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Silvio Mosiello · 11 October 2011, 10:55 AM

So I know a lot of these guys at this place I go to and they all love to party.Which is fine. I think all of them are married with kids. Now they all tell me stories all the time of how they do stuff with other girls like every other weekend.Which It is none of my business to comment on since that is those are their choices. The only thing that keeps bugging me is the fact when they talk about how much they love their kids and would do anything in the world for them. I don't think they understand the fact that If their wives ever find out that their husbands cheat on them and their kids see their mother crying like crazy over it and possibly file for divorce. Wont that forever change the child's view of their father.

East Bay Rider · 11 October 2011, 10:59 AM

Absolutely.

brkanand · 11 October 2011, 11:01 AM

Yes. It does. World has a good mix of people with differing views and attitude. God bless them too! Come on... Let us move on!

matt4hand · 11 October 2011, 11:02 AM

Yeah,

I've seen it with a neighbor. It was not pretty when he got busted. My wife would come after me with a butcher knife!

Silvio Mosiello · 11 October 2011, 11:15 AM

Thanks for your responses people

BarkMaster · 11 October 2011, 11:15 AM

Not an option: I am married to an attorney.

Brunotheboxer · 11 October 2011, 11:18 AM

Not an option. I am married to a woman that knows how to fight and use a knife. She sleeps with me and a blade.

BarkMaster · 11 October 2011, 11:22 AM

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Originally Posted by Brunotheboxer

Not an option. I am married to a woman that knows how to fight and use a knife. She sleeps with me and a blade.

aka "Elana"?

Brunotheboxer · 11 October 2011, 11:26 AM

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Originally Posted by BarkMaster

aka "Elana"?

Wooosh.

That went right over my head.

FeelingTheBlues · 11 October 2011, 11:32 AM

It's too bad being loyal to somebody seems to become less important these days. I hope those guys' children won't suffer too much if their dads get busted...

This being said, not an option for me neither! I love my girlfriend and am more than loyal to her!

Widows Son · 11 October 2011, 11:34 AM

It goes both ways. I know of at least three of my male friends who have been on the receiving end of cheating. Two are, and the third is in the process of divorce.

BarkMaster · 11 October 2011, 11:55 AM

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Originally Posted by Brunotheboxer

Wooosh.

That went right over my head.

Elana Bobbitt (Google it

)

Lisa · 11 October 2011, 12:09 PM

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Originally Posted by BarkMaster

Elana Bobbitt (Google it

)

That would be Lorena.

No biggie; you just shortened it a little. Oops.

Saxon007 · 11 October 2011, 12:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Lisa

That would be Lorena.

No biggie; you just shortened it a little. Oops.

I just cringed a little.

Lisa · 11 October 2011, 12:19 PM

Seriously, though - I understand what you're saying. Anyone who cheats risks hurting their children, whether they end up divorced or not.

jasonclark · 11 October 2011, 12:21 PM

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Originally Posted by FeelingTheBlues

It's too bad being loyal to somebody seems to become less important these days.

Seriously. Divorce is becoming the norm.

Lisa · 11 October 2011, 12:27 PM

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Originally Posted by jasonclark

Seriously. Divorce is becoming the norm.

So is cheating, it seems. I know way too many couples who either divorced because of cheating or who endure it in a loveless marriage. Come to think of it, I know more people like that than I do couples who are happily married.

Boopie · 11 October 2011, 02:11 PM

You are right. If you want to be a player, stay single. Marriage is commitment.

That being said...we know a friend whose wife absolutely refuses to be intimate. There are no medical issues on either end. If the husband does not want to divorce her, and still loves her, what should he do? Just "go without," so to speak, for the rest of his life?

Route 66 · 11 October 2011, 03:20 PM

I understand it goes on but I don't understand why they'd brag about it.

Timber Loftis · 11 October 2011, 06:40 PM

Men cheating are already on the losing end of any sort of custody concern if they are caught and divorced. Being brazen about it just makes them F'n idiots. I try not to hang out with F'n idiots. I know it cannot be avoided sometimes, but generally speaking, avoid F'n idiots if you can.

I tried real hard to sew my wild oats back in the day. I wanted to make sure that when I met that someone, it was the one, the only one. So far, I'm happy. I do have friends who do otherwise -- I try to comprehend them, but frankly cannot.

bayerische · 11 October 2011, 06:48 PM

I used to do that to my ex girlfriends all the time when I was young and stupid, say 20 Years old.

Nowadays I'm grown up, and learnt that the grass isn't greener on the other side of the fence.

Bragging about cheating isn't exactly smart nor does it have any class at all.

Silvio Mosiello · 11 October 2011, 06:54 PM

Thanks for your responses guys keep the coming!

