is a TRFer, whom I have never met, but have had a few cordial comunications with in threads. He is on the other side of the country, and like I said, we have never met or spoken or exchanged PMs directly, but I have commented on a few of his posts and visa-versa and everything has been cordial if not friendly. Now, this member kind of, well, did a nice thing for me. It’s really hard to explain without getting specific, but ... well, it was just a nice thing I appreciated; leave it at that. Now fast forward a few months, and I obtain in my possession an item (not expensive, maybe $70 bucks) that is related to this nice thing he did; and I think it would be a cool act to give it to him. So I send him a PM asking for a shipping adress, I have a small gift to send. He replies he has no idea what I am referring to and leave him alone. I tried a couple times more, explaining I am not a weirdo (well, I am, but it has nothing to do with this gift) and this is in no way a scam, and if he was uncomfortable giving a home address maybe a PO box or work address or anything would suffice, and no I wasn’t sending it collect or anything (can you do that? ). And... Nothing I respect someone’s desire for privacy, and I’m done trying to convince him to let me send him a small gift, I guess I’ll keep the item, or maybe give it away on here or something, and I shouldn’t get worked up, but... WTF!? Try and do something nice for someone....

23 June 2018, 07:20 PM	#3
Jocke 2024 SubLV41 Pledge Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Real Name: Jocke Location: Sweden Watch: A dozen of Rolex's Posts: 22,541	Send it to me my friend, you have the address. Someone is very afraid to leave their addresses of different reasons. BTW. Congrats to your 14K post. __________________ This message is written in perfect swenglish. What is best a custom Rolex or a Rolex that is stuck in custom? Buy a professional camera and you´re a professional photographer, buy a flute and you own a flute.

23 June 2018, 07:44 PM	#4
Dr.Brian 2024 SubLV41 Pledge Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Real Name: Brian Location: CA dreamin' Watch: ing the market. Posts: 5,906	If he said to leave him alone, I’d respect his request and move on. People have a lot of things going on in their lives and we see only a tiny little slice of it here, and i think that the interweb is an escape from the real world for a lot of people. A blessing for some limited by illness, etc. and a curse for others whose time and energy would be best spent elsewhere. Having said that, I’ll PM my address __________________ -Brian AUDENTES FORTUNA IUVAT 十人十色

23 June 2018, 07:47 PM	#5
Old Expat Beast TRF Moderator & 2024 SubLV41 Patron Join Date: Jul 2013 Real Name: Adam Location: Far East Watch: Golden Tuna Posts: 28,826	Best to keep it private. Calling him out...even just between the two of you...in public is not good. __________________ _______________________

23 June 2018, 08:53 PM	#9
AzPaul 2024 ROLEX SUBMARINER 41 Pledge Member Join Date: May 2012 Real Name: Paul Location: Tucson, Az Watch: Rolex 1501 Posts: 13,901	Your heart was in the right place, but think about it, Paul . . . . Would you want you to have your address? __________________ Ain't much of a crime, whacking a surly bartender

23 June 2018, 06:54 PM	#2
dmash Member Join Date: Feb 2017 Location: USA <> BKK Posts: 6,160	He actually responded ‘leave me alone’?

23 June 2018, 07:59 PM	#6
cda555 "TRF" Member Join Date: May 2016 Location: USA Watch: 126610LV and SMP Posts: 1,645	So strange. Maybe he forgot about his interaction with you? Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

23 June 2018, 08:34 PM	#7
OmegaJJH "TRF" Member Join Date: May 2013 Real Name: James Location: UK Watch: Rolex & Omega Posts: 6,668	Let it go Paul. Before I came to TRF I would never have given out my address to a 'stranger' on the internet. TRF is pretty unique. Huge congrats on the 14,000th post by the way!!

23 June 2018, 08:35 PM	#8
Abdullah71601 Banned Join Date: Aug 2014 Location: Calumet Harbor Watch: ing da Bears Posts: 13,568	I'll take it Paul. You have my address. Let it go. This is the internet, and people have an expectation of privacy. Not everybody is willing to transcend this virtual lifestyle and make things a reality.

23 June 2018, 08:57 PM	#10
TheVTCGuy Banned Join Date: Jul 2008 Real Name: Paul Location: San Diego Watch: 126619LB Posts: 21,540	You guys are all 100% correct, of course. My only option is moving on and forgetting about it. But can you understand why it kind of pissed me off? Really I was trying to do a nice (and cool) thing, if I could explain the whole situation (which I won’t) I guarantee you would all understand, and get a kick out of it. Anyway, no Adam, no names or identification and it’s over and done with. And I knew several of you guys would be sending me your address for the free gift. So, let’s see, now I have to buy one for Jocke, Brian, Abdullah... geez, this is going to be expensive!

