Is there truth about first love never dies?

[elgatonegro]

Is there truth about first love never dies?


Is it because he's/she's the 1st person to hurt you?



What can you say about this guys/gals?

[Jimbits76]

I can't answer that effectively due to strange circumstances.

My first love hurt like hell. I was dumb enough to go back to her almost 10 years later, more out of a combination of her emotional circumstances, unfinished business and general comfort of the thought that I knew who her background/family etc.

It was an absolute nightmare. We were together about two years and we tore each other up, always fighting and rowing. We split up, I met my future wife and that was that.

We have never speaken since, very, very rarely even seeing each other by accident in the street etc.

I might sometimes think about her and wonder if she's okay or well but I'm not that bothered.

I'm with somebody now who I care about 100x more than I did for my first (and last) girlfriend.

J

[jdc]

Love is a great and wonderful experience, been there many times since first love, all good, although one ended in divorce which was the right thing for both of us. Since meeting Rosemary 22 years ago though have not looked back.
No doubt that a meeting an old flame brings a jump to the heart, but I never like to live in past and and more than happy with my choices in life.

[2careless]

Sometimes I do wonder how my first gf would be after all these years... That's a thought for like 5 seconds

[Mosco]

I have had many 'first love' situations - or so I thought. After a while, I realized that it was lust, not love. Sometimes it would drag on for couple years, but then inevitably end, either disastrously, or somewhat amicably. Now I am realizing that Erin, my wife, is indeed my first true love, and here we are. Oddly, it started exactly the same as most other ones (with me wanting to 'tap that' ) and then grew, rapidly at that. Hopefully I won't screw it up and we will stay together - if not, I will provide better insight into your question.

[Lion]

I have every so often thought about my first love from high school years but then I remember the break up. My curiosity does make me wonder what she looks like today, how many children she has and whether she has found happiness. If we were both divorced and met up again would I give it another chance, No!!!

[Taffi Abernathy]

Not necessarily. I think this is a highly individualized experience. To begin with, people tend to be very young (and often immature) when they encounter their first love. Two people can simply grow apart, mutually and painlessly. Another plausible explanation is that one may have initiated the break-up, and experienced relief as opposed to pain when the relationship terminated. Still another possibility is that people may have felt hurt at that time of the break-up, but were able to move past the pain. Time, meeting another desirable person, processing residual feelings and moving on, all contribute to mitigating the hurt of broken attachments.

Nonetheless, for some their first relationship is particularly salient because it is novel, a first experience with "romantic love." Nothing is unhealthy about feeling positively about a former love. The real questions becomes: Do you feel "stuck?" By this I mean ruminating about a person who has been long gone, and with whom you have had no contact for a significant amount of time? Do you feel that you retain such deep feelings for this person that you are prevented from moving on to a new relationship? If so, professional help may be warranted. If you wish to read some potentially helpful books, I recommend these two - "A New Guide to Rational Living" by Albert Ellis and "How to Fall Out of Love" by Debora Phillips. Best Wishes.

[Lisa]

Wasn't true for me. I had about 3 serious relationships before marrying, and not one of the guys do I still care or think much about.

[vapalux]

Yep. Hurt like heck. Against all odds by Phil Collins was in the charts at the time which didn't help!

Moved on quickly and found another the same!

This was getting to be hard work and then I found my partner of 21 years and counting and she is absolutely wonderful! I think the world of her!

Si

[ratae1950]

Originally Posted by elgatonegro

Is there truth about first love never dies?


Is it because he's/she's the 1st person to hurt you?



What can you say about this guys/gals?

I sometimes think of my first real intimate relationship which I ended [in Paris]. I still feel guilt about hurting that person. I left her for someone else with whom I endured a miserable marriage- my kharma. However, that marriage resulted in us having three great children. [the 3 times we had sex ]-my kharma. I have to admit to every year or so Googling my 'young' love who is a successful classical musician in Italy and not so young any more. I am now very happily remarried to another musical person.........

[Carolina]

I personally don't think it is true, just as I don't think there is only one person for each of us.

[jdc]

Originally Posted by Carolina

I personally don't think it is true, just as I don't think there is only one person for each of us.

Colin Firth, Craig Daniel Peter Gabriel?