Java · 11 October 2011, 07:00 PM

I am very cautious about people like that.

If that is how they treat the people they love most, what hope has anyone else.

They are just plain dishonorable.

Timber Loftis · 11 October 2011, 07:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Java

They are just plain dishonorable.

I don't know that it's that simple. Sometimes they can't help themselves. Maybe it's predisposition, I don't know.

Look, for me it's real simple. I got one gorgeous lady, and I don't need or want the others. It's almost Darwinian selfishness.

I think that any healthy couple would address this amongst themselves. You want to be swingers at the key party? Great, who cares. But marriage is a thing of mutuality, and on all things you both got to agree. Otherwise it's not really a marriage.

But for some people their predisposition is to hide or cheat. Do you want to know those people? Wait, let me rephrase that... do YOU want to know those people? Sometimes growing up is about shutting off people and closing your boundaries.

xjeeunitx · 11 October 2011, 07:49 PM

If there are any issues within a marriage, they need to talk it out. That's why we were born with enough intelligence to talk it out. Get divorced then do whatever you want to do. Until then, do the right thing.

rajurama · 11 October 2011, 08:34 PM

There are men and women who cheat. People assume this kind of behaviour is 'Male' defect but its equally seen in females, its just that females keep their affairs very discreet.
Most of the times there really arent any issues between couples it happens just because they could and the element of risque gives them a high.

masterserg · 11 October 2011, 10:02 PM

So is the state of the world today ... no character, no values.

GothamG8or · 11 October 2011, 10:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Java

I am very cautious about people like that.

If that is how they treat the people they love most, what hope has anyone else.

They are just plain dishonorable.

Bingo! Dishonorable, no character, no values, call it whatever you like. You chose to make the committment. If you no longer want to keep that committment and would rather be someone else, then don't run around behind your spouse's back like a coward... get a divorce... or preferably grow up and honor yoru committment.

Java · 11 October 2011, 10:57 PM

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Originally Posted by GothamG8or

Bingo! Dishonorable, no character, no values, call it whatever you like. You chose to make the committment. If you no longer want to keep that committment and would rather be someone else, then don't run around behind your spouse's back like a coward... get a divorce... or preferably grow up and honor yoru committment.

X2

I have also, in the past, be the other side of it and know how it feels, especially to be the last to know.

Some guys need to learn, how ever many times you manage to hit someone else, doesn't hurt any less when they hit you.

Dilemma · 11 October 2011, 11:01 PM

While I agree with the OP, does anyone really think this is new behaviour? Really?

11 October 2011, 10:55 AM	#1
Silvio Mosiello "TRF" Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Real Name: Matthew Location: Miami/NY Watch: the shoes. Posts: 3,482	Definition of Hypocrite So I know a lot of these guys at this place I go to and they all love to party.Which is fine. I think all of them are married with kids. Now they all tell me stories all the time of how they do stuff with other girls like every other weekend.Which It is none of my business to comment on since that is those are their choices. The only thing that keeps bugging me is the fact when they talk about how much they love their kids and would do anything in the world for them. I don't think they understand the fact that If their wives ever find out that their husbands cheat on them and their kids see their mother crying like crazy over it and possibly file for divorce. Wont that forever change the child's view of their father.

11 October 2011, 10:59 AM	#2
East Bay Rider "TRF" Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Real Name: Bill Location: East Bay RI Watch: GMT-II 16710LN Posts: 12,073	Absolutely. __________________ I bought a cheap watch from the crazy man Floating down canal It doesn't use numbers or moving hands It always just says "now" Now you may be thinking that I was had But this watch is never wrong And if I have trouble the warranty said Breathe In, Breathe Out, Move On J. Buffett Instagram: eastbayrider46

11 October 2011, 11:15 AM	#6
BarkMaster "TRF" Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Texas Watch: 18078 YG DD Posts: 7,962	Not an option: I am married to an attorney. __________________ BARK BARK BARK BARK BARK BARK BARK BARK BARK BARK BARK BARK

11 October 2011, 11:32 AM	#10
FeelingTheBlues "TRF" Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Real Name: Carl Location: Always moving Watch: If you wish... Posts: 22,039	It's too bad being loyal to somebody seems to become less important these days. I hope those guys' children won't suffer too much if their dads get busted... This being said, not an option for me neither! I love my girlfriend and am more than loyal to her! __________________ Mon corps c'est un pays en guerre sur l'point d'finir, Le général de l'armée de terre s'attend au pire, J'ai faim, j'ai frette, je suis trop faible pour me lever debout, On va hisser le drapeau blanc un point c'est tout. - André Fortin

11 October 2011, 06:48 PM	#21
bayerische "TRF" Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Real Name: Andreas Location: Margaritaville Watch: Smurf Posts: 19,879	I used to do that to my ex girlfriends all the time when I was young and stupid, say 20 Years old. Nowadays I'm grown up, and learnt that the grass isn't greener on the other side of the fence. Bragging about cheating isn't exactly smart nor does it have any class at all. __________________ Yeah, well, you know, that's just, like, your opinion, man.