23 June 2018, 09:36 PM	#11
Nevets750 "TRF" Member Join Date: May 2018 Location: Detroit Posts: 6	Ok I'm new to the forum. I'll take a welcome gift🤣 Sent from my Moto Z (2) using Tapatalk

23 June 2018, 09:52 PM	#15
superdog 2024 Pledge Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Real Name: Seth Location: nj Watch: Omega Posts: 24,834	So when first telling people about the bad thing that happened you explain: “I gave this guy from the internet my address.” Imagine the reaction. Most people would think that the worlds dumbest move. While a nice gesture from you Paul, most people would think we are nuts for sharing our adressses and sending people things. __________________ If happiness is a state of mind, why look anywhere else for it? IG: gsmotorclub IG: thesawcollection (Both mostly just car stuff)

23 June 2018, 09:54 PM	#16
dmash Member Join Date: Feb 2017 Location: USA <> BKK Posts: 6,160	I wonder, after reading this thread, if the other individual will feel embarrassed or angry?

23 June 2018, 10:01 PM	#17
Star Ferry Banned Join Date: Aug 2015 Location: down by the river Posts: 4,926	I'll use this opportunity to open the bidding for Abdullah's address, which I obtained long ago in a ruse involving shellfish and a mallet.

23 June 2018, 10:04 PM	#18
rodo "TRF" Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Toronto Posts: 640	Hey, I’ll give you my address!!!

23 June 2018, 10:31 PM	#20
crew "TRF" Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Real Name: John Location: Rochester/Naples Watch: Pepsi Posts: 18,307	I had a Saudi prince contact me once who wanted my home address. No way I said!!! I wasn’t born yesterday. I just gave him my bank account info and my Social Security number. Home address? Never.

23 June 2018, 11:28 PM	#22
MonBK Banned Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Kingstown Posts: 58,279	Don't sweat it Paul but I know exactly how you feel as the exact same thing happened to me years ago. A member here that I've only talked to (on the forum) a couple of times and didn't know had a lenghty post about how a part on his watch was discolored and wanted it to be under warranty and that he couldn't get it. This happened many years ago before he became a moderator and I of course felt sorry for him so that day when I went to my Ad I of course bought the part for him. Just like you Paul I sent him a PM and asked for his address so I could send him the part. Guess what, not even a courtesy reply! A week later another (to me completely unknown) posted about the same part so I made the same offer to him. He replied immediately and I sent him the part and he later started a thread thanking me. Moral of the story, after that I stopped buying parts for ungrateful people and never approached unknowns again.

23 June 2018, 11:29 PM	#23
Old Geezer "TRF" Member Join Date: May 2015 Location: South Carolina Posts: 5,287	I think you can rest knowing “It’s the thought that counts”. You tried and it didn’t work out. I doubt there was any ill will on the intended recipients part.

23 June 2018, 11:48 PM	#24
watchtabs "TRF" Member Join Date: Nov 2015 Real Name: Charlie Location: Miami Posts: 1,534	Don't take it personally. I would hardly give my address to someone I don't know on the internet. For all I know you could be SWATTING me (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Swatting) You know? This is where my wife lives, kids, and of course where I stash my watches - and you know what I have!. I'd be weary. Again, I'd be weary of anyone, even if you had 100k posts. BUT, I'd give mine to you Paul. I don't know you, but your reputation precedes you! __________________ I have all the grails I could ever want, but the hunt will always continue .

23 June 2018, 11:49 PM	#25
SDRider Banned Join Date: May 2017 Real Name: Julian Location: San Diego, CA Watch: Rolex 116613LB Posts: 1,908	Maybe he wants to remain anonymous? Maybe he is someone who would be publicly recognizable and he doesn't want that. Just respect his privacy and leave it at that.

24 June 2018, 12:07 AM	#30
Caduceus 2024 Pledge Member Join Date: Jan 2015 Location: California Watch: A collection Posts: 105	I agree with those who state you should leave this alone and move on. There is not much of a reason why you should be "pissed off" from an outsider's perspective - sorry, you asked and now have responses. In fact, if I was the guy you are speaking of, I might be a little pissed to read your post about it in the first place. You are obviously a thoughtful guy. Give the gift to someone who feels like receiving one. Good luck __________________ 116710BLNR 116610LN 116100GV Z-BLUE Seamaster PO 42mm (Orange)

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