[Trurolexer]

Not work for me, sorry...

[Carolina]

Originally Posted by jdc

Colin Firth, Craig Daniel Peter Gabriel?

I meant one person at a time, Martin!

[Ashley]

I have been very lucky with my first true love. Almost four years later and we get closer each and every day!
Also, I agree with an earlier post, what I thought might be love earlier in my life was simply excitement for me. None of them worked out or lasted long, and good riddance! To be cheeeeesy, I thought I knew what love was until I actually fell in love!

[jdc]

Originally Posted by Carolina

I meant one person at a time, Martin!

I am sure they would form an orderly queue

[Bebot]

Don't even remember where or when or who my first love was.

Hmmmm.... Now that you asked, trying to think.

Still don't remember.

[Carolina]

Originally Posted by jdc

I am sure they would form an orderly queue

Yes, but then there might be fighting, which is so very uncivilized.

[erwin]

Yes, she is still in my heart after so many others and all these years!

[Jimbits76]

Originally Posted by Carolina

Yes, but then there might be fighting, which is so very uncivilized.

They are British my dear.

We don't go in for that kind of thing and f there is one thing us Brits do well, it is queue.

J

[Welshwatchman]

I married mine. We were both very young getting married and doing the house/family bit.

[redshirt1957]

Originally Posted by Welshwatchman

I married mine. We were both very young getting married and doing the house/family bit.

Now that put a stop to my stupid post.

[Carolina]

Originally Posted by Welshwatchman

I married mine. We were both very young getting married and doing the house/family bit.

I just love a happy ending!!

[Carolina]

Originally Posted by redshirt1957

Now that put a stop to my stupid post.

But your stupid posts always make me smile!

[Carolina]

Originally Posted by Jimbits76

They are British my dear.

We don't go in for that kind of thing and f there is one thing us Brits do well, it is queue.

J

I guess I am just too American...

[elgatonegro]

So how do you know that you have fallen in love? Of course things look rainbow colored from that moment but friends let’s just get sure.

You know you have fallen in love with her/him when...

- You see stars in the morning! No, you haven’t banged your head but feeling the compulsion of love. Your life stops and all you can think of is her/him. You don’t seem to get anything done and every moment your sweetheart’s face comes in front of you.

- You start missing your love like you haven’t seen her in ages, when actually you just said goodbye.

- Your sweetheart is flawless. You overlook all her faults and weaknesses. You believe true love can overcome all. This is love at first sight.

- You can’t stop smiling when your beloved is around. You are all happy and joyful. But as soon as he/she leaves, your world collapses in front of you. You become sad and depressed.

- You are not a very compromising person but your sweetheart had changed you completely. Now you are more flexible and a wonderfully understanding person.


Sounds very filmy but it actually happens- Love at first sight. Perhaps the most romantic thing that can happen to anyone is losing heart and singleton status within a matter of a few seconds. Love is a very strong emotion; beyond human control. In a crowded bus, while walking on a road or seeing a beautiful face from across the room...Love at first sight can happen anywhere and the Eros can strike your heart with fiery passions without knocking the doors. If you have felt this strong emotion, you are a lucky guy! Embrace it and trust us, you gonna love every second of it.

[diablojota]

I still care about my first love. And even over time we'd keep in touch and the like. But she got married and her husband won't let her talk to me anymore. Which is too bad since she was always the one I turned to when I needed female advice or a pick-me-up. I wonder how she is doing.

Now when I was an undergrad, I dated this girl who I still haven't really ever gotten over. She was amazing and I was a complete and utter dolt. Worked out for the best that we didn't end up together, it was because that relationship ended that I am who I am now and I think it's a much better me.

[Oscar]

Originally Posted by elgatonegro

Is there truth about first love never dies?


Is it because he's/she's the 1st person to hurt you?



What can you say about this guys/gals?

Just my 2c worth here. I met my first 'true love' when I was 19 years old. 30 years later I am still with her and still love her dearly. My wife has become part of me.

[Oscar]

Originally Posted by redshirt1957

Now that put a stop to my stupid post.

Come on Joe..........at least admit to the whole TRF fraternity that deep down you're a real softie. Bit like a melting snow cone that needs a damn good licking...........

[txbikerdude]

ill never forget her.... Melissa.....