11 October 2011, 11:01 AM	#3
brkanand 2024 Pledge Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Real Name: DrK Location: India Watch: 4=YMDaytonaGMTHulk Posts: 7,052	Yes. It does. World has a good mix of people with differing views and attitude. God bless them too! Come on... Let us move on!

11 October 2011, 11:02 AM	#4
matt4hand Banned Join Date: Jan 2011 Real Name: Matt Location: Atlanta Watch: Tramp Posts: 2,369	Yeah, I've seen it with a neighbor. It was not pretty when he got busted. My wife would come after me with a butcher knife!

11 October 2011, 11:18 AM	#7
Brunotheboxer Banned Join Date: Mar 2008 Real Name: Bruno Location: Boston/Cape Cod Watch: 16610,PAM. 111, G Posts: 7,608	Not an option. I am married to a woman that knows how to fight and use a knife. She sleeps with me and a blade.

11 October 2011, 11:34 AM	#11
Widows Son "TRF" Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Hudson Ohio Posts: 3,564	It goes both ways. I know of at least three of my male friends who have been on the receiving end of cheating. Two are, and the third is in the process of divorce.

11 October 2011, 12:19 PM	#15
Lisa "TRF" Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: oklahoma city Posts: 15,741	Seriously, though - I understand what you're saying. Anyone who cheats risks hurting their children, whether they end up divorced or not.

11 October 2011, 02:11 PM	#18
Boopie "TRF" Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Beverly Hills, CA Watch: Yachtmaster Posts: 3,952	You are right. If you want to be a player, stay single. Marriage is commitment. That being said...we know a friend whose wife absolutely refuses to be intimate. There are no medical issues on either end. If the husband does not want to divorce her, and still loves her, what should he do? Just "go without," so to speak, for the rest of his life?

11 October 2011, 03:20 PM	#19
Route 66 "TRF" Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Real Name: Steve Location: Burbank, CA Watch: 214270 Mark II Posts: 4,121	I understand it goes on but I don't understand why they'd brag about it.

11 October 2011, 06:40 PM	#20
Timber Loftis "TRF" Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Real Name: Jon Location: Chicago Watch: IIc,DJII,P244,A1-Z Posts: 2,857	Men cheating are already on the losing end of any sort of custody concern if they are caught and divorced. Being brazen about it just makes them F'n idiots. I try not to hang out with F'n idiots. I know it cannot be avoided sometimes, but generally speaking, avoid F'n idiots if you can. I tried real hard to sew my wild oats back in the day. I wanted to make sure that when I met that someone, it was the one, the only one. So far, I'm happy. I do have friends who do otherwise -- I try to comprehend them, but frankly cannot.

11 October 2011, 06:54 PM	#22
Silvio Mosiello "TRF" Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Real Name: Matthew Location: Miami/NY Watch: the shoes. Posts: 3,482	Thanks for your responses guys keep the coming!

11 October 2011, 07:00 PM	#23
Java "TRF" Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Real Name: Tim Location: Bangkok Watch: Lots Posts: 521	I am very cautious about people like that. If that is how they treat the people they love most, what hope has anyone else. They are just plain dishonorable. __________________ You don't buy a great watch to tell the time, any more than you would buy a fast car because you're in a hurry.

11 October 2011, 07:49 PM	#25
xjeeunitx 2024 Pledge Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 5,533	If there are any issues within a marriage, they need to talk it out. That's why we were born with enough intelligence to talk it out. Get divorced then do whatever you want to do. Until then, do the right thing.

11 October 2011, 08:34 PM	#26
rajurama "TRF" Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Real Name: Rick Location: Wakanda Watch: amacallit Posts: 2,090	There are men and women who cheat. People assume this kind of behaviour is 'Male' defect but its equally seen in females, its just that females keep their affairs very discreet. Most of the times there really arent any issues between couples it happens just because they could and the element of risque gives them a high. __________________ रोलेक्स

11 October 2011, 10:02 PM	#27
masterserg "TRF" Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Real Name: Serg Location: US of A Watch: AP Posts: 7,437	So is the state of the world today ... no character, no values. __________________ How can you have any pudding if you don't eat yer meat????

11 October 2011, 11:01 PM	#30
Dilemma "TRF" Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Minnesota Posts: 1,170	While I agree with the OP, does anyone really think this is new behaviour? Really?

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